Annoyed!!

[moderatelypoorstudent]

Just a small rant:

My SO is a resident and is scheduled to work with this one particular resident for hopefully, the last time. And dont get me wrong, she seems nice enough. It''s just that: she''s 1 year his senior and so she gets to make the call schedule. And she''s just so super selfish. EVERY TIME that they''ve had to work at the same hospital she takes all the 3 day weekends off and puts my SO on call for the whole weekend. And I''m not talking about once or twice, I''m talking about every major holiday for the past two years!

So now, he''s not getting July 4th off and he''s working labor day weekend, did I mention, he''s also on call Memorial day weekend? And he didn''t get President''s day weekend off? And I had to spend thanksgiving with him in the on call apt? This one time, he was already on call at one hospital (luckily they''re home call -- meaning they need to stay within 20 min of the hospital) and someone else got sick at a different hospital. even though she was free that weekend, she claimed she had "an engagement" and asked my SO to pull double call. He spent the entire weekend driving between two hospitals. I wish he could say something, but I don''t know if he can.

Would anyone else be annoyed by this?

suggestions?

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

Yes I would be! Why doens''t ur bf stand up for himself and tell her to f-off?? He must be a nice guy

 

[moderatelypoorstudent]

Date: 5/21/2008 10:00:02 PM
Author: ilovethiswebsite
Yes I would be! Why doens''t ur bf stand up for himself and tell her to f-off?? He must be a nice guy

I wish it were so simple.

Cause man that''s what I''d like to tell her!!!

Since she makes the schedule, I don''t think it would make much of a difference. And, since you can''t avoid call unless you''re in the hospital because you''re that ill or your wife is in labor... you pretty much go in whenever you''re assigned. And I respect that she''s a year senior...but the other chief residents have never pulled stunts like this. I know it sounds sexist on my part, but I really feel like she''s making women look bad. (And I''m a woman) This is a surgical subspecialty and if you aren''t willing to put in the work of the rest of "the boys" then quite frankly, you''re not welcome to join them if you ask me.

Don''t get me wrong, I''m all for equality. But it''s not equal for her to be the only one who takes less call and shirks doing her share of the work. And it''s almost infuriating because that makes it harder for other women to get into the program because they remember her... and how lazy she was!!

feels nice to vent it out. I can''t wait till she leaves the program!

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

Date: 5/21/2008 10:12:30 PM
Author: moderatelypoorstudent

Date: 5/21/2008 10:00:02 PM

Author: ilovethiswebsite

Yes I would be! Why doens''t ur bf stand up for himself and tell her to f-off?? He must be a nice guy

I wish it were so simple.


Cause man that''s what I''d like to tell her!!!

Since she makes the schedule, I don''t think it would make much of a difference. And, since you can''t avoid call unless you''re in the hospital because you''re that ill or your wife is in labor... you pretty much go in whenever you''re assigned. And I respect that she''s a year senior...but the other chief residents have never pulled stunts like this. I know it sounds sexist on my part, but I really feel like she''s making women look bad. (And I''m a woman) This is a surgical subspecialty and if you aren''t willing to put in the work of the rest of ''the boys'' then quite frankly, you''re not welcome to join them if you ask me.


Don''t get me wrong, I''m all for equality. But it''s not equal for her to be the only one who takes less call and shirks doing her share of the work. And it''s almost infuriating because that makes it harder for other women to get into the program because they remember her... and how lazy she was!!


feels nice to vent it out. I can''t wait till she leaves the program!

Argh that is really frustrating!!! Thank god your bf is almost done... I guess there is nothing you can do but hang in there! All the sacrifices will be worth it in the end, and you are a good gf for sticking by his side and being patient!!!

 

[icet]

i was a chief, just tell him to speak to other chiefs who might see outside of the box. when you''re a hard worker,the seniors take advantage. in the end, he benefits because he''ll be better than his co residents because he''s exposed to more work so there is a light at the end of the tunnel with the girl thing, more than 50% of med students and residents are female including myself so i wouldn''t play that card. if a co-chief told me that this resident has been on call on holidays more than others than i would change it but usually everyone ends up working 2-3 holidays so if he didn''t work on new year''s or christmas than he would fairly have to work on the other holidays. and BTW, because July 4 is too close to the start of the new year (residency wise) alot of programs don''t consider it a holiday.
Good luck, hopefully i helped a little and at least there''s only a few more weeks till the seniors graduate!

 

[moderatelypoorstudent]

Date: 5/21/2008 11:16:50 PM
Author: icet
i was a chief, just tell him to speak to other chiefs who might see outside of the box. when you''re a hard worker,the seniors take advantage. in the end, he benefits because he''ll be better than his co residents because he''s exposed to more work so there is a light at the end of the tunnel with the girl thing, more than 50% of med students and residents are female including myself so i wouldn''t play that card. if a co-chief told me that this resident has been on call on holidays more than others than i would change it but usually everyone ends up working 2-3 holidays so if he didn''t work on new year''s or christmas than he would fairly have to work on the other holidays. and BTW, because July 4 is too close to the start of the new year (residency wise) alot of programs don''t consider it a holiday.

Good luck, hopefully i helped a little and at least there''s only a few more weeks till the seniors graduate!

Thanks!

And yes, I am fully aware that 50% of med students and residents are female (I am one of them). I simply think, that when you enter into a male predominant subspecialty, it is important that you don''t take this step for granted and start slacking. If that girl is unwilling to do the same amount of work as the other residents in her program, it may be all too easy for others in her program to conclude that she can''t cut it because she''s a woman, when in fact it is not because she is a woman, but just that she is lazy. You know what I mean? I hate to think that we give the "good old boys" any sound reason for being sexist.

SO does usually work half the holidays of each year, but when he''s on rotation with her, it''s EVERY holiday. It just gets so irritating. I''ll mention to him that he could ask one of the other chiefs, but he''s a nice guy and I think he''ll just suck it up.

 

[icet]

i see what you mean with the "male dominated" specialties but since i''ve become an attending in a "male dominated" field, i see more and more female residents in all specialties so the sex of the resident is not really an issue anymore. it''s 50/50 for gen surg at my hosp. A lazy resident is a lazy resident and everyone usually knows it. And i know this sucks but when the chiefs do the scheds, they usually put a strong res with a lazy intern and vice versa so i guess you and your SO should take it as a compliment that he''s on call with her. at least if he suffers in silence, he''ll know why.
Good luck with finals/steps