Are some girls really this dumb/clueless???

[blondebunny]

OK so this is kind of long... but im seriously sitting here going WTF...

SO... There is this girl that works in the M&M office at my and BF''s school... My BF and his friends call her "Bird Girl". Well she is like obsessed with my BF... Everytime he goes in there, she goes oh HI!! You need to come in here more often... blah blah blah... She does it EVErYTIME he goes in there to do something. which was a lot in Spring semester since he was graduating and had to take care of some stuff...

WELL... we realized one day that she lived NEXT DOOR TO US.. literally the townhouse connected to us!!! We didnt realize it for a while because he had only started going into the office and stuff, and then when we saw her, we about died...

WELL... BF is back in grad school now and had to go get keys for his office, and of course had to get them from her... well she of course makes some comments of house she hasnt seen him in a while, blah blah blah, he should come say hi more often..

OH.. and she has seen us together numerous times and has even said HI to me...

OH... and they are friends on facebook, so I know she stalks him... and it says IN A RELATIONSHIP on there..

SO to my point... Today she goes into his office "looking" for this girl that TA''s with them, KNOWING she is in spinning class, well he and his friends were trying to study and trying to get her to leave so they could... but she started telling them how she likes to booty dance and crap, and so they were just trying to be nice...

WELL my BF''s friend was talking about how he is learning ball dancing for his wedding, and my BF goes.. "Ya, my girlfriend watched this show where they did the regular thing then switch to do a hip hop routine and wants to do it for our wedding"... and he said she snapped her head around and said " YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND!! I DIDNT KNOW YOU HAD A GIRLFRIEND!! DO I KNOW HER??? WHO IS SHE!!" My Bf said he didnt know what to say and was like ya uhhh duhhh LOL.. and then she left like 2 seconds later...

SO... was she playing dumb or WHAT?? I mean we lived in a 3 bedroom townhouse.. JUST THE TWO OF US!! We were always coming and going together... WHat the hell did she think?!?!?!?!?!? She has even said hi to me when we were together... My BF told me and I just sat there going WTF is wrong with this girl?!?!?!!?!? We lived next door to her for 1 1/2 yrs... and then we moved OUT together..?!?!?!? OH and I know she probably looks at his facebook page which says in a relationship, and i always right I love you on his page and all of his albums have me in it??!?!

Im not worried or anything, but just confused, I mean not to offend, but seriously is she playing dumb or just dumb or just doesnt know how to put things together??!?!? Sorry for the rant... im just sitting here puzzled?!?

 

[gwendolyn]

*shrugs* Sometimes people just see what they want to see. I don''t think it has anything to do with her intelligence; maybe she collects friends on Facebook and doesn''t actually keep up with what''s going on with them. But really, who cares? I think it''s at least as odd that you devoted a rather long post to talking about it.

 

[Circe]

I wouldn''t read too much into it ... it sounds like she''s a gossip/flirt/basic social personality, but not like she''s going after your boy. Don''t sweat it.

 

[AdiS]

Well, some people are just plain dumb.

My hubby has this colleague (he''s her immediate boss, btw) who is always trying (not so elegantly) to flirt with him. That drves him mad since she''s supposed to do her job and listen to his orders instead of fluttering her lashes at him. lol He''s so strict. Anyway, hubby has our wedding pic as his desktop background (you think that''s obvious enough, huh?) So one day he''s instructing this girl on a contract or something and she notices the wedding picture and exclaims: "You are married? To a BLONDE?!!" Oh, I just about died laughing when he told me that. And he''s like "No, I just photoshoped the pic for fun." ROFLMAO

 

[FrekeChild]

Are some girls really this dumb/clueless???

Yes, yes they are.

 

[somehowcollide]

Date: 10/10/2008 2:21:52 AM
Author: gwendolyn
*shrugs* Sometimes people just see what they want to see. I don''t think it has anything to do with her intelligence; maybe she collects friends on Facebook and doesn''t actually keep up with what''s going on with them. But really, who cares? I think it''s at least as odd that you devoted a rather long post to talking about it.

Kinda gotta agree with Gwendolyn on this one. Why is it buggin'' you so much?

 

[diamondfan]

She might like him, and it is something she has not wanted to pay attention to. Now he has SAID it, so she has to.

 

[Blackpaw]

I concur with Gwendolyn, Freke etc

Some girls really are that stupid. And some choose to see only what they want to....

 

[dec2410]

man.......girls like that give all womenkind a bad name.

 

[Lauren8211]

Yes, girls are that dumb and clueless. Absolutely.

I know why you''re worked up about it. It''s annoying. Luckily, she sounds like the sort of girl who just flirts with all guys, and probably doesn''t have a specific interest in your boyfriend. Feigning an interest in his girlfriend is her way of showing confidence, in that she isn''t intimidated by other girls. Most likely, she is. She''s using your boyfriend as a way to make herself feel better. I''ve dealt with girls like this before. If she can get your boyfriend to be nice or flirt a little back, she feels better about herself. She probably doesn''t even notice that your boyfriend is just being nice, but that he''s talking to her. She sees what she wants to see.

It''s probably just her own self-esteem issues, and now that she knows that he has a girlfriend, she has no reason to continue to the flirting.

Try not to let it bug you. You trust your boyfriend. If she gets out of hand, I''m sure your boyfriend will take care of the situation. Don''t give her the power to get under your skin.

 

[allycat0303]

I don`t know, sometimes, it`s not obvious. Maybe the time she saw you guys together you weren`t holding hands or something? Or maybe she really just didn`t pay attention to the living arrangements. I don`t know, I`m not that in tune with everyone else`s life, I can never tell who is dating who, unless they are PDA-ing. My close friends I notice, but acquantinces, I barely care, so I often have the ''''I didn`t know you were dating reaction''''. I wouldn''t worry about it, unless she was coming on to your boyfriend.

 

[mimzy]

Date: 10/10/2008 2:21:52 AM
Author: gwendolyn
*shrugs* Sometimes people just see what they want to see. I don''t think it has anything to do with her intelligence; maybe she collects friends on Facebook and doesn''t actually keep up with what''s going on with them. But really, who cares? I think it''s at least as odd that you devoted a rather long post to talking about it.

yeah..ditto. what makes you think that she stalks your BF and is obsessed with him? just because she''s energetic when she sees him? if anything i''d say that her not knowing about you would convince you of the opposite - that she really doesn''t pay all that much attention to him at all. you said yourself that you didn''t know that you lived next door to her for a long time, maybe she was equally unaware, even after you realized it. she probably just paying that much attention.

 

[dragonfly411]

Freke - I love you for saying that. Its so true.


SO has an ex.....she''s crazy.... and a stalker.... the end!

 

[Bia]

definitely dont lose sleep over this chick.

 

[ang3199]

Date: 10/10/2008 3:43:37 AM
Author: AdiS
Well, some people are just plain dumb.

My hubby has this colleague (he''s her immediate boss, btw) who is always trying (not so elegantly) to flirt with him. That drves him mad since she''s supposed to do her job and listen to his orders instead of fluttering her lashes at him. lol He''s so strict. Anyway, hubby has our wedding pic as his desktop background (you think that''s obvious enough, huh?) So one day he''s instructing this girl on a contract or something and she notices the wedding picture and exclaims: ''You are married? To a BLONDE?!!'' Oh, I just about died laughing when he told me that. And he''s like ''No, I just photoshoped the pic for fun.'' ROFLMAO

HAHAHHA. Classic....

 

[blondebunny]

Like I said, Im not worried at all, I was just confused as to why she didnt think he had a girlfriend when she saw us together numerous times, and SHE friend requested him on facebook...he didnt wanna be mean so he accepted it... I mean I know at some point she HAD to look at it and realize he had a GF...

I know she is obsessed with him because if his friends come in with him or without him she asks where he is and stuff....

OH and I know she stalks him because she went to his office and then she was also saying your office hours are like on tues/thurs or something....why would it matter when his hours were...

I always just thought it was weird she would talk away to him at school but when she saw him/or us at our place she only ever said HI...

I guess I also just find it disrespectful to try to flirt with other girls boyfriends(I dont do it I find it extremely rude) unless you dont know they had one.. and I was just confused how she could never come to conclude that he had girlfriend... OH well... crazy girls..

 

[Smurfysmiles]

there is a girl i work with who is like this. she flirts with all the guys who have girlfriends or fiances or wives. we were at the bar one night and she was even semi flirting with my fi right in front of me (they went to college together) and i was beyond irate. i make a point to avoid her from now on and don''t have fi stop by the office anymore (we''re moving in less than a month so its not a huge deal) girls like that are the worst
and i bet she does know what shes doing. some girls are just so insecure they will get attention anywhere and anyway they can find it, ugh.

 

[absolut_blonde]

There was a girl like this early on in my relationship with SO (she worked at the coffee place he went to every morning on the way to work). She would do things like draw hearts on his coffee cup! Psycho. She also obtained his number under false pretenses (he's a contractor who does side jobs and her friend pretended it was for that) and called/texted him randomly. SO basically ignored her/blew her off and she finally went away with time.

I find things like that more amusing than anything. SO is pretty hot, so I've seen him get hit on or get the googly eyes relatively often. It doesn't bother me, really. I know SO's not going anywhere so if you'd like to embarass yourself by fawning all over him, well, knock yourself out.

 

[Haven]

I agree that you shouldn''t lose sleep over this girl, especially because it''s likely that she won''t be the last girl who is crushing on your man.

My hubby is a muscle specialist, and he treats people who have muscular imbalances or pain. About half of his clients are pro-athletes, and the other half are regular people who just work out way too much. He has several desperate housewives-type clients, as well as some younger college-level female athletes, and many of them flirt with him relentlessly. Luckily, hubby is a) totally clueless when it comes to flirting, and b) extremely professional. But it happens, and I definitely don''t sweat it. His business partner has told me some great stories about these women, and whenever they have parties and invite all their clients these women are always overly nice to me, and I definitely catch them looking me up and down. It actually kind of makes me smile because he''s all mine and they know it. And their behavior doesn''t bother me, because so do I.

 

[Pushin40]

Well......this is just me, but I really think that she knew exactly what she was doing.

She knew you existed (obviously) and I think her "oh you have a GF" comment was an invitatioon for your BF in a twisted way. As if he would say "yeah but I''m all set with her"....giving her an "open". She''s not stupid at all - she just doesn''t know how to keep her grubby paws off of a taken man!

I HATE THAT!

I would be just as annoyed as you are, my friend!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 10/10/2008 12:46:25 PM
Author: Pushin40
Well......this is just me, but I really think that she knew exactly what she was doing.

She knew you existed (obviously) and I think her ''oh you have a GF'' comment was an invitatioon for your BF in a twisted way. As if he would say ''yeah but I''m all set with her''....giving her an ''open''. She''s not stupid at all - she just doesn''t know how to keep her grubby paws off of a taken man!

I HATE THAT!

I would be just as annoyed as you are, my friend!

ITA.

Girls can be really mean, and a lot of them are. I''ve known quite a few girls that have used that tactic.

Flirting with someones SO is extremely disrespectful. Unfortunately, a lot of girls that do that don''t have respect for themselves, so they''re really not going to respect you.

Doesn''t mean you have to give her the time of day, though. You and your SO both know she''ll never get anywhere!

 

[Dreamgirl]

BB- Sometimes Bi**hes be crazy! Obviously she KNEW he had a girlfriend if you literally live next door! She just doesn't CARE! I've had similar things happen to my boyfriend. Girls will flirt with him sometimes WITH ME STANDING RIGHT THERE! ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?!? I wouldn't worry about it (as you said) but I know where you are coming from. It is upsetting when that happens. "Get your own!!!!!!!"

 

[dragonfly411]

What Dreamgirl said!!!


SO''s crazy ex went as far as to tell others that they were still together and I was trying to ruin her life and keep him away from her and he just felt sorry for me

I could do that roll eye endlessly here

 

[Halo]

Oh I've so been there.

My previous BF and I were at a restaurant and this waitress came to our table (she wasn't even our waitress) and kept giving him fresh drinks even though there was only about 20% gone from his glass. She kept her back to me the whole time and even though my glass was empty, she never once gave me a refill (even though the place has free refills). It really made me angry. He was oblivious to it all though.

My current BF and I went to a store and one of the employees seemed to keep staring at us, but I chocked it up to my imagination. I thought that maybe she was looking at someone else, but in hindsight there was no one else standing in our area. Anyway, about 2 days later my BF came over and told me that he had just gone back to that store and the same girl was there. He ordered a drink and she's like "Ooo, that's my favorite!" and when she gave him the drink he commented that there was a ton of strawberries in it (he told me after that it actually had too many

) and she was like "Yeah, I thought I would give you some extra so it would be really good and you'd come back. And who doesn't need some extra sweetening up?" I mean my God, really? What a LINE! BF said "It was pathetic. I'm never going back there, stupid girl."

It never ceases to amaze me when girls flirt with guys when they KNOW have girlfriends!! It drives me nuts too, so I can relate. But it sounds like Crazy McClueless will leave your BF alone from now on

!

 

[sugarjo]

Are some girls really dumb/clueless....


yes.

 

[dragonfly411]

Date: 10/10/2008 3:54:45 PM
Author: Halo
Oh I''ve so been there.


My previous BF and I were at a restaurant and this waitress came to our table (she wasn''t even our waitress) and kept giving him fresh drinks even though there was only about 20% gone from his glass. She kept her back to me the whole time and even though my glass was empty, she never once gave me a refill (even though the place has free refills). It really made me angry. He was oblivious to it all though.


My current BF and I went to a store and one of the employees seemed to keep staring at us, but I chocked it up to my imagination. I thought that maybe she was looking at someone else, but in hindsight there was no one else standing in our area. Anyway, about 2 days later my BF came over and told me that he had just gone back to that store and the same girl was there. He ordered a drink and she''s like ''Ooo, that''s my favorite!'' and when she gave him the drink he commented that there was a ton of strawberries in it (he told me after that it actually had too many

) and she was like ''Yeah, I thought I would give you some extra so it would be really good and you''d come back. And who doesn''t need some extra sweetening up?'' I mean my God, really? What a LINE! BF said ''It was pathetic. I''m never going back there, stupid girl.''


It never ceases to amaze me when girls flirt with guys when they KNOW have girlfriends!! It drives me nuts too, so I can relate. But it sounds like Crazy McClueless will leave your BF alone from now on

!

I HAVE STORY LIKE YOUR FIRST ONE BUT WORSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SO and I went with his friend to Hooter''s for friend''s 18th bday. The waitress was ALL ABOUT my SO. She refilled his drink often, flirted openly (HELLO I''m sitting RIGHT HERE), hung her tatas over the table (

) and SPILLED my RANCH in front of me! Flat out spilled it, didn''t make a MOVE to clean it up and said "oh honey let me get you a napkin so you don''t get your hand''s dirty"

Guess what her tip was

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Blondebunny, yes they are that dumb! I find it sooo annoying and trashy when girls flirt with taken men (and they know it). When BF and I first started going out, he was at a party when i was out of town (the party was in his apt. building) and this girl started chatting him up. He brought up the fact that he had a GF really quickly, and then get this- she asked him if he and his GF were in a monogamous relationship. Um, what the heck??? He was like, YEAH we ARE.

 

[diamondfan]

They are NOT stupid. They are passive aggressive. And they do not care if your guy is taken. They know he has a girlfriend. They simply do not care.

 

[supergirl10]

oh i think most people are being way to harsh on bb. I agree with the bottom few posters, that girl TOTALLY knew he had a gf. Women like this make me mad! Its like a competetive sport to try and flirt/date/hook up with men who are taken. Just tell you one thing about her, clearly she has major self esteem issues. My sister & her FI have just broken up because he slept with another girl. Granted it takes two to tango, but this girl has met my sister and knew he was engaged, that is just sick if you ask me!

 

[galeteia]

Aw, don''t feel bad, I had a girl who''d kept propositioning SO, despite him making it clear he had a girlfriend, try to break up our marriage when I finally responded to her incessant messaging and explained it was me using his laptop. She apparently didn''t like the news that his ''girlfriend'' was now his wife. If she''d been smart, she would have backed down, but apparently she''s hooked on the crazy juice.

It''s truly hilarious when people try to convince you your partner was out cheating on you with other women on specific nights he was home with you.

I think she was also trying to insinuate he had a few illegitimate children with this woman who "must have been [me] since the way they were acting it had to be his wife [ ... ] "

It was difficult to muffle my guffaws as I feared waking SO. Hysterical!