Ailing relative... send invite anyway?

[Independent Gal]

My Great Aunt, who would not otherwise have missed my wedding for the world, recently had a stroke. She''s doing OK, has regained her speech, but has some paralysis and moves with difficulty. I''m not sure what kind of shape she''ll be in next Spring, but hopefully she''ll be a little stronger. If not, I''m pretty sure she won''t be able to come (it''s a few hours'' flight).

I''m leaning toward sending an invitation anyway because a) she may be up to it when the time comes and b) she might get offended if I don''t. BUT, I''m now worried that sending an invitation to someone who is likely unable to come looks like a present grab.

What would you do?

 

[iheartscience]

I would definitely still invite her! She''s sure to hear about it from all the other relatives going and would probably be really hurt that you didn''t invite her. I doubt she''d see it as a present grabbing invite!

 

[cara]

YES! Still invite her, it is a courtesy.

Some folks love getting wedding invites even if they can''t attend.

-g.

 

[labbielove]

I have the same situation with 2 of my aunts- I agree- definitely send her an invite.
It will make her feel a part of the day, and pick up her spirits.
You may want to put a little note in there to her,

 

[zoebartlett]

I''d still invite her -- it shows that you want to include her in your special day. I''m sorry for what happened, and it''s good to hear she''s doing okay.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I agree with everyone. You should send her an invite no matter what. She will be pleased to get it I am sure!

 

[door knob solitaire]

Agreed. Please take the time to add a friendly note. She would be touched that you stopped long enough to be concerned. Also...sometimes a little thought of a fun event is enough to help people through rough spots.

This is not the jewelry Auntie is it?

DKS

 

[neatfreak]

If it was a random person who you wouldn''t have invited anyway, but then found out they couldn''t attend and sent them an invite anyway, THAT would be a present grab!

But to your fantastic great aunt, no one would think you were grabbing for presents, and I think she would be offended if she DIDN''T get an invite.

 

[Kaleigh]

Definitely send her an invite. And a note as well perhaps. I''m sorry she had a stroke.

 

[Independent Gal]

OK! I''m definitely inviting her, and definitely including a note. And then I''m thinking I''ll be sure to send her some pictures after the wedding too.

Hopefully, hopefully, she''ll keep recovering and be able to come. I understand that stroke victims often make fabulous strides given time and good rehabilitative therapy. It would be so sad to get married without ''Ice Cream Aunty'' as we used to call her (because her arrival always meant we were going out for ice cream!)

DKS: Nope, this is not the jewelry cousin (my grammy''s 1st cousin)! This is my late grandad''s sister. Jewelry Cousin, last I saw her before I left for home this week, is in ship-shape (knock wood)!