larussel03
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Some of you may remember, FI''s mom has been saying that she wants to have some heavy metal played at the wedding. Which both FI and I totally don''t want and he keeps telling her that but every once in a while she still brings up the fact that she''d like to have some played. FI shoots her down again, I figured it was over and done with.
I was emailing back and forth with FSIL, who also is into heavy metal like her mother, but understands that not EVERYONE wants to hear it at a function, and she said "OK, my mother is insisting I request some Korn or Rammstein for her, but it''s your wedding so obviously it''s up to you guys." I''m just annoyed because FMIL KEEPS bringing it up, even after FI told her it''s not appropriate multiple times.
I KNOW she''s going to go up to the DJ and request it and I''m sure she''ll even bring her own heavy metal CDs to try to get him to play a song or two, even though FI and I both don''t want this. I know the DJ will not play it, but it''s annoying that she acts like a child trying to sneak to get its way.
Another example of this type of thing is when she and my mother were visiting and she kept getting the dog to bark, even though I told her to not get the dog too riled up because it''s disrespectful to the neighbors. I had to come out (while doing an interview for an article I was writing) to tell her to please stop because 1) the neighbors don''t appreciate it and 2) I was on the phone trying to do an interview. Then later that day, she said she wanted the dog to come with us in the car to get FI from school, and I''d said "well since we''re driving an hour away after we get him, we shouldn''t bring her because it''s a long time for her to sit in the car with 4 people" and then she said later to me "oh, I''m so looking forward to riding in the car with Stella when we go to get FI."
I mean, the woman just doesn''t get it. She persists like a child and as though she didn''t hear anything that I said and I get so mad b/c it''s just disrespectful to me. I honestly don''t know if she''s doing it to be malicious or just because this is how she usually gets her way...she''s always doing things to get attention (like wearing devil horns year round, etc) and she doesn''t seem to get it when people say to not do something.
I mean, I don''t think I''m being unreasonable...it''s not like what she''s asking is even appropriate, yet I know she''ll keep asking and mentioning it until the wedding as "requests." I just dont'' want to have to have FI constantly correcting her or telling her "no, we don''t want that, it''s not appropriate" throughout the wedding.
This IS a woman who laid fake ants out on the tables at her daughter''s first born''s son''s baptism party, by the way...
I was thinking about some sort of compromise and letting her and her husband choose a song (whatever song) to be introduced into the hall with at the enterance after cocktail hour, but FI doesn''t think it''s a good idea, he likes the idea of just one introduction song and doesn''t want to encourage her.
What do you all think??
All I have to say is "ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH"
I was emailing back and forth with FSIL, who also is into heavy metal like her mother, but understands that not EVERYONE wants to hear it at a function, and she said "OK, my mother is insisting I request some Korn or Rammstein for her, but it''s your wedding so obviously it''s up to you guys." I''m just annoyed because FMIL KEEPS bringing it up, even after FI told her it''s not appropriate multiple times.
I KNOW she''s going to go up to the DJ and request it and I''m sure she''ll even bring her own heavy metal CDs to try to get him to play a song or two, even though FI and I both don''t want this. I know the DJ will not play it, but it''s annoying that she acts like a child trying to sneak to get its way.
Another example of this type of thing is when she and my mother were visiting and she kept getting the dog to bark, even though I told her to not get the dog too riled up because it''s disrespectful to the neighbors. I had to come out (while doing an interview for an article I was writing) to tell her to please stop because 1) the neighbors don''t appreciate it and 2) I was on the phone trying to do an interview. Then later that day, she said she wanted the dog to come with us in the car to get FI from school, and I''d said "well since we''re driving an hour away after we get him, we shouldn''t bring her because it''s a long time for her to sit in the car with 4 people" and then she said later to me "oh, I''m so looking forward to riding in the car with Stella when we go to get FI."
I mean, the woman just doesn''t get it. She persists like a child and as though she didn''t hear anything that I said and I get so mad b/c it''s just disrespectful to me. I honestly don''t know if she''s doing it to be malicious or just because this is how she usually gets her way...she''s always doing things to get attention (like wearing devil horns year round, etc) and she doesn''t seem to get it when people say to not do something.
I mean, I don''t think I''m being unreasonable...it''s not like what she''s asking is even appropriate, yet I know she''ll keep asking and mentioning it until the wedding as "requests." I just dont'' want to have to have FI constantly correcting her or telling her "no, we don''t want that, it''s not appropriate" throughout the wedding.
This IS a woman who laid fake ants out on the tables at her daughter''s first born''s son''s baptism party, by the way...
I was thinking about some sort of compromise and letting her and her husband choose a song (whatever song) to be introduced into the hall with at the enterance after cocktail hour, but FI doesn''t think it''s a good idea, he likes the idea of just one introduction song and doesn''t want to encourage her.
What do you all think??
All I have to say is "ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH"
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