merrymunky
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My wedding is next Wednesday and STILL the final guest list for the ceremony and wedding breakfast is changing.
I posted about my uncle who has cancer. His treatment has been VERY successful and the cancer was found to be superficial, so no further treatment is necessary. However, he contracted pnuemonia which has completely wiped him out. He really doesn''t think he will be well enough to make the long journey here and he is very disappointed, As am I. As a result though, it means that 3 other guests won''t make it. His son Kevin was going to be driving and probably won''t come now. My uncle''s girlfriend obviously won''t come alone. Also, my older brother was going to travel down with them and due to a number of problems he has, he has flat out refused to come down alone by coach or train...to his own sister''s wedding. I am quite annoyed with him. I understand his reasons but I really hoped he would suck it up and make the journey for me.
A couple we invited were ecstatic for us and vowed to be there if they could get time off work. Then only this weekend "C" phones my mother to say sorry, they can''t make it as she cannot get time off work. Ok, she had the invitation over 2 months ago, so WHY didn''t she request the day off there and then? She has been off work for a few weeks and has gone back on a part time rota this week, but the wedding week is her first week back on a full time rota so she said she daren''t ask for time off. WTF? She should have asked way before now. I wouldn''t mind but she is getting married in October and we are travelling up for her wedding and have booked a hotel for the night, not a cheap affair by any means. If they came to ours they have family here they would have been able to stay with. It seems a little disrespectful to me. I spent a lot of time, effort and money on proper invitations with clear instructions on RSVPing. The deadline was July 31st...I have NO idea why some people are leaving it so late to let us know?
Then there is FI''s Nan. She was so pleased when we set a date. We invited her and her partner. She refused to tell him about the invite as she said he would be a liability and she would feel like she was looking after him all day. Not at all..we would have made a great fuss over him!!
But now even SHE is saying she won''t be there...she feels like she will ruin the ceremony with her coughing etc...I call BS. It''s just an excuse. She NEVER comes to family events. She''s been invoted to stay with us at FI''s parent''s house at Christmas but always makes some excuse not to attend. He never even ventures into town even though she drives. It''s frustrating to say the least.
And finally...I think...
We invited my step brother as a last minute addition. My other step brother I am much closer to, his children and step children are all in the bridal party etc. My other step brother though is a bit like my older brother and we rarely talk. We decided it would be cruel to not invite him so I reluctantly agreed to invite him and his partner. She''s a little odd but I figured it would be ok, and to be honest I did feel better knowing he was included now. But then his partne appears on facebook a few minutes ago to say thanks for inviting them, that they will be there and that if I don''t mind, her mother will be there too. WTF? Since when was the mother invited? I''ve met his partner and her mother ONCE. Yes, ONCE! They are both a little odd to say the least. She said she had ok''d it with my Mum so who am I to argue?
I am a little annoyed though, my mother should have asked me first!!!!!!!
Gah! Sorry for the rant, I just had to get this off my chest before I explode.
I posted about my uncle who has cancer. His treatment has been VERY successful and the cancer was found to be superficial, so no further treatment is necessary. However, he contracted pnuemonia which has completely wiped him out. He really doesn''t think he will be well enough to make the long journey here and he is very disappointed, As am I. As a result though, it means that 3 other guests won''t make it. His son Kevin was going to be driving and probably won''t come now. My uncle''s girlfriend obviously won''t come alone. Also, my older brother was going to travel down with them and due to a number of problems he has, he has flat out refused to come down alone by coach or train...to his own sister''s wedding. I am quite annoyed with him. I understand his reasons but I really hoped he would suck it up and make the journey for me.
A couple we invited were ecstatic for us and vowed to be there if they could get time off work. Then only this weekend "C" phones my mother to say sorry, they can''t make it as she cannot get time off work. Ok, she had the invitation over 2 months ago, so WHY didn''t she request the day off there and then? She has been off work for a few weeks and has gone back on a part time rota this week, but the wedding week is her first week back on a full time rota so she said she daren''t ask for time off. WTF? She should have asked way before now. I wouldn''t mind but she is getting married in October and we are travelling up for her wedding and have booked a hotel for the night, not a cheap affair by any means. If they came to ours they have family here they would have been able to stay with. It seems a little disrespectful to me. I spent a lot of time, effort and money on proper invitations with clear instructions on RSVPing. The deadline was July 31st...I have NO idea why some people are leaving it so late to let us know?
Then there is FI''s Nan. She was so pleased when we set a date. We invited her and her partner. She refused to tell him about the invite as she said he would be a liability and she would feel like she was looking after him all day. Not at all..we would have made a great fuss over him!!
But now even SHE is saying she won''t be there...she feels like she will ruin the ceremony with her coughing etc...I call BS. It''s just an excuse. She NEVER comes to family events. She''s been invoted to stay with us at FI''s parent''s house at Christmas but always makes some excuse not to attend. He never even ventures into town even though she drives. It''s frustrating to say the least.And finally...I think...
We invited my step brother as a last minute addition. My other step brother I am much closer to, his children and step children are all in the bridal party etc. My other step brother though is a bit like my older brother and we rarely talk. We decided it would be cruel to not invite him so I reluctantly agreed to invite him and his partner. She''s a little odd but I figured it would be ok, and to be honest I did feel better knowing he was included now. But then his partne appears on facebook a few minutes ago to say thanks for inviting them, that they will be there and that if I don''t mind, her mother will be there too. WTF? Since when was the mother invited? I''ve met his partner and her mother ONCE. Yes, ONCE! They are both a little odd to say the least. She said she had ok''d it with my Mum so who am I to argue?
I am a little annoyed though, my mother should have asked me first!!!!!!!
Gah! Sorry for the rant, I just had to get this off my chest before I explode.
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