Anyone nervous?

[Kayakqueen83]

Silly question to ask, I know. Let me preface this by saying that I’m Extremely excited about getting married to Mr. Man… but now that I know it will be probably happening sooner then I thought… I’m getting nervous!

Last week was my birthday (woohoo) and we had some old friends from college come down to visit us. After a few cocktails I mentioned to one of my friends that my FF has been acting a little “off” lately… really giddy to “start our lives together”. I told my friend that I thought he might actually propose sooner then I planed… like maybe in about 6 months or so and laughed and said “more like 2 months” My heart stopped… It seems like we have both known that we are going to get engaged and get married for so long… and the answer in regards to “when” has always been in about a year or two. Now it’s REALLY happening, especially now that he has this great job and we are moving. It seems so surreal.

I think maybe one of the reasons I am nervous is because with the engagement comes planning the wedding. And while I’m excited about that, I am NOT excited with dealing with my newly divorced parents and their issues…. I’m really dreading it actually. Plus my anxiety issues are already rearing their ugly head…. Just the THOUGHT of people looking at me for an entire night gives me the willies!

Anyone felt something similar once you realized that “it” was really happening… or am I just crazy?

haha

Edited because I can't spell.... opps!

 

[KCCutie]

Oh heavens no! You are not crazy! I feel the same way although I''m not sure nervous is the perfect way to express it.

I had prepared myself before I had a talk with my SO that he would ask for another year or so and I was okay with that, then we had the talk and he countered with maybe after October but sometime this year. Then a few weeks later it changed again to before we move in together when my lease is up Aug 30, and now he''s saying he wants to get married in January! I mean I''m so happy but wow this is all happening so fast. I find myself feeling a little anxious about how my family will react to this quick pace. Change in general is exciting and makes lots of people nervous and this is a huge change so I think you;d be abnormal if you weren''t a little nervous.

 

[Just_Me]

I think it is pretty normal. It is just so exciting and wonderful and I get those anxious butterflies in my stomach!

I really don''t feel I am nervous, maybe nervous excitment would be a better way to describe it?

 

[gwendolyn]

Aye, nervous excitement. Definitely.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I agree with "nervous excitement".

I am actually really curious to see how I end up reacting. I imagine that I will get all weepy and probably shake a bit but I''ve heard a lot of ladies say that when it actually happens, they do not react as they envisioned.

What I am most curious about is if I will see it coming from a mile away or if I will be caught completely off guard.

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 5/7/2008 12:02:23 PM
Author: Keepingthefaith21
What I am most curious about is if I will see it coming from a mile away or if I will be caught completely off guard.

I suspect I will see it coming from a mile away. J is an easier read than a romance novel.

 

[Kayakqueen83]

"nervous excitement" is a great way to put it!!!

It''s kind-of surreal.... Like, this can''t REALLY be happening, right? I''ve been looking forward to it for so long, it''s hard to believe that it''s actually almost here!

 

[ringless]

I am getting a little nervous. I'm going out of town this weekend and I am having jitters about it... not sure but you never know!

I HATE thinking every moment were out together is THE one.. but we haven't been on a vacation just the two of us in a really long time and he seems to be more excited about it than I am... so we'll see!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Laila619]

Date: 5/7/2008 9:52:54 AM
Author:Kayakqueen83

Anyone felt something similar once you realized that “it” was really happening… or am I just crazy?

Yes, I totally understand how you''re feeling. My boyfriend told me he''d be proposing by this July. That makes me happy, but I''m also feeling nervous and thinking, "Oh my gosh, is this really it forever? What if it''s not right?" I''m more happy than nervous, but still. I think it''s natural to be a little nervous now that it''s totally "real" and not just a nice thought for the distant future.

 

[lliang_chi]

I''m sure the nervous excitement will just give way to excitement. Craziness of wedding planning still doesn''t make the (happy) butterflies go away.

 

[that_someone_special]

I''m nervous too! We first thought we''d get engaged after dating a year. A year passed and we decided we wanted more time! Now, we''ve been dating a year and a half, and I know it''ll be within the next 4 months (knowing him, 3 months and 29 days

) Anyways, I feel nervous! I was looking at The Knot last night looking at the budget planner and thought, "holy moly. how are we going to afford this? we have too many friends!" lol

I''m more nervous about the planning than the engagement. I love him to pieces so I''m more than ready to be engaged and I''m glad we waited longer. BUT everything else is making me nervous. What if I mess it up? What if people cant make it to the wedding? What if it rains? What if i''m sick? What if what if???

You are so not alone!!

 

[kittybean]

Date: 5/7/2008 12:02:23 PM
Author: Keepingthefaith21
I agree with ''nervous excitement''.


I am actually really curious to see how I end up reacting. I imagine that I will get all weepy and probably shake a bit but I''ve heard a lot of ladies say that when it actually happens, they do not react as they envisioned.


What I am most curious about is if I will see it coming from a mile away or if I will be caught completely off guard.

I think I am going to see it from a mile away. BF just told me to keep weekends of June 14 and June 28 free to do "something" for our two-year anniversary, and he seemed a little weird and nervous when he said it. Hmmmm. I was kind of hoping it would be this month, but I know what happens when I get my hopes up.

I agree on the nervous excitement.

 

[Babyblue033]

Date: 5/7/2008 9:52:54 AM
Author:Kayakqueen83
I think maybe one of the reasons I am nervous is because with the engagement comes planning the wedding. And while I’m excited about that, I am NOT excited with dealing with my newly divorced parents and their issues…. I’m really dreading it actually.

I thought I was the only one! We have just ordered the ring and I am SO excited about being engaged to my BF. However planning the wedding, especially dealing with my family and his family drama, keeps me up at night!

I swear if I didn''t love him enough, I''d stay single forever just because of that...

I''m hoping for a longer engagement where I can just enjoy this happy time with my BF without anyone spoiling it for us.

 

[redfaerythinker]

I feel the same way. It''s IMHO a ver healthy thing to feel a bit nervous. It means your not taking this important step too lightly.