been thinking about this...

[nytemist]

ever since I posted the pic of our weddings rings and asked for advice for inscriptions. Yesterday evening after going to the FedEx office to pick them up, my fiance had to stop to get gas. I sat in the car with the box in my lap and started to get really choked up. I''m not a weepy person; never have been. I don''t even cry much at funerals. Don''t cry when I''m injured, but for some reason I could barely keep the tears back and it was weird to me. I guess it hit me then that I''m really getting married. Or bride madness kicking in.

So, after the proposal, when did it really "hit you" that you were getting married?

 

[amyg]

i don''t think it hit me until after the wedding!! LOL...but I can definitely identify with the emotions...they run crazy in the last little bit before the wedding...

 

[sumbride]

That''s so cool!

I think I''m still waiting for that a-ha moment. I cried buckets after the proposal but I think a lot of it was relief. I''m still waiting to really feel different. I keep staring at the diamond and thinking wow, I call him my fiance, I''m making decisions on the wedding, but I still don''t have that "I''m getting married" feeling. Maybe because we already live together? Or that the ring came after the proposal? Or that we just haven''t gotten together with a big bunch of people and celebrated yet? I don''t know what it will take. I came pretty close when I was writing a letter to my brother to ask him be the officiant, cried over that, but it still just hasn''t really sunk in yet.

 

[codex57]

I''ve been with my wife so long (prior to us actually getting married) that it never hit. The wedding was just a stressful day that we were pleasantly surprised to see go off without too many disasters.

Sometimes I wonder if I''ll miss having a moment like that, but in the grand scheme of things, I''m just happy she''s my wife. Still, it''d be nice to have a memory like that. Cherish it.

 

[anchor31]

It''s funny that you mention that today because one of my coworkers finished his summer contract yesterday and when he said goodbye to me, he shook my hand and wished me luck on my wedding and marriage. I beamed at him and said he was very sweet, and then I sat back down and thought: "Hey, I am getting married!" and I felt a bit shocked. I guess it hadn''t really hit me yet because we''re having a two-years engagement...

 

[ChargerGrrl]

With just over a month to go until the wedding day, I'm still kinda waiting!

I've gotten teary eyed twice: first time was when we assembled our first "completed" invitation, and the second time was when we tried on our wedding bands that I had just picked up from the jewelers.

I'm not overly emotional/weepy though, so my reaction to these two priceless moments is right-on!

 

[Tybee]

really?
not until the rehearsal. I mean I''m a cryer, don''t get me wrong, I''m a total sap and I cry at just about everybodies proposal/wedding stories too, but there was something totally different about the rehearsal. I almost couldn''t get through it I was trying so hard not to sob!!
Thank god for the rehearsal, though, it made the ceremony go much smoother.
Oh, it''s such a lovely and wonderful thing! I wish we were doing it again?
When is too soon to renew our vows (lol just got married last month!)

 

[AmberWaves]

I''m also a total crier, but I still don''t think it''s hit me yet. We''ve been engaged for like, more than 4 months, have the date booked and all that, but nope. Not a feeling. The terrible part was, when we got engaged, it was just like a, "This was expected" kind of thing. I mean, we''d known from the start that we were going to get married (we''d dated years before), and it was really just a matter of time. The proposal was expected (although perfect, so I don''t miss anything there), the ring was picked by me, and the plans are being done. Don''t get me wrong, I am THRILLED that I''m marrying him, and so excited about the day (special date for me), but it''s kinda like this is all just icing on the cake. I knew he was my husband 3 years ago, and since we''ve lived together for almost 2, it''s really like, we''re just making it legal. Every now and then I get the giggles when I say something like, "I''m the bride" and I realize that I AM the bride! Other than that, it''s not really something that''s hit me yet.

 

[Tybee]

Another point that I''d like to add,
is that sometimes it really hits me like a brick during the simple times of the day --- that we''re married.
Kind of like Amber said: the engagement was great... the wedding was also great...
but it''s the simple times now (now that I''m an old married lady--lol) that it really hits me that we''re now a family.
I love it. Those are great moments.

 

[RoseAngel04]

We''ve only been engaged for a week and a half and I''ve criedjust about every other day!!

Most have been happy tears that I am marrying my best friend, while the others have been out of frustration of what planning a wedding brings. My fiance has been so sweet through it all and really been there for me to cry on his shoulder. But I am a very emotional person. I cry at movies, commercials, songs, etc...it''s just part of me.

But...back onto the subject I had a somewhat "aha" moment when I was trying on dresses this weekend and had the veil on. It hit me tht in less than a year a will be walking down the isle and making a life-long commitment to the man I love.

YAY FOR GETTING MARRIED!!

But...I expect to have at least a few more "aha" moments when it hits me that this is it!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

My first A-ha moment came today when we got our first engagement present, a scrapbook that had been given OUR *eek that''s exciting to even say!!* last name along the bottom of it, beneath a wedding cake. I thought, "Wow. It''s real. I''ll marry him, we''ll have the same last name. We''ll be together, joined. Wow." I''m sure that was just the first a-ha of many, as RoseAngel said.

 

[robbie3982]

It definitely hasn''t hit me yet. All of my friends were amazed that I didn''t cry at the proposal. It just felt surreal. It all kind of does. I''m sure it will hit me eventually. I bawled at one of my bffs weddings. I was a groomsmaid. I think I even cried when they got engaged. Haha. It definitely doesn''t feel real for me yet. Even trying on dresses felt a bit wrong, like I was just pretending or something. I vaguely remember feeling this way when I drove by myself for the first time...

 

[ChargerGrrl]

I had to reply to this again as it REALLY "hit me" today.

We went to apply for a marriage license this morning. It took all my strength not to cry right there at city hall. I also realized that we''re at exactly ONE MONTH until the wedding.

 

[Gypsy]

I keep waiting for something HORRIBLE to happen to stopped this wedding. I keep planning alternatives to this-- like... If this happens, I''ll wear my gown we''ll have our immediate family and we''ll do something quick and small in DC instead of this. But well... today I secured my florist (easiest decision for me because I knew exactly what I wanted) so it hit me... cautiously. I think the weekend we go to DC to book everything it''s REALLY going to hit me. But well... we''ve been together for so long... this is really another project for me. I love having projects-- sewing a new skirt, painting a picture, designing jewelry, planning someone else wedding.... that stuff is exciting for me in general.

 

[nytemist]

So it really has hit me that I''m getting married. Now I''m having those ''wedding dreams'' that I''ve heard everyone talk about. Dreams about things going wrong, him not showing up, or the whole event just being weird. In the past 3 days I''ve woken up remembering parts of dreams about the wedding. We''ve been kind of picking back and forth about what font to print our invite envelopes and that manifested into a dream where I told him he was driving me nuts and it wasn''t going to happen.

 

[gmsmith101]

We''ve been married for 8 months and it still stuns me when I think about it.