BM dilemma

[CountryGirlGa]

This is my first post, so please be patient!!

Here is my situation. My FI has three groomsman who are all very important in his life. These are men he has grown up with and each MUST be included equally in the wedding. I, on the other hand, only have two close friends. Is it improper for me to have less attendants than him?

Option two: I have two children (son 6, daughter from my previous marriage. My dream had been for them to walk me down the aisle. I''ve considered having DD as the maid of honor and DS escort me down the aisle. I actually feel like this is unfair to my daughter. I don''t want her to feel that she had a less important or less significant part in the wedding. I also feel like it is my children''s place to "give me away" (OK, so they will only be sharing me, but you get the point!).

Opinions please!!!

 

[JulieN]

it''s fine

 

[Logan Sapphire]

I think it''s totally fine to have odd numbers. We were supposed to have 4 BM and 2 GM (one of the BM got pregnant and wasn''t able to travel to my wedding so we ended up with 3 BM).

 

[icekid]

unequal numbers is fine! no reason to be exactly the same.

And I think it''s a lovely idea to have both of your children walk you down the aisle.

 

[selflove]

unevn numbers of attendants is fine (we have 3 bm''s and 1 gm). i think it sounds more important to you to have the kids escort you--which is sweet and seems appropriate.

 

[Skylah]

There is nothing innappropriate about having x number of BM vs. y number of GM. And having your children walk you down the aisle is a wonderful idea.

 

[diamondfan]

Date: 4/22/2006 4:47:11 AM
Author:CountryGirlGa
This is my first post, so please be patient!!

Here is my situation. My FI has three groomsman who are all very important in his life. These are men he has grown up with and each MUST be included equally in the wedding. I, on the other hand, only have two close friends. Is it improper for me to have less attendants than him?

Option two: I have two children (son 6, daughter from my previous marriage. My dream had been for them to walk me down the aisle. I''ve considered having DD as the maid of honor and DS escort me down the aisle. I actually feel like this is unfair to my daughter. I don''t want her to feel that she had a less important or less significant part in the wedding. I also feel like it is my children''s place to ''give me away'' (OK, so they will only be sharing me, but you get the point!).

Opinions please!!!

1...Uneven attendants not a big deal imho, just work the processional the way you want to.

2. Do you have a dad to walk you down? Just asking because I did not...

3. I LOVE the idea of your kids being part of it. They are going to be in his life too obviously...and to be honest, in my assessment he is "marrying" them too in a way. (not to demean their father, I do not know about the relationship with him etc...but since they are young, he is going to be a huge part of their lives!) I love them doing it. I saw that show about Whose wedding is it anyway on Style and there was a couple getting married...the woman had two kids from a former marriage and she had them in the ceremony as well...it was different but very sweet too!

 

[Maria D]

When a good friend of my husband''s remarried, her daughter was 10 years old. As part of the ceremony, the bride and groom (mom and new stepdad) exchanged "vows" with the daughter where they promised to love and cherish her. Instead of a ring, they placed a necklace around her neck. It was very touching.

Personally, I don''t like the idea of a 6 year old boy "giving away" mom. As you mentioned, he''s not giving you away -- but that''s what the symbolism is supposed to be. Although that doesn''t mean that accompanying the bride for the walk down the aisle has to mean "giving away." You could have your children walk with you down the aisle and then stay up front as part of the ceremony. Best of luck!