Another long wait......

[chocolatefudge]

Feel so sad When a Christmas day proposal didn''t come I accepted it and we had a lovely day. In the back of my mind I kept the thought that New Years Eve is approaching......
Anyway, today he was out football training and I was looking at all things ''weddingy'' and got myself a bit depressed about STILL not being engaged and wanting to be so badly. When my bf came home I sort of blurted out that I was upset about not being engaged and keep thinking about how long it will be. He was really nice to me but told me that he had no money for a ring yet and was struggling to save up for one. That did annoy be a bit as we both earn quite good money, and he earns more than me, a lot more when he''s having a good month.
Anyway I knew that he had some savings in an account as I saw it when he was doing some online banking this week. I mentioned this money to him and he really geuninely said, "That''s for my car next month." I''d completely forgotten about his MOT and insurance being due which is going to take all of the money.
So now I''m gutted! Not only is no proposal coming over Christmas time but it won''t be coming for quite a while yet as he has no money at all for a ring. How much longer?!?
He says he can save about £200 a month towards a ring. I don''t know how much he would spend on it but I''d say I''m looking at quite a long wait......

 

[bee*]

Sorry to hear that the engagement will still be a bit off. If it''s any consolation, I was with D for nearly 8 and a half years when we got engaged and it was worth the wait, especially as he had saved the money in cash and didn''t have to go into debt to buy the ring. Hopefully he can get that money saved quickly and you two can get engaged soon. Or he could get you a placeholder ring until he has the money to get one that you both like?

 

[MissErin]

Oh wow - that would be really tough.

I wish I could help make things better. Just try to remember everything happens for a reason and in the end, it will all work out. He obviously loves you and wants to marry you so it is coming, just not at this very moment... or so you know...

Keep your head up hun - our boys can be quite tricky sometimes.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I know it’s hard to wait. Especially when it feels like the only thing holding you back is money. I am in a similar situation with my SO…we both earn respectable salaries but because we both have newer cars and a house together, our money is always going towards these investments. It’s extremely frustrating but I often times take comfort in the fact that I know WHY it isn’t happening yet. It also sounded like he has a fluctuating income (he makes more than you when he’s had a good month). If this is true you need to take the months where he isn’t having a good month into consideration as well.

If he is saving for your ring, you are in a very good position. Depending on your personal feelings, you can always get a smaller ring now and upgrade at a later date. As hard as it is just try and take comfort in the fact that he is trying to save for your future together. Again, I am uncertain how traditional you wish the proposal to be but if you really wanted to move things along, maybe you could offer to contribute to the cost of your dream ring to help bring your wishes to reality a little sooner

 

[INdmbLove]

I can relate- about a month before Christmas BF ran into some bad financial luck- an expensive repair to his car and then some health bills that popped up and pretty much maxed out all of his cash flow... We''re both just starting to kind of get on our feet- so that knocked him back pretty hard.
I know that when we get engaged I will not be getting a large stone- we''re trying very very hard to not go into debt on those types of things- It will be another excuse in 5- 10 years for me to continue to look at beautiful diamond rings again!