Addressing Save the Dates

[fatafelice]

So I am back for more invite-related help! Here''s my dilemma...

I am planning on inviting the significant others of many of my guests. For the actual invites, I will list them by name. But I need to send out STDs soon and I don''t know how to handle the situation. For guests who cohabitate or are engaged, it seems like I should include the names of the significant others on the STD. But should the other SOs (the ones who aren''t cohabitating or engaged) be incuded on the STDs, or should they just be addressed to the primary guest with the boyfriend/girlfriend added to the actual invite later? I guess I am just worried that some relationships may change by next April!

Also, what did you do about singles who were invited "and guest" in case they wanted to bring someone? Do I put "and guest" on their STD invite as well?

Thanks in advance for the help! I don''t know what I would do without you ladies!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

If they were in a serious relationship (ex. 1 yr +) I addressed them to both but if they didn''t I just addressed it to the person we were inviting (didn''t add + guest). For the formal invitations I added "& guest" for a few but really went out of my way to find out their SO''s names.

 

[fatafelice]

Thanks, Tacori! That is what my gut said to do, but my lazy streak was hoping otherwise.

Now I have to find out if my cousins I never talk to have significant others *and* what their names are.

And I agree 100% that all effort should be made to put actual names on the formal invites, rather than "guest."

Anybody else want to weigh in?

 

[sumbride]

I view the save the date like an announcement so I hadn''t thought of putting 2 names on there. I think the ones I''ve received in the past were just sent to me, and then later on I received the & guest, but I''ve always been close enough to the b&g to know that I could bring a date, rather than speculate on it. Hmm... now you''ve got me thinking....

 

[Tacori E-ring]

We went to a wedding while we were ENGAGED, DH was a bestman, both the bride and groom know me (live in the same city) and it was address "+ guest." I was SOOOO pissed. I really made an effort though it is not always possible to know. I think the STD are more informal so I wouldn''t stress too much about it if you don''t know.