another newbie here

[hatingwaiting]

hello!
Been lurking for the past week or so but I''m having major LIW symptoms today so I thought I''d post.
I''v been with my bf for 2 years and marraige was implied from the start. Last week was out 2 year "dating" anniversary which was when I thought he''d propose but it was a no-go. Today is my birthday and I''ve been going nuts not wanting to wait for even ONE more day. Maybe its just birthday anxiety but I think I might snap and ask him to marry me today. Even despite the obsession with having pretty, sparkly diamond ring.

All my life changing experiances have been made flying by the seat of my pants...so what do you guys think? should I do it today?

 

[JulieN]

HW, i know it''s hard, but don''t do things because you''re anxious. Or impulsive. Not really the best conditions to ask someone to attach their life to yours. Maybe have a talk with him and get the both of you on the same page.

 

[IrishAngel7982]

Yes, spontaneity isn''t always the best course of action. If it doesn''t happen, you should have a talk about future plans and check in as to where you both stand. You never know what''ll happen!

 

[MissAva]

HW- Love the screen name, very cute!
I would not ask him on a whim, you might really upset him.

 

[Blenheim]

Hi Hatingwaiting! Welcome!

How do you think he would take a proposal? A lot of guys want to be the ones to propose, and for all you know he may be trying to think of something to surprise you. Instead of proposing on a whim, it might be a good idea to have a talk with your boyfriend. Make sure that you''re both on the same page regarding marriage and see if he can give you some sort of timeline. I calmed down a lot when my fiance told me what his deadline was, and I know that a lot of other ladies here have expressed the same thing.

"All my life changing experiences have been made flying by the seat of my pants." This sentence kind of jumped out at me. I''ve made my share of impulsive decisions, but I''ve made very few knowing that they might or could be life changing. It''s more like, where do I want to eat dinner tonight? Where do I want to travel this weekend? I respect my gut feeling in major decisions, but I make sure that I really think things through. I wouldn''t call it "flying by the seat of my pants." I know that there are some people who thrive off of certain amounts of chaos or adventure. Do you think that that might apply to you? Is that somehow affecting your decision? If so, should it?

And happy birthday! I hope that you have a great time tonight.

 

[ladykemma]

in the old days a parent or other adult would take the young man out and ask him what his intentions were.... can you ask him what his intentions are?

 

[sk8rjen]

Hi and welcome! The others all said it well, so I am looking forward to hearing what you decided to do! Either way, hope your stay here is short

jen

 

[sumbride]

No, No, No! Don''t do it today!!!

I totally understand the anxiety and impatience, but if he''s the kind of guy that really wants to be the one to do it than you''ll be "stealing his thunder". You should definitely have a chat with him about timelines and such, but resist the temptation to propose today. We can help get you through the LIW syndrome! We''ve all had a taste of it!

and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

 

[hatingwaiting]

I didn''t do it. He was nervous about getting dental surgery on tuesday and I calmed down from eating too much cake. Believe me, I''m normally a passive person but big decisions always hit me like this- just take me by storm.
Today is just as bad though, all the Mother''s Day jewellery flyers sitting around the house isn''t helping.
Thanks for the support, maybe I''ll go get on the LIW list.