Hi Ladies,
After weening myself off PS for a few days, I pondered my impatience with betting engaged.
I felt pretty dramatic about how committed my BF is to me, and then I felt even more depressed about waiting, and the possibility that he may not pick out exactly what I want.
We had a serious talk this weekend, which spanned for 2 days, starting out with sleeping in seperate rooms, and ending with a night of voracious...consummation. I''d like to think the consummation was not what lead up to the initial night, however, it seemed comfortable appropriate to commemorate a mutual understanding.
He felt I didn''t trust him to buy the ring (amongst other things). I felt his situation which currently precluded purchase meant that he would not get the ring for a long while, and I''d have to wait, which began to greatly frustrate me, to the point of depression.
We hashed that out, to get futher below the surface of what was making us unhappy.
I was unhappy. I was unhappy, because I couldn''t relaxed, stressed often, including over the ring and means to purchase it. I decided I would work on relaxing and being happy, and my impatience for the ring soon faded, realizing that I wasn''t trusting him, on top of the emotions I had. We agreed to make appointments for massages, hug more, and of course...dashed off to consummate.
The lesson I learned: my impatience, petulance, frustration wasn''t about him, it was originating from my own insecurities and inability to relax. I projected this onto him, particularly with a topic that I take great comfort and fantasy in: the engagement ring.
The hardest thing to do is to seperate the surface emotions and causes from the deeper truth and catalyst.
Have a glorious week!
After weening myself off PS for a few days, I pondered my impatience with betting engaged.
I felt pretty dramatic about how committed my BF is to me, and then I felt even more depressed about waiting, and the possibility that he may not pick out exactly what I want.
We had a serious talk this weekend, which spanned for 2 days, starting out with sleeping in seperate rooms, and ending with a night of voracious...consummation. I''d like to think the consummation was not what lead up to the initial night, however, it seemed comfortable appropriate to commemorate a mutual understanding.
He felt I didn''t trust him to buy the ring (amongst other things). I felt his situation which currently precluded purchase meant that he would not get the ring for a long while, and I''d have to wait, which began to greatly frustrate me, to the point of depression.
We hashed that out, to get futher below the surface of what was making us unhappy.
I was unhappy. I was unhappy, because I couldn''t relaxed, stressed often, including over the ring and means to purchase it. I decided I would work on relaxing and being happy, and my impatience for the ring soon faded, realizing that I wasn''t trusting him, on top of the emotions I had. We agreed to make appointments for massages, hug more, and of course...dashed off to consummate.
The lesson I learned: my impatience, petulance, frustration wasn''t about him, it was originating from my own insecurities and inability to relax. I projected this onto him, particularly with a topic that I take great comfort and fantasy in: the engagement ring.
The hardest thing to do is to seperate the surface emotions and causes from the deeper truth and catalyst.
Have a glorious week!
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