23 days away.....and nervous......

[kellybelly]

my wedding is fast approaching and i''m starting to get nervous. it''s not about anything specific, just about the whole thing in general. what if something goes wrong? what if there is a crisis? and what if we get married and something goes wrong? what if we can''t get along? maybe i am cooking up all these crazy fears in my head?

anyone else start to get anxious once it gets really close to your wedding day?

 

[Dreamgirl]

Awwww. I''m sorry that is happening to you. I can relate as I worry about everything all the time. Just try to remind yourself that EVERYTHING will be fine. And try to breathe.....

 

[missismene]

i''ve been anxious about getting married since before i got engaged. i think it is probably normal, plus i am a little on the anxious side. but it is a huge decision and of course you will be a little worried.
hope you feel better.

 

[tlh]

Those jitters are NORMAL. All that stress leads to a flushed face = blushing bride... at least that is what I tell myself. But, this is where all that crazy, I''ve got to fit into my dress crazy workout help. It is a great stress reliever.

HUGS! Your day will be great!

 

[bee*]

Don''t be nervous! It''s such an exciting time! Nothing will go wrong and if it does, sure what can you do. The most important thing will be the marriage that day!

 

[tropiqalkiwi]

Those feelings are totally normal, just don''t ignore them.

Really think about why you are feeling each - i.e. if you are worried about something going wrong at your reception maybe its really because you think you will be letting someone down. Then think about that piece, like for the previous instance, know that everyone coming to your wedding is there to support you, not judge you.

I also found it helpful to read some books written about brides who have uncertainties about the process, I found this book in particular to be humorous and nicely introspective. I do but I don''t

If you have time, try going to your library and finding some biographical/fictional stories to help you clarify your worries. (I like going through amazon to find books I might like then borrowing them from the library.)

Also, don''t be afraid to talk your worries out with your FI, or other friends you trust. Sometimes it can be helpful to simply say things out loud.

 

[marchswallowbird]

If something goes wrong at the wedding, it goes wrong. But there''s no use worrying about it beforehand. IF there is a crisis, you will deal with it. You will drive yourself NUTS if you fret and worry about "what if"s that may never happen. Plan, plan, plan the best you can, try to think of everything, and then let go and go with the flow. Not everything will be perfect, but usually nobody will notice and you will have a fabulous day.

With regards to your worries about what if something happens AFTER the wedding with FI (like you don''t get along or whatever), you might want to read some of those "how to make a marriage work" types of books. They truly do have valuable insights. And realize that there will be times when you WON''T get along. Just make sure you can communicate well enough to work thru it.

 

[mayachel]

Aww KellyBelly, you have good reason to be nervous! You have been working really hard on putting all of this together, and care a lot about how it will all work out. That being said, try to keep in perspective what is really worth your energy to worry about.

DF and I had our first fight since our engagement last night. For the first time in years, I was feeling anxious that he was going to change his mind about the whole marriage thing. I woke up by 5am and made him get up with me to continue hashing it out. Once I voiced my fear, he was quick to resolve it. We even got at least 30 minutes more of sleep before the alarm. Good luck!