BF called me out last night!

[Lauren8211]

I don''t know WHAT has happened in the past month, but I seriously got bit by the wedding bug HARD. I''ve been feverishly searching all over the internet for reception venues, wedding colors, dresses, etc,etc.

Sometimes I''ll bounce ideas off of BF and he gets invovled. Last night when we were going to bed, he says "Baby, can we try and stop talking about our wedding so much? I want it to special. I don''t want to have the whole thing planned so that when we get engaged it''s not even fun or exciting."

I apologized. He''s totally right! But I can''t help but want to research... and research.. and research. I don''t know how I''m going to hold it in for the next year!! Ahhh!!!

Just a vent.

 

[Scorpio_22]

I know what you mean.. I always tell him if you don''t want me to talk to you about it or you want me not to share pics I like with you, just tell me. and he says "no, no it''s ok" but I see he seems annoyed by it.

But it''s so hard to keep it all to yourself!! researching and finding ideas is so much fun... all I can say is if it makes you happy, continue looking at ideas but just try to keep them more to you.. OR better yet, share your ideas on here with us

 

[fieryred33143]

Wait...what time was this because my boyfriend went out for a little while last night and I''m wondering if maybe we are dating the same guy??

My guy would tell me the same thing...that the more I talk about it, the less special it feels. I told him that once we really do start planning a wedding, that''s all we''re going to talk about and he''s fine with that. But he wanted me to stop constantly bringing up engagements and wedding planning.

Now that we have the ring its a little different. He''ll bring up ideas and we talk about it more (but I''m not allowed to talk about when is going to propose).

Men are wired differently.

But hey...you can talk to us about your wedding plans

 

[HeadOverHeels4James]

OMG!! This sounds exactly like James!!!!!!!!! BAH!!!

It''s so exciting to look at pictures and venues. I''m a planner by nature, I live for schedules and timelines. HAHA James is the total opposite. We just had that almost same conversation. We had a huge conversation about when we have kids! He doesn''t want to find out the sex of the baby, but I do because I want to plan, plan, and oh yea PLAN! Hang in there love! I would LOVE to see pretty things you find!

 

[Lauren8211]

LOL. I think it''s funny that all you ladies think we all have the same boyfriend. Thanks for letting me vent about wedding things. The problem is that now I feel guilty for looking at stuff online because I don''t want to ruin the excitement. I''m really trying to stop looking at anything online. HOWEVER!.... I can obsess about engagement rings because that is in my near future. So I must focus my energies on that... hehehe.

Luckily the wedding bug comes in waves, and right now I''m feeling pretty calm. Lets hope this lasts.

 

[ash313]

Wow, I can relate to this! I try sooo hard not to bombard him with ideas, questions, etc. He''s never called me out quite like that, but I truly don''t bring it up to him that much, I am just SEVERELY tempted! That totally sounds like something he would say, though....

But it''s so hard (I am a planner, too, HOH4J!)!! We had talked about doing a New Year''s Eve wedding next year, and one of the venues in my hometown is having a special for "unpopular dates" (although they don''t call it that!) and our date is one of them! I keep thinking we need to get engaged soon so we can book it! Oh, so pathetic, but I know you ladies can relate....

At the end of the day, though, he''s right. Once we get engaged, it will be so fun to explore and plan it all together. So I try to focus on things like a gown for me or who my attendants will be, stuff he won''t be involved in anyway

I feel you, elledizzy!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I was totally you about 6 months ago. I was planning out colors and venues and even favors and invitations! I didn''t really let my SO in on this stuff because I didn''t want him to think I was insane. Fast forward 6 months and we''ve set our date and started planning and now HE''S the one who is reminding me to call venues and bringing up discussions about colors and what he and his groomsmen are going to wear. I''m the one who is like, "we have plenty of time for this stuff let''s talk about what we are going to have for dinner tonight"

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 7/3/2008 9:47:42 AM
Author: Keepingthefaith21
I was totally you about 6 months ago. I was planning out colors and venues and even favors and invitations! I didn''t really let my SO in on this stuff because I didn''t want him to think I was insane. Fast forward 6 months and we''ve set our date and started planning and now HE''S the one who is reminding me to call venues and bringing up discussions about colors and what he and his groomsmen are going to wear. I''m the one who is like, ''we have plenty of time for this stuff let''s talk about what we are going to have for dinner tonight''

Luckily for me, SO already knows how insane I am. I don''t have to hide it anymore. LOL

But yeah, I''m a planner and I can''t help but... do what I do. PLAN. I plan everything. I organize everything. I worry about everything. I color-code things! I can''t help it!! I need help!!! hehe

I tell him I''m just I''m really excited to marry him and sometimes it explodes out of me. If I can keep it until I''m on the verge of exploding, hopefully that''ll be good enough for him.

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Date: 7/3/2008 9:54:10 AM
Author: elledizzy5
Luckily for me, SO already knows how insane I am. I don''t have to hide it anymore. LOL

But yeah, I''m a planner and I can''t help but... do what I do. PLAN. I plan everything. I organize everything. I worry about everything. I color-code things! I can''t help it!! I need help!!! hehe

I tell him I''m just I''m really excited to marry him and sometimes it explodes out of me. If I can keep it until I''m on the verge of exploding, hopefully that''ll be good enough for him.

Normally I am the same way! I don''t know why I am so completely calm about the wedding planning. I do have most of it organized (like an alphabetical guest list) and I do have all my venue choices in a binder in order from best choice to not so sure choices. I even have an "ideas" tab where I have sample cakes and a color pallet. I''m into the planning just very laid back about it. I hope I can keep this attitude for the next 15 months!

I think the more organized you are, the more relaxed you can be about everything. Then again, maybe I am not feeling overwhelmed because I am not wearing my ring yet so it doesn''t feel 100% real at times.

 

[snogirl17]

this week must be the "BUG" week!

I too was toying around the idea of wedding and just asking him what he wants out of a wedding.. large.. small .. blablabla and he just looks at me and said he didnt want to talk about it.... it kinda hurt my feelings for a bit but he followed it with Hun, i just dont want to plan something now i want it to be speical when we do.. I can understand it now.. but lordy oh lordy i just want to marry this man and it is hard NOT to think about it!

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 7/3/2008 11:19:26 AM
Author: beanie
this week must be the ''BUG'' week!

I too was toying around the idea of wedding and just asking him what he wants out of a wedding.. large.. small .. blablabla and he just looks at me and said he didnt want to talk about it.... it kinda hurt my feelings for a bit but he followed it with Hun, i just dont want to plan something now i want it to be speical when we do.. I can understand it now.. but lordy oh lordy i just want to marry this man and it is hard NOT to think about it!

That seems to be the consensus among LIW men.

I will say that yesterday, out of nowhere, he says that if we are going to spend more than $10K on a wedding then he would prefer we buy a house and have a reception in our new home.

I didn''t know he felt that way. I''m kind of relieved because he''s the one that really wants a wedding (I can take it or leave it). So of course in LIW fashion, I started looking at small destination weddings (like in the Dominican Republic

) and of course he told me to stop thinking about the wedding for now.

LOL

 

[tessari]

Ha! My boyfriend is the same way. He also gets annoyed when I talk about our "plans" to other people...he wants to surprise everyone. I still have a long time to go until engagement (April 2009) so maybe I should focus more on keeping my boyfriend then a wedding that is 2 years away.

I am also going wedding-bananas and it''s crazy and it''s not going to go away. I am so glad I found this forum, coming on here allows me to indulge the wedding-obsessed side of me so that everyone who has to deal with me hears less about it.

Now if only someone can help me with my obsession with my kittens...

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 7/3/2008 1:56:17 PM
Author: tessari
Ha! My boyfriend is the same way. He also gets annoyed when I talk about our 'plans' to other people...he wants to surprise everyone. I still have a long time to go until engagement (April 2009) so maybe I should focus more on keeping my boyfriend then a wedding that is 2 years away.

I am also going wedding-bananas and it's crazy and it's not going to go away. I am so glad I found this forum, coming on here allows me to indulge the wedding-obsessed side of me so that everyone who has to deal with me hears less about it.

Now if only someone can help me with my obsession with my kittens...

Hey I'm an April 09er myself! That's when I graduate, so that's when i'm expecting a proposal. Anytime between now and December 31, 2009 at 11:59:59 is when I'm expecting it.

Umm.. I couldve written your post about the kittens. I'm one of those freaky animal people. I swear, if I didn't live with SO, I'd have a ridiculous amount of animals. I have 2 cats now, and I'm DYING for a puppy. Like... almost to tears I want one so bad.

SO keeps telling me stop looking at puppies on the internet. I cant help it!

Most women my age have a desire for babies. I think mine accidentally turned puppy....

 

[Dreamgirl]

I know how you feel. I get these spurts of looking into everything myself. This past week I did a "check up" on venues I like to see if the rates have gone up, as well as looking at gown designer websites which have the new 2009 previews!!!!! lol! I used to talk all the time to my boyfriend about this stuff but now I TRY my best not to say anything. Though, I do have my moments where stuff slips out. lol! Oops.

On the other hand, last summer I showed him a wedding venue that looked maybe nice. He has asked me about it in the previous months. Well he went by there last week because of work and told me he decided he doesn''t like that place because the people who live in the area are snobby and he doesn''t want to get married around those parts!

 

[dreaming of the day]

Date: 7/3/2008 8:42:30 AM
Author: fieryred33143
Wait...what time was this because my boyfriend went out for a little while last night and I''m wondering if maybe we are dating the same guy??

My guy would tell me the same thing...that the more I talk about it, the less special it feels. I told him that once we really do start planning a wedding, that''s all we''re going to talk about and he''s fine with that. But he wanted me to stop constantly bringing up engagements and wedding planning.

Now that we have the ring its a little different. He''ll bring up ideas and we talk about it more (but I''m not allowed to talk about when is going to propose).

Men are wired differently.

But hey...you can talk to us about your wedding plans

OMG, my FF used to get so aggrivated when I would talk about engagments/weddings and he said I wasn''t allowed either, but I am obsessed, so eventually I wore him thin and now he talks about it with me. Thank god for PS or he would know how obsessed I really am ...he he he!

 

[DIShayley]

*puts hand up slowly* Another one over here!

I''m expecting a proposal next month - we''ve already picked out the ring and he''s ready to order it. We''re going to Florida in Aug so I''m expecting it then

I was chatting away at DBF yesterday about where we should have our wedding (we''d both like to get wed in Florida, but if that falls through, I''d love Vegas, Bahamas or Southern Italy) - this will be sort of a long engagement since we''ll likely get married in 2011, I''m in the middle of my PhD and I want to be done first.

He turns and says that he can''t listen to me talk about our wedding for 3 years

Since we''re going abroad to get married we''ll need to start planning 2 years in advance to give time for people to save up. He says I can''t talk about planning till then - BOO!! A year to wait till I''m allowed to plan (with him of course - I already have a folder of ''wedding likes'' on my laptop