Anyone out there good at dream interpretation?

[sandia_rose]

Any of you ladies good at dream interpretation? I had a doozy of a dream last night that disturbed me but that also might mean something in the scheme of things. Interested to hear what y''all think.

Background: I''ve been with my boyfriend now for 2 years. We''re very much in love and have discussed marriage here and there but haven''t made any definate plans for the future. He does know, though, that I am getting antsy -- and I''ve also told him that I can''t be "just a girlfriend" for more than 2-1/2 years. I''ve been so busy with holiday stuff that I haven''t even thought about marriage or rings or anything for days. My dream last night was this:

** I was in a fancy restaurant that kind of reminded me of Tavern on the Green in New York City - nice outdoor tables, white lights in the trees, wait staff all in black, by a little pond, etc. I was dressed up like I was going somewhere (this is where it gets WEIRD) and realized I was with this oafy guy that I used to work with several years ago. In real life, I never had any "feelings" for this guy at all - in fact, I found him borderline unattractive (he reminds me of a human Shrek, not to mention smelled like one!) and annoying in an office-guy kind of way. I should also point out that in real life, this guy never showed interest in me and is presently engaged to his long-time girlfriend. However, in the dream, we were sitting down at this snazzy table having dinner when I realized that he was taking something out of his pocket. The room focused on us and he took out a box and proposed. Inside the box was a version of my dream ring - a small champagne Asscher in platinum with a halo....only I saw in the light that the stone had very obvious scratches and flaws in it. For whatever reason in my dream, I was thrilled to be proposed to by this guy with that cruddy ring! And so we danced around, people came up congratulating us, etc. Then he asked me if I would like to go and check out the pond, and I said yes. We walked up a long staircase -- and then I remembered my boyfriend!! I woke up with this weird feeling of dread and sick freak-out at thinking about telling him I was marrying some other guy -- or at having to tell this other guy that ''oops! I''m actually with someone else'' **

It took a hot shower, 2 cups of coffee and hitting the 5 degree blast of arctic air (yep, it''s that cold here today and windy - I am not a fan of New England weather at all

) on the way to my car to get this freaky dream and the discomfort of it out of my head!!

Anyone have any ideas on what this might mean/symbolize? Usually, I can pinpoint the dreams I have to something going on in my life, but not this one. I am not mad at my boyfriend, I still find the thought of office-guy repulsive and I would NEVER, EVER leave my guy for someone else!

Bridget in Connecticut.

 

[sweetjettagirl04]

Wow - that is a crazy dream! I''m not an expert - but there are websites where you can pinpoint certain aspects of the dream, and interpret what they mean. I''ve done that more times than I can count, and once I look at all of them put together, they make sense - and let me tell you, just because another man is in your dream and proposes, doesn''t necessarily mean you''re dreaming about that guy. I''ve had that happen, too, where I was dating one of my best guy friends. Here''s a link to the one I go to when I want to research - http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/

 

[partgypsy]

Sometimes a banana is just a banana...

I think it''s just a classic anxiety dream. Though I''m not someone to be late or blow of classes at school, I would have this recurring dream that I''m at school, and I forgot that I hadn''t been going to one of my classes all semester long and the final is today, and I need to figure out where the class is, variations on that theme.
You are probably thinking about marriage, commitment, also giving up other possible relationships to be with your boyfriend. When you are dreaming your brain is trying to problem solve and does that by combining the possible variations together, even if they are very improbable.
So from your dream it sounds like you are looking forward and happy to be engaged, but find it distasteful to have it be someone who is not your boyfriend.

 

[Mara]

lol part gypsy, ''sometimes a banana is just banana''...are you SURE it''s not an apple? hehe just kidding, that made me laugh. i totally agree by the way.

sandia, i agree with pg...you are probably thinking about marriage and committment in your subconscious. even when we aren''t thinking that we are THINKING about it, we can be thinking about it.

you might be thinking about the people who passed through your life on your way to find your mate now. you might be thinking about what your perfect ring is like.

making a committment to one person is a big deal. your brain is probably working overtime behind the scenes without you even realizing it. i wouldn''t worry about the dream (if you were scrutinizing it too closely, you might think oh does this mean that i am willing to marry anyone just to get my perfect ring, or what does it mean that i am happy to be marrying this guy who drove me crazy...like i am going to settle or whatever)...but don''t overanalyze it too much if at all. i have some CRAZY dreams sometimes about people i haven''t thought about in years and i am always like WOAH where did that come from. sometimes there''s just no real explanation!

 

[Delster]

I also think it''s an anxiety dream, and if you think about it, it''s got a positive outcome - look how queasy you woke up feeling at the thought of anything getting in the way of your relationship with your BF! Maybe your mind is processing the meaning of ''forever'' with one person and is rejecting other possibilities...?

Another take on the whole dream thing is Freud''s theory that each person in our dreams is a version of ourselves - each person appearing in our dreams represents a particular facet of our personalities. I don''t know if that helps at all but it''s another interpretative method if you want it!

Speaking of dreams, I dreamt last night that I watched, and was helpless to prevent it, as my BF married someone else. It was HORRIBLE!!! Ugghhhh!

 

[sandia_rose]

Date: 1/3/2008 2:47:59 PM
Author: Delster
I also think it''s an anxiety dream, and if you think about it, it''s got a positive outcome - look how queasy you woke up feeling at the thought of anything getting in the way of your relationship with your BF! Maybe your mind is processing the meaning of ''forever'' with one person and is rejecting other possibilities...?

It''s funny that you write that.....I had that thought on New Year''s Eve. It was actually a positive thing that kicked it off. We had gone to a restaurant with 4 other couples -- the place had dinner, open bar and a DJ. The DJ was playing Frank Sinatra and this oldoldoldOLD couple got out on the floor to dance. By "old," they had to be pushing 90 if not actually there. My boyfriend and I were watching them, and he said, "You ever notice that all of those couples of a certain age can really dance?" And I said, "Yeah....my grandfather was an excellent dancer. He was a macho kind of a guy who was VERY aware of his manliness and about not doing things that were unmanly, and he commented one time that the only reason he learned to dance was because back in the day, a guy couldn''t get a date if he didn''t know how to dance." I was watching them and saw that they had wedding bands on - and you can tell those older people who have been married forever because they move together as if they were one person. Now, my boyfriend is an awesome dancer, while I just have no rhythm at all. He teases me about this all the time. He said, "You''re lucky you can dance, or I wouldn''t be dating you." I playfully smacked him on the arm and said, "Well, you teach me, then." And he said, "That just might take forever, but I think I''m up to the challenge."

And watching that couple dance, I was thinking about spending forever with my guy. Maybe that''s where it came from?

All I can think about is that I would NOT want to be married to the guy in my dream. Maybe his real-life fiancee sees his "inner beauty"? He reminded me of the chunky kid from Superbad and even though I have not worked with him in years, I can still remember how he walked around the office smelling like McDonald''s Breakfast Burritoes.

Bridget in Connecticut.

 

[Hera]

1. Maybe a fear of marrying the wrong guy?

2. Maybe a fear he may turn out to be like the guy you weren't attracted to?

3. Fear you're making the wrong decision?

just some thoughts... It's normal to have some fears.