20 Days Till Christmas and Engagement

[angiety2k]

Ladies, I am 20 turning 21 in May. BF is 22.Been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. Lived together 2 years going on three. Moving forward with a engagement. Started looking for a ring about two months ago, bought one last month and it took one month to be finished! The rings came in yesterday...and I couldn''t help myself!! He bought them online so I never had a chance to see the and hold them

. But he did let me look and put them on last night! They don''t even look like the pictures! The bands are so dainty!(exactly want I wanted)And the center diamond sits up so HIGH! Now I have to wait for the proposal and I don''t know if I can wait any longer.

Now for the scary part. My parents dislike my boyfriend. I never use to stick up for him and tell them how much I Love Him. I don''t really like to show my emotions. But now I have stick up for my man. Any advise?? I am scared they will ruin my happiness on Christmas. I dont know when he will ask but we decided to announce it xmas eve or xmas day.

 

[FUTUREmrsH]

Very pretty rings...congrats!! On the parents issue.......you love who makes you happy, and if your happy they need to respect that and be happy for you too. Maybe ask what it is they dont like about him?? They could have misconceptions about him that you dont know about and need to be cleared up before annoucing your engagement. Sometimes parents can get the wrong impression without even knowing the person completely. They might be just judging him on what they think because you never stuck up for him. Talk to them..clear things up..then hopefully your engagement annoucement will be even better!!!

Good luck!

 

[MissErin]

Oh my... What a predicament.

The only advice I can say is to really start conveying your love for your boyfriend to your parents.

Parents love you unconditionally.

Yes...They may be angry, and not understand at first, but hopefully things will get easier with time.

I also think it would be wise to really make an effort to bring him to family functions and get the relationship with your bf and family to develop. This may just be what is needed.

And if things get hard, you know in your heart what is best. Not to mention you can ALWAYS come here.

I wish you the best. Keep us updated!!

 

[EricaR]

Do they have specific reasons for not liking him? Maybe you could just address those.

For example, if they don''t like how he treats you tell them stories about times when he has treated you as a princess.

 

[emilina22]

i have a friend who is the smae situation as you ...except...well theres no way shes getting engaged anytime soon...thats a whole different story, but regarding the parent thing, shes in the same place, so i''m familiar with your situation

i think you should tell your parents how you feel, tell them that hes treating you the right way, and that you two are happy together, he makes you happy, and that this is a decision that you guys thought about long and hard and its what works best for you. i would advise that you talk to them before the whole engagement announcement because it would suck for your parents to have a not so nice reaction to your engagement. just prep them for it. you guys are adults don''t be afraid of your parents, and what they think. your their daughter and they will love you and learn to accept what makes you happy.

if they are against you getting married young (im 20 too, so i get that a lot, not so much from my parents but from other people, so its not uncommon.) explain to them that you guys have made this decision together and are ready for that commitment. it will all be ok, but you need to talk to your parents and get on the same page. and if they still dont listen, that doesn''t necessarily mean that you cant go on with your plans, its your life not theirs, they had their time and now its yours. i just think its a good idea to get them to recognize whats happening in your life, and that now is the time for them to bring up any objections, and if there are non, and they still are against it than its some what their issue.

i hope this wasnt too long of a post and that it made sense, good luck!