Anchor31

[fisherofmengirly]

You know, I was just thinking, if you were right on what you *thought* your J would do, you''d still have almost a whole THREE weeks to go before being engaged. Yay you were wrong, huh?

I do hope your ring is back and fitting perfectly soon, girl! I just think it''s so pretty on your hand. And how cute that both you and Equ get boys who willingly "re-engage" you in the morning.

I wonder if Paul will do that this weekend! Haha, if I think about it, I''ll ask him to. I''m going to try sleeping without it on again tonight; I''m paranoid.

Ooh, and while I have you, Anchor, why did you pick the name? Do you like to boat? That was my first guess, anyway.

 

[anchor31]

Aw, fisher, you are so sweet!!

J actually confessed last week that he WAS throwing me off by talking about picking up the ring in late July and proposing on our anniversary!!! Sneaky sneaky sneaky man!! I never thought he would do that, he''s so much of a straight-forward person and he''s never ever lied to me or thrown me off before!! He said that he was planning on proposing in July as soon as he had the money and the ring, one way or another. I''m so happy it turned out the way it did! Of course, I didn''t have to wait those six more weeks, but I also got this wonderful surprise and a beautiful park proposal.

I love that he puts the ring back on my finger every morning we''re together... He told me he loves to do it too!

We''ve been together everyday but 10 since June 28... I haven''t seen him since Thursday and I already miss him!

I can''t wait until Wednesday, and hopefully he''ll have the ring with him!! I miss it and feel kind of not engaged without it.

Good luck sleeping without the ring... It''s funny, I would be too paranoid to sleep with it because I wouldn''t want to hurt it, me or J while sleeping!!

Hehe... Good question. My twin sister and I decided to go and get a tattoo 1½ years ago. I wanted to find a symbol that really connected to me, and an anchor was it. You can check out my posts about it right here: https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/tattoos-anyone.40875/page-3
I picked 31 for the number because our anniversary (and first kiss) was on August 31st 2003. It''s a happy number!! 14 is too now, of course...

 

[anchor31]

What about your name, fisher?

 

[sk8rjen]

Anchor -- I like your tat and what it symbolizes. Too bad I missed that thread -- I have 5 and am still trying to figure out what I want to do for Donovan''s (my youngest son -- I have one for each of my 2 older boys). I love it when people pick something important and not just something trendy.

Yes, Fisher, I am curious about your name as well.

jen

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Wow, Anchor. I never would have guessed that''s where the name came from. It''s a cool story, though. You have a twin? Are you identical? Was it hard when you grew up and sort of went your seperate ways? I always wonder about that with twins. I mean, you share this tiny little womb, then you grow up together, then you have to go live your own life. Did you both get your tattoos on the ankle?

My name is taken from the Bible when Jesus went calling to His disciples and He said, "come follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men." I''m a girl, so I added girly to the end. Those people left what they knew, what was comfortable for them, ties they had, dreams they had, and in stead sought God''s will for their lives, which was to learn and share the love of God. I strive to do the same.

 

[anchor31]

Heh, we get these questions a lot... We had a premature birth and I was the smallest, suffered hemorrage in the brain and have mild hemiplegia as a result. Because of that, my sister and I developed a big sister/little sister/co-dependancy relationship. My sister wrote an interesting essay on it a few months ago... I''ll see if I can find it for you. So, yeah, going our separate ways two years ago when we started college was pretty hard, but we sat down together and told each other that she doesn''t need to take care of me anymore, and I don''t need her to take care of me. She had a bit of a knee-jerk reaction when I got engaged last month, but she loves J very much, so things are fine again. It does help that our parents did the very best they could to raise us to become two different and independant women.

What an interesting and inspiring name, fisher! I have to admit I started going back to church only very recently, but I find myself to be more at peace with myself and my life since J helped me find my way back to God. I even bought myself a tiny WG cross pendant after church today.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I''ve always been curious about twins, and the separation that ends up happening, once adulthood is reached. I guess most people are curious about such things. I imagine the questions get old after awhile. Heehee. Sorry bout that.

I''m glad you''re feeling better about life now that you''re back in church. My God definitely grounds me, and I honestly would be *much* more dramatic and emotional if I didn''t have the reassurance that my life is being lived in order to serve God, and that His timing is better than mine, gosh, I''d be a wreck. Okay, okay, I didn''t handle the waiting game well at all, but if I''d not had the promise that my life is unfolding in just the right way, in the right time, I''d have been *way* more nuts.

I''m actually watching Miami Ink right now. I will never have a tattoo, but I love the stories behind why people choose them. Some are such beautiful works of art, too. One woman is getting one linked to her upcoming wedding, but I''ve not caught that whole story yet.

 

[anchor31]

Here's my sister's "essay". She posted this on her LiveJournal back in November.

On being a twin

I’m taking the opportunity to answer a question every three people out of four have asked me since I’ve been old enough to answer back: How is it like to be a twin?

Never given it much thought until very recently, actually. My automatic answer has always been that I don’t have any other reference to compare it with; I just don’t know anything else.

Pretty much the easy answer; no need to really think about it, no need to explain anything, no popping of anyone’s “omgtwinsaresocoolIwantatwintoo” bubble. Because you can still understand something that you’re not experiencing, so yeah, that’s a lame excuse.

Yes, being a twin can be considered a blessing. Your twin is your first love, your first friend, the one you’ve shared everything with, including your mother’s womb. There’s a strong emotional link.

But it’s not all happy and fluffy. It’s your first break-up, it’s not even having a face of your own when everyone says you look just the same, it’s people always mixing you up, it’s not only having to deal with your own feelings, but the feelings of your twin as well. And I’m sure you all agree that dealing with the feelings of one person is already more than enough. Being a twin, it’s also feeling responsible for the other (in my case, feeling like I need her to take care of me), it’s also losing a part of yourself whenever something bad happens to the other.

Having a close relationship can always be a wonderful experience, but it’s always much more difficult.

It would add to this that just like I couldn't imagine not having my fiancé in my life, I can't imagine not having her in my life. Not on the same level, but you get my meaning. Sometimes it's wonderful, sometimes it's really hard. We will always have a bond that I won't ever have with anyone else, even my fiancé. Of course, we both have had different life experiences and we have different opinions, interests and dreams, like any other siblings, but we do have a very deep level of understanding. That's why we have the most horrible rows of all, we know each other so well that we always hit where it hurts most. But I don't believe she ever meant to hurt me and I never meant to hurt her, so we forgive and forget.

 

[anchor31]

Date: 8/13/2006 8:16:59 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
I''m glad you''re feeling better about life now that you''re back in church. My God definitely grounds me, and I honestly would be *much* more dramatic and emotional if I didn''t have the reassurance that my life is being lived in order to serve God, and that His timing is better than mine, gosh, I''d be a wreck. Okay, okay, I didn''t handle the waiting game well at all, but if I''d not had the promise that my life is unfolding in just the right way, in the right time, I''d have been *way* more nuts.

It is very reassuring to think that our lives are lived in order to serve God. Life isn''t always easy, but if He thought I couldn''t handle the things coming my way, then he wouldn''t put them in my path. And there''s something so soothing about going to church... My fiancé is truly a blessing in my life, and I am extremely thankful that he helped me overcome the doubts I had about my faith.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Date: 8/13/2006 8:40:25 PM
Author: anchor31

Date: 8/13/2006 8:16:59 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
I''m glad you''re feeling better about life now that you''re back in church. My God definitely grounds me, and I honestly would be *much* more dramatic and emotional if I didn''t have the reassurance that my life is being lived in order to serve God, and that His timing is better than mine, gosh, I''d be a wreck. Okay, okay, I didn''t handle the waiting game well at all, but if I''d not had the promise that my life is unfolding in just the right way, in the right time, I''d have been *way* more nuts.

It is very reassuring to think that our lives are lived in order to serve God. Life isn''t always easy, but if He thought I couldn''t handle the things coming my way, then he wouldn''t put them in my path. And there''s something so soothing about going to church... My fiancé is truly a blessing in my life, and I am extremely thankful that he helped me overcome the doubts I had about my faith.

Oh Anchor, that makes me cry happy tears, girl! Paul, too, has helped me in so many ways to *see* faith alive, a real zeal for life, for living for God, for taking the words of the Bible and then living them. That and his *incredible* patience, ease of forgiveness. I just LOVE hearing about couples who grow in their faith, in their happiness, in their understanding of what really matters in life, because of their time together. It''s a miracle.

Yay! I pray you two continue growing together, always. What a joyful thought, that even through hard times, you''re growing all the more.

Are you going to post your necklace?

 

[Fancy605]

Wow, Fisher, when I first saw your name, I assumed (incorrectly) that it meant "fisher" in the sense that you were fishin'' for a guy hoping to catch one that you didn''t want to throw back. And I wondered about it because it made me think, "hmmm why on earth does she need to fish for more guys if she already has one that she likes enough to be engaged to?"
The Biblical explanation makes MUCH more sense.

Anchor, it''s neat that you are a twin. My B/F is a twin too!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Date: 8/13/2006 10:13:56 PM
Author: Fancy605
Wow, Fisher, when I first saw your name, I assumed (incorrectly) that it meant ''fisher'' in the sense that you were fishin'' for a guy hoping to catch one that you didn''t want to throw back. And I wondered about it because it made me think, ''hmmm why on earth does she need to fish for more guys if she already has one that she likes enough to be engaged to?''
The Biblical explanation makes MUCH more sense.

Anchor, it''s neat that you are a twin. My B/F is a twin too!

Haha, Fancy. That''s great!

I never thought about it any other sense that what I''d intended. Your thought makes sense, too, though. Heehee.

 

[anchor31]

Date: 8/13/2006 8:44:47 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly

Oh Anchor, that makes me cry happy tears, girl! Paul, too, has helped me in so many ways to *see* faith alive, a real zeal for life, for living for God, for taking the words of the Bible and then living them. That and his *incredible* patience, ease of forgiveness. I just LOVE hearing about couples who grow in their faith, in their happiness, in their understanding of what really matters in life, because of their time together. It''s a miracle.

Yay! I pray you two continue growing together, always. What a joyful thought, that even through hard times, you''re growing all the more.

Are you going to post your necklace?

Your Paul reminds me so much of my J, which is probably why I like him so much!

J has always impressed me so much with his patience and ease to forgive as well. I think that the fact that J helped me overcome the doubts I had in my faith created a very special bond between us, and yes, growing together in our faith brought us so much closer.

As for a picture of my pendant, it''s actually a plain baby cross pendant, so it''s very small and simple. It looks like this.