A bad reaction to a GREAT present !?!?

[LoveRoundBrillants]

Hey guys! I feel really bad and am now wondering how much I am obsessing over this ring. So it was my birthday a few weeks ago, and my BF and I went out to dinner, had an awesome time, and then went back to this place for cake. After everything was said and done he pulled out my present which i knew wasnt gonna be a proposal of any sort! A few weeks before my b-day he asked me what i wanted and i told him whatever it was dont spend too much. Well anyways he ended up getting this awesome gorgeous Coach bag. Now don''t get me wrong its sooooo nice, but all i could think was he could of put this money towards my ring fund

That is an obsessive thought...isn''t it. I should probably just be happy that he got me such a nice gift and appreciate it!

 

[Bia]

I guess he could have put the money towards your ring fund...but maybe he already is, AND he got you a great bag!

BTW: What are the stats on your engagement? Have you already discussed it happening in the near future?

 

[SailorsSweet<3]

Im saying the same thing to my SO as far as holiday gifts and plane tickets go. But, I know hes going to get me something anyway because he''d feel bad if he didnt. A plane ticket to visit him, on the other hand, its an expensive and tricky decision lol. Anyway, I''m sure your SO felt the same way. Yes, Coach bags can get pretty pricey but in the scheme of things if hes saving up thousands for a ring spending a few hundred on a bag and then cutting corners for a month or two he wont be set back too much with his ring fund. Just enjoy it!

 

[girlie-girl]

I'd just appreciate the gift and not worry about his finances. He must know where they stand and what he can/can't afford. Relax and enjoy!

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 11/20/2008 8:51:20 AM
Author: girlie-girl
I''d just appreciate the gift and not worry about his finances. He must know where they stand and what he can/can''t afford. Relax and enjoy!

Ditto.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Relax. Thats my best advice. His money is his money...and who knows whats going on in his mind...

 

[ams0124]

I''m going to go ahead and agree with everyone else...Just enjoy your gift and leave his finances to him.

 

[LoveRoundBrillants]

Hey guys thanks for the advice, i guess i will just RELAX and let him deal with his own finances

Bia- SO and I have talked about a Summer 2010 wedding, I have told him that I wanted to be engaged for about a year or so...which gives him roughly 6-7 months. He has talked about rings to me has gotten an idea of what I wanted, and has even did his own shopping (online). He told me that he is in the stage of putting money away and wants to actually go and try on rings when he feels he is closer to his actual budget for the ring.

 

[tabu]

Hey LoveRoundBrilliants... I also would not worry about his finances. I''m sure he has a plan!

 

[miss_flo]

I''ve felt the same way a few times too so don''t think you''re alone I''m totally cool with him spending his money on him all he wants, but when he buys me gifts that cost a lot my first (unspoken) thought is "I''m terrible but I wish you''d saved the money." I know it''s completely wrong to think that way but that''s the curse of being a LIW. Hugs

 

[laughwithme]

I do know what you mean actually... my BF has a special ring savings and for our 3-year anni a few weeks back, I asked him to not get me anything since I think his savings is getting soooo close. But, he knew I was getting him an awesome watch and he is not the kind of guy to skip out on getting me anything. So he took some money out of his savings and got me pearl earrings... part of me was kinda like dangit! Now I have to wait longer! But the truth is, another week to wait is nothing... and I love the earrings!

So, just focus on that - in the end, the extra coupla weeks of waiting (while he makes up the difference in $$) will mean nothing, but you still have the sweet Coach!

 

[gwendolyn]

Hey, if the Coach is stressing you out, I''ll have it off you.

 

[Amanda.Rx]

My BF would probably do the same thing.

He bought some REALLY nice gifts for my family members for Christmas (and we don''t really do gifts anymore)... but... he just loves giving. I''ll just sit back and let him give away- if he''s happy, I''m happy.

At least he didn''t get you a pair of socks or something super lame!

 

[sammyj]

Date: 11/20/2008 1:49:03 PM
Author: gwendolyn
Hey, if the Coach is stressing you out, I''ll have it off you.

haha...yes, I''ll take it too!!!

I know how you feel though because finances seem to be the main reason things are moving so slowly for my BF. I tried to tell him to not buy me anything for xmas so he could save up for the ring. He adamantly refused so I can only assume he''s got everything under control.

You are very lucky to have received such a thoughtful gift from your BF though! I would never trust my guy to buy me a decent handbag...he doesn''t know the difference between Coach or Gucci, bubblegum pink or fuschia...sigh.

Show off your bag if you want to!