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Brilliant_Rock
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- May 2, 2006
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I''ve come across a bit of a dilemma.
Last night, I got an email from my parents, telling us that they were giving us 5k as a wedding gift. They stipulated that I spend it on a couple minor things to fix on my car, a new computer monitor, and to not skimp too much on the wedding. The rest was ours to do with as we pleased.
My FI was very unhappy with this. He feels like this is too much $ for us to accept. My parents gave us 2k last July as a housewarming gift since we just bought and moved into our home. He is uncomfortable in general about extravagant gifts. He doesn''t feel we did anything to "earn" this.
I''m all for accepting it with graciousness and many thanks, but I don''t wish to make my FI uncomfortable either. My parents are not hurting financially, so it''s not that. They have been very very good to us, but I''m used to it and used to reciprocating as best I can. They''re my family! We are all generous with one another, as much as we can afford to be.
His father is giving us 3k for our honeymoon. My FI has admitted that the only reason he is accepting this $ is because he wanted to make me happy. Prior to this offer, we were not going to be able to take our honeymoon until a year later, and I was sort of bummed about it.
He wants me to call my mom and tell her we cannot accept so much from them.
I''m a little uncomfortable with this because I was brought up to turn someone down once, but if they insist, to accept with graciousness. What if she insists??
This is a bit of a recurring theme with my FI. He has always been so hard on himself, and although it''s made him the wonderful person he is today, sometimes I just want to shake him and say "RELAX! ENJOY YOURSELF WITHOUT GUILT FOR ONCE!"
Gah! I''m unsure of how to handle this. I''m waiting for my mom to call me back.
Last night, I got an email from my parents, telling us that they were giving us 5k as a wedding gift. They stipulated that I spend it on a couple minor things to fix on my car, a new computer monitor, and to not skimp too much on the wedding. The rest was ours to do with as we pleased.
My FI was very unhappy with this. He feels like this is too much $ for us to accept. My parents gave us 2k last July as a housewarming gift since we just bought and moved into our home. He is uncomfortable in general about extravagant gifts. He doesn''t feel we did anything to "earn" this.
I''m all for accepting it with graciousness and many thanks, but I don''t wish to make my FI uncomfortable either. My parents are not hurting financially, so it''s not that. They have been very very good to us, but I''m used to it and used to reciprocating as best I can. They''re my family! We are all generous with one another, as much as we can afford to be.
His father is giving us 3k for our honeymoon. My FI has admitted that the only reason he is accepting this $ is because he wanted to make me happy. Prior to this offer, we were not going to be able to take our honeymoon until a year later, and I was sort of bummed about it.
He wants me to call my mom and tell her we cannot accept so much from them.
I''m a little uncomfortable with this because I was brought up to turn someone down once, but if they insist, to accept with graciousness. What if she insists??
This is a bit of a recurring theme with my FI. He has always been so hard on himself, and although it''s made him the wonderful person he is today, sometimes I just want to shake him and say "RELAX! ENJOY YOURSELF WITHOUT GUILT FOR ONCE!"
Gah! I''m unsure of how to handle this. I''m waiting for my mom to call me back.
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