Baby Fever - anyone else have it?

[absolut_blonde]

I suppose I am just impatient in general because in addition to being a LIW, I cannot wait to have kids. I''ve felt like this for years, now -- it started to hit when I was about 20. [Given that''s on the young side, I know a lot of that is probably just biological. Realistically I would''ve never wanted kids that early.]

But now that we''re mid-twenties, our friends and family are all starting to have kids. I am surrounded by cute babies! I know it''s not always a walk in the park. I see all sides of it from our close family - the extreme fatigue, the crying, the diapers. In spite of that, though, if we were married and financially stable enough, I''d be willing to have kids like, tomorrow.

Right now, the house SO is building is unexpectedly running behind schedule. Consequently, we''re staying with SO''s cousin, her husband and their baby. The baby really loves SO (SO is close with his cousin, he''s ''Uncle SO'' to the baby). And SO is so freaking cute with the baby. It''s not helping!

 

[vita*dolce]

i have *moments* of it, especially when SO is being adorable with his baby cousin! realistically, i''m not ready to have kids, but if you are, what''s the problem with that? are you just waiting for the house to be finished, or is it that you''re not married?

 

[Smurfysmiles]

its been hitting me biologically. SO and i were in a restaurant and a little baby was wheeled right next to our table and i made that "awwww" face and he said "are you nuts, we can hardly afford to take care of the cat, let alone a kid" and then i said "i know" and downtroddingly went back to my chicken strips haha

 

[absolut_blonde]

Date: 9/2/2008 1:35:41 PM
Author: vita*dolce
i have *moments* of it, especially when SO is being adorable with his baby cousin! realistically, i''m not ready to have kids, but if you are, what''s the problem with that? are you just waiting for the house to be finished, or is it that you''re not married?

Marriage and money. Realistically, we can''t afford a baby right now. SO''s not ready yet, either. I know he wants to establish himself more before we have kids. But still....

 

[Smurfysmiles]

weeeeeee look at this cute picture of a baby i found online!!!!
oh i am terrible

 

[Lauren8211]

I may have the wedding-bug, but I do NOT have the baby-bug. I''m missing that gene. I''m almost 26, and I do not at all have that burning desire to have a baby. I plan on putting that off until my early 30s at the earliest.

Watching friends with new babies quickly puts me back in my place if I think even for one SECOND that I want a baby right now. They sacrifice everything, and I''m not ready for that yet.

 

[vita*dolce]

OH MY GOD smurfy what are you DOING to us?!?!?! lol, that baby is adorable!!!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

hahahaha i smurfed you all!

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 9/2/2008 3:07:52 PM
Author: elledizzy5
I may have the wedding-bug, but I do NOT have the baby-bug. I''m missing that gene. I''m almost 26, and I do not at all have that burning desire to have a baby. I plan on putting that off until my early 30s at the earliest.


Watching friends with new babies quickly puts me back in my place if I think even for one SECOND that I want a baby right now. They sacrifice everything, and I''m not ready for that yet.

I''m with you Elle, as exemplified by the fact that my thought when reading Smurfy''s post was "Mmmmm.... Chicken Strips!!!"

Kids, maybe between 33-36. Adopted. If I feel like it. Probably not.

I love that I am dating someone that is ok with not having kids (dare I say enthusiastic), but I AM scared that I will change my mind and he will freak a little bit.

 

[radiantquest]

my thing is that i want babies, just babies, as in, not kids. i dont like kids. i think babies are great. they are so cute and perfect and innocent. i am 26 and coming to the realization that i may never have children. i want a mini-me. that would be cool. however that is not what i think i should feel when deciding to have children. i have been from wanting a baby so bad and wanting to never have em. i think i will just keep on with the birth control.

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 9/2/2008 3:07:52 PM
Author: elledizzy5
I may have the wedding-bug, but I do NOT have the baby-bug. I''m missing that gene. I''m almost 26, and I do not at all have that burning desire to have a baby. I plan on putting that off until my early 30s at the earliest.

Watching friends with new babies quickly puts me back in my place if I think even for one SECOND that I want a baby right now. They sacrifice everything, and I''m not ready for that yet.

LOL, I''m just starting to TTC now at 36. I hear you on everything you say!

I had to know I could look back and say I had lived and done and experienced as much as I could possibly want to before having a child and while I will have to make sacrifices - especially my own time - I''m now prepared to do that without resentment.

 

[TryingAgain]

Every now and then if I see a cute baby I briefly think I want one. Or like right now when I have a different friend giving birth or announcing their pregnant every week, I kinda want one. Then I realize that my puppy eats up ALL my free time and then SO eats up whatever he doesn''t. Well, it isn''t happening! I am about to turn 26 and SO is 24 and we''ve decided that babies won''t happen until I am at least 30. So every time I get the bug I babysit and it goes away quick.

 

[Lauren8211]

LOL Trillionare - I feel the same way about chicken strips!

Pandora - Exactly! FF and I want to exhaust our travel-bug before we start thinking about having babies. Plus we want to get dogs, and those require a good portion of our time. When I feel like I''ve gotten the 20-something antsiness (sp? is that a word?) out of me, and I''ve traveled a good amount, then we will consider having kids. So much to do before babies!

 

[iluvcarats]

After the day I''ve had with my kids - NOPE!

 

[Izzy03]

I know this sounds cheesy, but being with SO makes me want to have children. The lot of those crying, booger faced, poopy diaper critters never tickled my fancy before. But then I see SO with his nieces and nephews and I realize raising babies is something I would love to do with him. Before him, I just thought about everything I would have to do. Being with him, I realize it will not be all me, I will have plenty of help from him!

 

[zilaras]

Babies...That picture of baby is so gosh darn cute, I can''t handle it! I so have the baby bug...but my SO always reminds me that we can''t even afford to have a cat let alone take care of one hence, no baby. Plus I suppose if you count all my students I have around 33 kids....

 

[ladypirate]

I think FF has it more than I do--he just got back from being out of town for a contract job and said he kept getting all misty eyed when he saw mothers and children. Aww... He's a few years older, though, so maybe his clock is starting to tick.

In any case, he'll have to wait a few more years. My clock is saying "maybe around 29-30? later?" At that point he'll be 35 or so, and that seems like a good age to both of us.

ETA: Izzy, I completely know what you mean. I didn't want children until I started dating Kris...but I want children with him.

 

[Haven]

I had baby fever around the time of our wedding, which was not even two months ago.

But then we adopted a puppy, and I remembered how much work that is. And then I realized how much MORE work a baby is, and that fever went away very quickly. We decided we''ll start trying next fall, so we''ll hopefully have our first in about two years. That''s far enough away for me. I''m nearly 28, and hubby is 38, so we won''t be young, but we''ll be ready.

 

[sunnyd]

We just spent 5 days with my best friend, her husband and their 1 year old camping and riding in the same squished truck, and I can definitely say that YES, I have baby fever. It''s a low fever, because it wouldn''t be feasible at all to have a baby right now, but I''m feelin'' it!

Izzy, I know where you''re coming from too. SO is too cute with babies. By the end of the trip, the baby would walk over to him to get picked up. Ahhhh I can''t wait!

 

[BlueSki231]

Date: 9/2/2008 3:07:52 PM
Author: elledizzy5
I may have the wedding-bug, but I do NOT have the baby-bug. I''m missing that gene. I''m almost 26, and I do not at all have that burning desire to have a baby. I plan on putting that off until my early 30s at the earliest.


Watching friends with new babies quickly puts me back in my place if I think even for one SECOND that I want a baby right now. They sacrifice everything, and I''m not ready for that yet.

Oh my god I totally agree with that. I''m 26 and I have absolutely NO desire to EVER have children. In fact I''m somewhat repulsed by even the thought. I am definitely missing that gene. I dunno if it will hit me some day, but I can''t even picture myself as a mother.

I risk sounding like a total a-hole but... don''t hand me a baby cause it makes me extremely uncomfortable.. no idea what to do with it.

My first instinct is to hand it right back and thank the LORD it''s not mine. Not interested.

 

[dragonfly411]

I''m young 20''s and although I love the idea, right now I"m avoiding it like the plague!!! And it''s funny because only a small group of myself and my friends have not gone and gotten ourselves preggo. So we''re all telling each other not to drink the water lol

 

[Pandora II]

Date: 9/3/2008 1:35:53 PM
Author: Namaste

Date: 9/2/2008 3:07:52 PM
Author: elledizzy5
I may have the wedding-bug, but I do NOT have the baby-bug. I''m missing that gene. I''m almost 26, and I do not at all have that burning desire to have a baby. I plan on putting that off until my early 30s at the earliest.


Watching friends with new babies quickly puts me back in my place if I think even for one SECOND that I want a baby right now. They sacrifice everything, and I''m not ready for that yet.

Oh my god I totally agree with that. I''m 26 and I have absolutely NO desire to EVER have children. In fact I''m somewhat repulsed by even the thought. I am definitely missing that gene. I dunno if it will hit me some day, but I can''t even picture myself as a mother.

I risk sounding like a total a-hole but... don''t hand me a baby cause it makes me extremely uncomfortable.. no idea what to do with it.

My first instinct is to hand it right back and thank the LORD it''s not mine. Not interested.

I don''t think everyone gets hit by the bug in the same way - I''m excited to be trying for OUR baby, but I don''t go gooey over photos or random babies in prams etc

People know not to hand me their children - they normally take one look and bawl. I''m much better with animals!

I think it''s totally right to wait until you do feel ready - if ever - and don''t let anyone pressure you into it. You have to know that it''s the right moment for you.

 

[SparklyLibra]

I have been buggin out on the baby thing on and off for a while now... See my only biological child turns 8 in a few months, and while I love my speudo-step-kids to death, I want another one really really badly.

Circumstances right now are NOT condusive as we have some real estate deals that need to close ove the next 18 months... Unless some drastic financial changes occur, we can''t afford for me to take ANY time off with a baby

....

 

[vita*dolce]

i don''t think my biological clock has really started ticking, or maybe it''s broken, because i don''t really have the "aaaw" response to babies, i have it to puppies. i have an uncontrollable desire for puppies. like, lots of them... hehe.