Independent Gal
Ideal_Rock
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- Nov 12, 2006
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I have a pal who lives far away. We met at a workshop years ago and had a really great time over the course of a few days goofing around, joking and chatting, went for a drink, hung out. Then we met up in New York, when I lived nearby, a few times and always had a great time. Since then we meet up every now and then when we''re geographically close by and we e-mail each other once a motnh or so and joke around over e-mail. He''s about 25 years older than me, and I foolishly didn''t realize at first that while I saw him as an extremely smart, insightful and interesting guy it''s fun to hang out with, he saw me as a beautiful and brainy young woman and fell head over heels in love with me.
He''s divorced and has a son whom he ADORES. He''s on good terms with his ex and isn''t a sleaze or anything like that. Just a hopeless (and I mean HOPELESS!) romantic.
He told me about his feelings, and I made ABSOLUTELY clear that the age gap made it absolutely impossible, it would never be, end of story. I was nice about it, but VERY clear. He totally understood and it was cool. He just enjoys having me peripherally in his life, and I enjoy having him in mine. His e-mails are great! But I know he''s still deeply, deeply fond of me.
Anyway, I''ve always worked on the assumption which he once planted in my brain that he doesn''t want to know about my love life, and that if something ever got seriously serious, I would tell him about it then.
Well, we were writing each other today and I suddenly thought ''WOW, guess this counts.'' I thought it might be weird to suddenly be engaged and him not even know I''d been dating someone.
What do I say to him? Weird.
He''s divorced and has a son whom he ADORES. He''s on good terms with his ex and isn''t a sleaze or anything like that. Just a hopeless (and I mean HOPELESS!) romantic.
He told me about his feelings, and I made ABSOLUTELY clear that the age gap made it absolutely impossible, it would never be, end of story. I was nice about it, but VERY clear. He totally understood and it was cool. He just enjoys having me peripherally in his life, and I enjoy having him in mine. His e-mails are great! But I know he''s still deeply, deeply fond of me.
Anyway, I''ve always worked on the assumption which he once planted in my brain that he doesn''t want to know about my love life, and that if something ever got seriously serious, I would tell him about it then.
Well, we were writing each other today and I suddenly thought ''WOW, guess this counts.'' I thought it might be weird to suddenly be engaged and him not even know I''d been dating someone.
What do I say to him? Weird.

