Am I nuts? Dress issues...

[curiopotter]

My parents and grandmother and I met up at Davids Bridal to look at some bridesmaids gowns. My bridesmaids (cousins) live in Puerto Rico and Davids is one of the few places that actually has locations in PR, so it was perfect since the other two gals live here. Anyway, we went to see what they had.. and I got suckered in to tryng on some bridal gowns since they were already there.

SOoo... I tried on a few, and the last one I tried on looked awesome on me. My waist looked teeny tiny, I looked taller, but the skirt of the gown wasn''t really what I had invisioned. Nevertheless, they all said I looked gorgeous, and convinced me to getting it.


So my parents bought it. Final Sale. No alterations needed. http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridal_gowns_detail.jsp?stid=3340&prodgroup=92


Then buyers remorse kicks in........




I had been looking at this dress online for the last 2 months, and last night while I was talking to one of my best friends about it, she says, "Maria, you''re never going to be happy if you don''t get that dress and try it on.. you need to get the dress you REALLY want." I talked to FI last night and without hesitation he says, "But it."


So I bought it this morning. http://www.juliusbridal.com/product.asp?DressName=Silk+Blend+Mashs+2 I loooove this gown. I wasn''t loving the broach on the front, but they said it''s a pin and is easily removable. I''m gonna wear the same petti-coat they bought at Davids underneath to make it more full.

Neither dress will be here until March. The davids bridal dress has to be cleaned, steamed, and repair the beading that''s loose or fallen off, and they said it takes about a month to get it back. The second dress has to be made, but has a good return policy incase it doesn''t work out.


Am I nuts?? Is this common? If I dont like the second dress, I''m going to pretend this never happened, and eat the shipping fees. If I end up loving the second dress, how am I gonna break this to my parents? Do I sell it and reimburse them for what they paid?

 

[misysu2]

This is almost exactly what happened to me. My parents bought me a dress, no alterations needed, final sale. Buyer''s remorse kicked in almost immediately, and all I could do was be honest with my parents, because, let''s face it, they''re going to find out when you stroll down the aisle in a different dress anyways.

Break it to them gently. Just tell them that it was amazing of them to buy you the dress, but you''re not 100% sure that it''s the one, and since you''re only getting married once (i''d assume!), you just want to make sure you get the right one.

 

[curiopotter]

That''s a good way of putting it.. I just hate for them to be dissapointed. Especially since my grandmother is leaving on Thursday and wont see the new dress until my wedding day. She cried and everything.

Guess I just have to suck it up and deal.

 

[misysu2]

My mom was pretty sad, as was my grandma, to hear that I changed my mind about the 1st dress, because they loved it. However, I think my mom definitely understood, and my grandma actually ended up liking the 2nd dress better!

I felt bad about the dress, but your parents love you. They bought the dress because they love you, and they will want you to be happy. Good luck!

 

[BriBee]

I think you definitely have to go with the dress you love. You don''t want to be looking back at your wedding pictures and thinking "I should have gotten that other dress..." So I think you''re doing the right thing, and you have a good idea about selling the dress your parents want and re-imbursing them for the rest. As long as you''re happy, I think that''s what counts. My best friend was having a dress dilemma when she found one that was out of her budget (but not by much) I convinced her to just GET IT because she would regret it 20 years down the road. And in that much time, what''s an extra $500 dollars? For her, she''s getting money from family for the wedding and trying to make the whole thing come in at the budget, which she''s been really successful at so far. So I told her if she has to come out of pocket an extra few hundred dollars for her dream dress, is it really that big of a deal in the long run? She agreed and now is getting her dream dress, and I know she would have regretted it if she didn''t.

 

[beesknees]

I think this is a perfectly normal thing. I think a lot of brides get caught up in the moment and end up buying the wrong dress. I just wanted to say that I absolutely love the bottom part of your second dress and I think you made the right decision!

 

[Harleigh]

Hi Curio,

As many of the ladies have told me numerous times here on PS, find the dress you LOVE and settle for nothing less!

I think both dresses are lovely, but I think you should just wait until you get both to decide...you may wind up in love with the first dress, but if it turns out to be the second one, I agree that you just need to be honest with your parents (while profusely thanking them for their generosity, of course!

) and let them know how much you appreciated the gesture, but that you couldn''t help but fall in love with a different dress. I think they would understand, as well as want you to be happy.

I can''t wait until you get them so we can see them both on you!

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