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A Secret I Can Only Share With The LIW''S

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Amzizzle

Amzizzle

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Hi Ladies,

Here is the story....My BF and I have been together over 3years and our very much in love and can''t wait to get married (It''s getting close,I know he''s planning) but here is the catch...were already married! Our family,our friends don''t know! why you ask? My BF and I have lived together for two years,and we have the same insurance,and bank accounts,etc. I am a student and got hurt last year and my current job didn''t provide benefits,so my bf and I paid a pretty good amount of money in hospital bills. Needless to say his job has a fantastic medical plan and now were married. We didn''t tell our friends and family because we know they can''t wait for us to get marriend and have a big wedding and blah blah blah. (we also want our day to). So I might be a little more engagement crazy then most...Sorry for all the blabber but I just had to let that secret out somewhere!
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That''s awesome
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mazel tov !
 
Awww! If you don''t mind me asking, how did you guys do it? Did you go to the court, did you do anything special?

I''m asking because I want to do the same thing with my FI, but for a different reason. I want to get married with my FI, without the drama of wedding planning, family (gosh, drama there makes me shudder already
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), friends, etc. I want to get married, just the two of us, make it a day all about us and no one else. Now if I can just convince my FI to run off with me...
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I''m sorry I am not a LIW, but I stuck my nose in here anyway! Naughty, I know, forgive me. I have to ask, how will you tell your friends and family?
 
Hey guys! Thanks for all the love! We actually went to court and did it,but for our actual wedding we actually want to get married in Jamaica with about 15 people present (best friends,close family). Well when it comes to telling them about our trip to the courthouse...honestly I don''t think were ever going to tell them,because it''s not how we really wanted to do it,but because of benefits being oh so important we kind of had to put a rush on it. Not to mention are families are super excited about us getting married because will be the first,for sure and were both the oldest kids and they really want to witness it and neither one of us really want to ruin that for them.
 
Congrats on your upcoming wedding, a destination to Jamaica sounds absolutely divine! Thanks for letting us in on your secret.
 
I don''t think you have to tell anybody either. A friend of mine did this too, because her husband was going to be deployed, they had the whole huge wedding a year later when he got back. She told me that I would be surprised at the number of people that are already married by the time the ceremony comes around. All the more power to you!
 
I think that''s so stinking cute - a secret for just the two of you for the rest of your lives.


I''m assuming you were definitely planning on the being married before the benefit issue came up, and were just waiting for the right timing to take the trip.
 
Hey = can we hear more about the Jamaica plan?

I was the MOH at my cousin''s wedding in Jamaica. It was pretty cool!
 
Sure! I am all about talking about the Jamaica Idea! First off "yes" we were planning to get married before our secret wedding,now it''s just about him really proposing and then planning the wedding! Anyways the plan for Jamaica is to have about 15 or so friends and family fly there and stay with us at the Beaches resort. It''s all-inclusive,we plan to get married on the beach and the colors will be navy blue,aqua,and white. Were also going to have a private rehearsal dinner set-up for everyone as well as a surprise tour of some sort. There is a great river tubing trip that everyone I think would really enjoy.Thanks for asking about the plans!
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I think that is so sweet!

My SO and I are looking into a destination wedding too and we''ll be legalizing everything before the actual ceremony too. Probably only by a day or two but I hear it''s much easier that way so believe me honey you''re not alone! With health care prices through the roof I don''t blame you for getting the paperwork done early and I''m sure your family wouldn''t either but there''s really no reason you ever have to tell them..
 
Yeah,I kind of like having our secret wedding date to,because it was recently our 1 year "marriage" anniversay and we did go out to a nice dinner.I don''t think even when we have the official day will ever stop celebrating June 22nd!
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Oh wow!

Congratulations to you and your husband!
I wanted to do something like that too, but FF thought that people would end up finding out somehow and be super hurt.

I''m glad you have the LIW to share with!

(I''m no good at keep secrets myself, lol!)
 
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lol I thought about the accidental telling of it all,that''s why I made my guy swear not to tell any of his siblings (they all tell eachother everything) and it always gets back to the parents!
 
I WANT IT TO BE QUIET AND SMALL TOO. EVERYONE AROUND ME WANTS THE "WEDDING" AND ALL I WANT TO DO IS BE MARRIED. ISNT IT REALLY ABOUT THE TWO OF US AND NOT THEM????
 
Yeah, we were thinking we might get some flack for not wanting the huge reception and all that. We have huge families it would end up at like 250 people! I would much rather have it be about our love and not 250 people witnessing our love ya know?
 
SCANDALOUS!

Right now I''m dealing with my own health insurance issues..... don''t give me any ideas!!!
 
I think its fantastic what you guys did...but by no means an easy decision!

So, Congratulations on your marriage, and for having such a wonderful partner, who obviously
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you very much.
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You said it! He is Great! He has also been taking this e-ring purchase very seriously and I''m pretty sure I''ve caught him breaking a sweat over all the info about diamonds.I know he will do great though!
 
Date: 7/21/2008 2:42:20 PM
Author: Amzizzle
Yeah, we were thinking we might get some flack for not wanting the huge reception and all that. We have huge families it would end up at like 250 people! I would much rather have it be about our love and not 250 people witnessing our love ya know?
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This is exactly why SO and I are going the destination wedding route! We have big families and his side has 2 big weddings coming up in Oct. and Nov. after seeing how much those are costing and the stress they are causing the brides we think it'll be a lot easier to go away and say immediate family, grandparents and a few really good friends and that's it. We'll probably just have a big BBQ when we get back so that everyone can celebrate but I just can't imagine doing a huge reception like that.

ETA: I just noticed the adorable pup in your avatar! How cute! Is it a bulldog?
 
Yeah he''s an english bully, and he actually just turned a year. Super cute lol! His name is Bowser. Oh and the destination wedding I have always felt that''s what I''ve wanted. Where would you go? I said earlier I want Jamaica!
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Oh! SO CUTE! My SO has a French Bulldog and we just adore all bulldogs we can''t imagine a day when we won''t have one they are just amazing pets!

Well, we''re thinking Jamaica or maybe Riviera Maya or Cancun. Our dream would be to go to the Cayman Islands but that''s a little too expensive for everyone. If you want some ideas I love this site http://bestdestinationwedding.com/forum/. I''ve been reading up on all the great resorts even though we''re not engaged yet. We want to get married in Jan/Feb though so I need to start at least looking. Right?
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This is such a fun secret. I love that it''s something the two of you can always share!! Too cute!!

Oh ya, congrats on keeping it a secret for so long. I know that I have some best friends, that I would have been itching to tell.
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I have almost blown the whistle once or twice but don''t want to spoil it lol! Oh and about bulldogs they are the best,they are so smart and funny,and I don''t know about yours but mine is absolutely insane!
 
Amizzle, I got married in Jamaica just a few weeks ago (June 25). If you have any questions, let me know! I got married at a Sandals, and since they own Beaches I'm thinking their policies may be similiar.
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Date: 7/20/2008 11:12:32 AM
Author: Babyblue033
Awww! If you don''t mind me asking, how did you guys do it? Did you go to the court, did you do anything special?

I''m asking because I want to do the same thing with my FI, but for a different reason. I want to get married with my FI, without the drama of wedding planning, family (gosh, drama there makes me shudder already
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), friends, etc. I want to get married, just the two of us, make it a day all about us and no one else. Now if I can just convince my FI to run off with me...
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I am with you 1000%!!!
 
Well aren''t you the sneaky one!!!
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Congratulations to you! I can understand why you did what you did. Your family never has to know if you dont want them to!!!

Your secret is safe with us here at PS!
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Congratulations to you both :) don''t worry none of us will tell :).

I have heard of people doing this before for various reasong so I assure you your not alone :)
 
I''ve looked into it and they are VERY similar. Did you go with one of there wedding packages or did you have it customized a bit. Any group rates. It just seems hard to pick a date,get rooms,and then get people to r.s.vp.Thanks!
 
Yeah I definitely love all the PS''ers It feels alot better to talk about it a bit! I don''t feel like i''m going to burst lol!
 
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