Attack of the engagements....RANT!

[BriBee]

Soooo, just blowing off some steam here, but I am beginning to DREAD the weekends! Because afterwards, it seems there are at LEAST 2 more engagements in my social circle that I end up hearing about!!! It seems to be engagement fever is surrounding me everywhere I go! Are these happy couples just TRYING to taunt me????

It''s just hard to sit back and hear all the stories, and then I start thinking that if I get engaged anytime soon, it will just be lost in the sea of engagements.
On the one hand, I want it to happen so I can join the club and show off the ring etc...
On the other hand, it seems like no one is surprised or happy to hear of "just another engagement" since so many people seem to be popping the question around here.
Which brings me to another point....how are we going to fit all of these weddings in??? There are bound to be some conflicting dates and that would be horrible. I would hate to get married the same day as someone else and then lose some of my guests, AHHHHHHH!
Well, I''m planning on a longer engagement, so hopefully that will help.
OK, done with the venting, just had to get it out after I learned of TWO MORE engagements since I''ve been sick and out of the loop!

 

[TravelingGal]

Well, it won''t be "just another engagement." It will be YOUR engagement, and I imagine you''d be the happiest about it anyway. But if people around you are not happy for you because there are so many others...well, are these really friends? And as for it being a "surprise", I don''t know of too many engagements that are really surprises. I mean, you''re expecting it, right? So if it''s not a surprise to you, why would it be for anyone else?

With so many people around you getting engaged, some overlap is bound to happen. Focus on the ones you really want to be there and just go from there. They''re really the ones that matter anyway.

 

[decodelighted]

It's better than DIVORCE "season" ...

... wait 10 years

and you'll know what I mean.

ETA: I don't mean YOU, btw ... just that DIVORCE seems as, um, contagious as engagements. and if there's a big flurry of weddings in a social group, almost like clockwork there's a big flurry of divorces *at some point*. I'm seeing it BIG TIME as I teeter on 40. Four couples that attended our wedding last October have separated since. We had 80 people there. That's 10%!! Since OCTOBER. Just sayin'....

EETA: Just realized I'm not really expressing my point -- Don't lump all engagements together. The only thing that matters is the quality of YOUR OWN relationship.

 

[TravelingGal]

Deco honey, you been drinkin'' this evenin''?

 

[KimberlyH]

For the second time today, What TG said.

Deco, you''re cracking me up. But I know what you mean, one of my closest friends just left her husband, she was married about 1 year before me and had a baby 7 months ago, really a sad situation.

Bri, when the time comes your engagement will be special to you, that is what really matters. Plus, you''ll have lots of people to enjoy the ride with, cuz they''re in your boat...so fun!

 

[TravelingGal]

Sadly, divorce season doesn''t even take 10 years to start. It''s usually about a 1 to 3 years after. My single 30 something friend once joked that first round picks were done...she was going to sit back and wait for the trades.

In my circle of friends, I feel fortunate that I don''t know anyone who has gotten divorced. But my close friend has had ALL her friends go through divorce and now some are even into their second divorces. I almost didn''t invite my friend to my wedding because we call her the curse. Every wedding she has gone to has ended in divorce.

 

[leoslove730]

Just a comment on "divorce season"...

My parents didn''t get engaged until 4 years of dating, and married at 5 years, but still, they took their time and waited. Well, all of their friends were in relationships for a year or two and got engaged and married around 3 years, and they were all getting divorced by the time my parents were getting married.

My mom keeps telling me not to jump on the first bridal wave that hits because of that reason... I know that not all couples who marry within a year or two end up divorced, but they were all pretty young when they married. My parents have been happily married for 28 years now, so I trust my mom. Well, not to mention bf doen''t look like he''s proposing anytime soon. LOL

 

[leoslove730]

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That is an excellent point.