adressing wedding invitations question

[glaucomflecken]

Is it ok to address a single female as Ms. on the wedding invitation, or should you use Miss?

I have read yes its ok, and no its not proper. Ive also read use Miss regardless of age if never been married.

Also, how do you address a widow? I guess Im too feminist to think you would still call them Mrs. (his first name) (his last name) but I think thats the way it should be?

Thoughts? Thanks!

 

[ame]

I base that on age. Miss if under 25 and Ms if over.

Widows I have always done Mrs bec they techically ARE still Married.

 

[glaucomflecken]

Date: 8/15/2005 11:18:26 PM
Author: ame
Widows I have always done Mrs bec they techically ARE still Married.

Do you address them by their husbands first name?

 

[JulieN]

Let's take this from the English:

Miss is an honorific for a woman who uses her maiden name. It does not imply that she is unmarried.

Mrs is for a woman who adopts her husband's surname.

Ms is ugly, but above all, the overriding principle of honorifics is to treat people with respect, so if she wishes to be called Ms, it is permissible.

I believe widows are Mrs. Husband's name.

 

[JulieN]

It''s either Mrs His last name or Mrs Her first name, especially if there are two Mrs His last name (sisters-in-law, or mother-and-daughter-in-law.)

 

[Tybee]

Date: 8/15/2005 11:48:44 PM
Author: JulieN
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Ms is ugly, but above all, the overriding principle of honorifics is to treat people with respect, so if she wishes to be called Ms, it is permissible.


I believe widows are Mrs. Husband''s name.

oooh, ouch, is Ms. really that ugly? I''m a Ms. and plan on staying one. I love my FI dearly but don''t plan on taking his name, or being known officially as the wife of so and so...
Perhaps it is the old-world values of weddings, alas...

 

[ame]

Date: 8/15/2005 11:44:26 PM
Author: PunchNPie75

Date: 8/15/2005 11:18:26 PM

Author: ame

Widows I have always done Mrs bec they techically ARE still Married.

Do you address them by their husbands first name?

I address them by their own first name and their husband''s last name whether it''s correct or not. My grandma doesn''t need any further reminders of my grandpa''s death so putting his name on it wouldn''t really make her feel good.

 

[glaucomflecken]

Ame that was exactly what I was thinking. My mom is a widow and its hard enough for her to go this day alone without my dad let alone put his name on her invitation.

 

[njc]

The way i addressed was techinically incorrect, but what i thought that person would be least offended by...

My friends i addressed Miss if unmarried and under 30. Ms. if unmarried, over 30. Why 30? No clue...

For DH female guests, I addressed them all Ms. For some reason I felt they would be offended being called Miss. I chalked it up to a north/south thing...

Widows - Mrs. Jane Doe

And we had one case of married couple, wife kept her name - Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Smith

Do what you feel comfortable with! No one is going to be that offended... hell, they are going to ignore the name and open it up to see who is getting married!