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Shiny_Rock
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I just wanted to share my feelings because noone else in my life now would really understand how i feel and like you ladies, maybe you are having the same feelings as me which means you are more likely to understand my reasonings and thoughts! So thanks for listening.
So I am traveling with my bf''s family to a camp about 2 hours away from where we live now where we will be staying on this coming Friday through next Wednesday. Both of his parents will be there and then his sister and her new husband will be traveling up to stay with us Saturday through Tuesday. I had thought that it would just be both of his parents and the 2 of us but his sister and her husband are joining us on the days i said above.
This kind of made me sad because as the guys go hunting on Monday and tuesday ALL DAY, I was so excited because then his mother and i could get in a lot of bonding time when the guys are hunting. but now that his sister is coming up it will be the 3 of us. She is nice and i like hanging out with her but this is why i am sad. I was around her the whole time that she as planning her wedding this past summer and even before that so I had to listen to all of the stuff that a person goes through when planning for a wedding. which i am not bashing her at all, i love her it was just hard because i wanted that so much. Now that they are married B and I are now the only non married people that will be going on this trip. I just feel..... inadequate is what i think the word I want is..
It sucks because i feel as though because we are not married and his parents and sister are, i will feel kind of left out. and i know that they dont think any less of us as a couple but there is always that whole, ''welcome to the family we can bond now and be closer'' time when you are engaged. I just feel like i am the only person not a part of their family, it makes me feel ackward around the rest of his family, like realtaives not immediate family members.
I feel this way also about the upcoming thanksgiving trip to see all of his family. I just feel left out and it will definetly make this whole me waiting for the ring thing a little more difficult because i will have to see how happy his sister and her husband are and all of the other married couples too. I guess that I will be just sad. And also we are the only couple that isnt married. of course besides his cousins who are like 14 and 15 and i think that is what makes it all of the more harder to deal with. I feel like I am not taken seriously as his gf. they havent shown that at all though just how i feel.
I''m sorry if i cant explain it using the right words, i really tried to make it understandable. B doesnt understand it but he did say it went along with that whole women competing with women thing. which in the end maybe that is what it is. We feel ackward and not taken seriously because the family around us are all married, we feel like we have to be engaged to be taken seriously and to stake our claim as coming into the family soon. Does that make any sense or am I just alone on everything? I guess that I am just bummed and sick of being the only ones in his family that arent even engaged. I am grateful for his family and I hope that I can get some good insight.I dont mean to make anybody mad if i did..just trying to explain how i feel.
But who knows...he seems excited about going so maybe he is planning something. that would be great..we''ll see. Our anniversary IS on thanksgiving this year...4 years. I still am excited to go with him and his family and to see his extended family on thanksgiving but I feel sad also and just sick of waiting for him to ask me.
So I am traveling with my bf''s family to a camp about 2 hours away from where we live now where we will be staying on this coming Friday through next Wednesday. Both of his parents will be there and then his sister and her new husband will be traveling up to stay with us Saturday through Tuesday. I had thought that it would just be both of his parents and the 2 of us but his sister and her husband are joining us on the days i said above.
This kind of made me sad because as the guys go hunting on Monday and tuesday ALL DAY, I was so excited because then his mother and i could get in a lot of bonding time when the guys are hunting. but now that his sister is coming up it will be the 3 of us. She is nice and i like hanging out with her but this is why i am sad. I was around her the whole time that she as planning her wedding this past summer and even before that so I had to listen to all of the stuff that a person goes through when planning for a wedding. which i am not bashing her at all, i love her it was just hard because i wanted that so much. Now that they are married B and I are now the only non married people that will be going on this trip. I just feel..... inadequate is what i think the word I want is..
It sucks because i feel as though because we are not married and his parents and sister are, i will feel kind of left out. and i know that they dont think any less of us as a couple but there is always that whole, ''welcome to the family we can bond now and be closer'' time when you are engaged. I just feel like i am the only person not a part of their family, it makes me feel ackward around the rest of his family, like realtaives not immediate family members.
I feel this way also about the upcoming thanksgiving trip to see all of his family. I just feel left out and it will definetly make this whole me waiting for the ring thing a little more difficult because i will have to see how happy his sister and her husband are and all of the other married couples too. I guess that I will be just sad. And also we are the only couple that isnt married. of course besides his cousins who are like 14 and 15 and i think that is what makes it all of the more harder to deal with. I feel like I am not taken seriously as his gf. they havent shown that at all though just how i feel.
I''m sorry if i cant explain it using the right words, i really tried to make it understandable. B doesnt understand it but he did say it went along with that whole women competing with women thing. which in the end maybe that is what it is. We feel ackward and not taken seriously because the family around us are all married, we feel like we have to be engaged to be taken seriously and to stake our claim as coming into the family soon. Does that make any sense or am I just alone on everything? I guess that I am just bummed and sick of being the only ones in his family that arent even engaged. I am grateful for his family and I hope that I can get some good insight.I dont mean to make anybody mad if i did..just trying to explain how i feel.
But who knows...he seems excited about going so maybe he is planning something. that would be great..we''ll see. Our anniversary IS on thanksgiving this year...4 years. I still am excited to go with him and his family and to see his extended family on thanksgiving but I feel sad also and just sick of waiting for him to ask me.