Advice Please...

[BabyBrown]

Hello Ladies in Waiting,

I need your advice...okay, so I''m trying to stay calm and not drive myself crazy during the waiting stage... BUT it seems that every time I turn around, there are people that I know (friends, family, associates) that are getting engaged. I am truly happy for them, but I want to know from the other ladies in waiting...how do you keep your mind off of an impending proposal, when everyone around you is getting engaged and throwing engagement parties???

I have been doing well, focusing on positive things, working on myself... but it''s still getting to me, what should I do???

Thanks,

BabyBrown

 

[prettylnpink419]

I''m having the same problem! I just don''t know what to do! I''m just way too anxious! I''ll be interested to see what the other LIW say!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

You sit back and enjoy the relationship you''re in right now...you''re courting, and that''s very special...you''re setting the foundation for the rest to follow.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Ah yeah I was there for a tiny bit when I found out my two friends who weren''t getting engaged at all until after college suddenly gotten engaged over the same weekend. I was like aw man that''s not very fair!

I just concentrated on my FI and me and on getting to a place where we were ready. Also..I ring-shopped a lot.

 

[BabyBrown]

Thanks ladies!!! Oh yeah, I have totally been online ring shopping LOL! and Italianhaircolor, thank you for your advice, I need it

 

[CNYHopeful]

That''s a very good question and something that will always be a struggle either until he proposes or you decide to go separate ways. This past year, I attended 7 weddings (was maid of honor in my best friend''s and bridesmaid in 2 others). It was especially difficult trying not to think about it when my brother, who started dating his wife 2 weeks before my FF and I started dating, got engaged and married in the amount of time that we''ve been together. Here are a few things that help me keep perspective:

1) Journal - I like to write about my thoughts and hopes for our relationship. This helps me process my excitement and anxieties.
2) Spend Quality time with friends - I make it a point to see at least two good friends one-on-one each week.
3) Hobbies - pick up a hobby that you haven''t done in a long time or have really been wanting to do. This helps keep you grounded, motivated, and gives FF space and time he needs to do his own things.
4) Read a good book on marriage and focus on a few areas that you can work on now to prepare the healthy sacrifices of marriage.
5) Remember to simply enjoy each moment together and be grateful! My FF and I have a saying that if either of us takes the other for granted, than we are not worthy of the other.

So, be happy for those moving on to that next step. Celebrate with them and enjoy the excitement of hope for your future with an open heart and gratitude for this special time of dating.

Best wishes in the meantime!

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

CNYHopeful: I REALLY like the reading a book on marriage!! What a great idea