Biggest disappointment?

[missy]

What is the biggest disappointment you have experienced to date?
Could be anything you want to share

 

[missy]

I will share my answer in a spoiler just so I do not influence anyone's answer who wants to answer first

Spoiler

People are my biggest disappointment. This is a complicated answer though. Not all people. Just some. Those who pretended to be my friends who clearly in hindsight were not. With friends like those who needs enemies. And people in general who can be pretty crappy. I wish humans were kinder, more altruistic and just overall nicer beings. Some are but so many are not. So this is the biggest disappointment. The human race. Mankind...what an oxymoron

 

[Matata]

^ same

 

[autumngems]

Nepotism
I see so much of this in my work, it's insane.

 

[dk168]

Some years ago when my late partner was still alive, our paths crossed via attending rallies organised by a car club.

The club decided to organise a charity ball, and I volunteered to help out with administrative tasks such as attendees and their menu choices, prizes for raffles, table plans etc. etc...

There were lots of printing to be done such as menus, seating plans, list of diners per table, individual menu choices, etc., and lots of updating of the database, chasing, etc. etc...

I spent hours helping out, printing late into the night leading up to the event, did not claim for ink and paper.

On the night itself, there was thank you's and speeches by the owner of the online car club, the two originators of the idea of event.

There was a collection for a gift for one of the two originators. The proceeds were donated to the chosen charitable of the other originator.

I was not mentioned in any of the speeches, not a single thank you, let alone a single flower.

I was so disappointed I cried in the privacy of my own hotel room after the event with my late partner next to me, as I believed my efforts should have been acknowledged by the others.

Since then, I have decided I would only volunteer to do what I am prepared to do without any expectations of a thank you.

DK

 

[dk168]

@missy I agree with you.

I cannot pretend I like someone when I don't, and am labelled as rude, difficult, brash, whatever.

DK

 

[oncrutchesrightnow]

I agree with Calvin that disappointment feels different based on expectations. 2015 Green Bay vs. Seattle: Heart wrenching. Yesterday’s loss to the Eagles: Sad but mitigated by the fact that the Pack is light years ahead of where we expected to be only two seasons after the departure of our MVP quarterback.

And Josh Jacobs is truly an inspiration. Normally I don’t look to sports for heroes but here is brains and heart and soul and guts:

 

[Starstruck8]

"There is no example of inevitability that can compare with the sight of a gifted young man narrowing down into an ordinary old man - not through personal misfortune, merely through the process of dehydration to which he was predestined." - Robert Musil, The Man Without Qualities.

When I was young, I knew I was going to be a mathematician. Mathematics was pretty much my whole life. I did very well at it at school and university. But I came to realize that though I had the interest and worked hard, I just didn't have the required intelligence and creativity.

"Many are called, but few are chosen."

 

[Slickk]

The state of our public schools as it relates to gross misbehavior, lack of respect, mental health and safety of the children and staff. So disappointing as I will be leaving before I should because of the above mentioned circumstances. I am exhausted.

 

[kenny]

Technology, especially social media, manipulating and harming society, democracy, and especially our youth.

 

[canuk-gal]

"There is no example of inevitability that can compare with the sight of a gifted young man narrowing down into an ordinary old man - not through personal misfortune, merely through the process of dehydration to which he was predestined." - Robert Musil, The Man Without Qualities.

When I was young, I knew I was going to be a mathematician. Mathematics was pretty much my whole life. I did very well at it at school and university. But I came to realize that though I had the interest and worked hard, I just didn't have the required intelligence and creativity.

"Many are called, but few are chosen."

Very honest and brave. I am certain you are very capable.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Relatives?

cheers--Sharon

 

[Lisa Loves Shiny]

Some years ago when my late partner was still alive, our paths crossed via attending rallies organised by a car club.

The club decided to organise a charity ball, and I volunteered to help out with administrative tasks such as attendees and their menu choices, prizes for raffles, table plans etc. etc...

There were lots of printing to be done such as menus, seating plans, list of diners per table, individual menu choices, etc., and lots of updating of the database, chasing, etc. etc...

I spent hours helping out, printing late into the night leading up to the event, did not claim for ink and paper.

On the night itself, there was thank you's and speeches by the owner of the online car club, the two originators of the idea of event.

There was a collection for a gift for one of the two originators. The proceeds were donated to the chosen charitable of the other originator.

I was not mentioned in any of the speeches, not a single thank you, let alone a single flower.

I was so disappointed I cried in the privacy of my own hotel room after the event with my late partner next to me, as I believed my efforts should have been acknowledged by the others.

Since then, I have decided I would only volunteer to do what I am prepared to do without any expectations of a thank you.

DK

That was so crass. Not even a thank you. I can see why that would be so upsetting.

 

[Begonia]

A friend who dumped me when I was in a crisis. I wasn't thinking clearly, she was texting her form of tough love and I said I felt she was being dismissive of my feelings. I got dumped right then and there. Mind you, she drinks at night and texts and that's always been a sore point. It was during "happy hour".

I'd invested years into that friendship and gave it my very best. A friendship that can't survive the rapids now and again is a shame. I'd taken a ton of crap from her over the years and shouldered her thru many a crisis.

Very disappointing.

 

[seaurchin]

Relatives

 

[GeliL]

I have a male friend who I had been close friends with for over 10 years. When he got a girlfriend, the day they started officially dating, he told me we cannot be friends anymore because his girlfriend minds him having female friends. He didn't try to talk to her to work it out at all, just straight up dropped me. I got so mad I yelled at him over the phone for over 2 hours. I was so disappointed that he would do this to me just because of our gender differences. I have never tried to cross boundaries and our relationship was purely platonic. He said some bullshit like "Even if you aren't in my life, you will always be a good friend in my heart." as if I am dead or something.

We still talk occasionally after he realized how hurt I was, to mainly complain how controlling his girlfriend is, but I have refused to participate in his rants because he would never choose to leave her no matter how toxic the whole relationship sounded. He is getting married to her next month, and I have stopped reaching out.

I am disappointed in people like him who cannot see past labels and rules society has created.

 

[glitterata]

"There is no example of inevitability that can compare with the sight of a gifted young man narrowing down into an ordinary old man - not through personal misfortune, merely through the process of dehydration to which he was predestined." - Robert Musil, The Man Without Qualities.

When I was young, I knew I was going to be a mathematician. Mathematics was pretty much my whole life. I did very well at it at school and university. But I came to realize that though I had the interest and worked hard, I just didn't have the required intelligence and creativity.

"Many are called, but few are chosen."

We can't all be Gauss or Noether, but there are many everyday working mathematicians making useful and even beautiful discoveries, advancing technology, and enjoying using their minds. Did you ask too much of yourself?

I hope you've found an enjoyable way to use your mind, even if it's not as a mathematician.