AmberWaves
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Hey guys, hope everyone is doing well! I have a problem, I initially wanted no MOH/BMs because I have no close women friends, or sisters. All my close friends are guys, and wouldn''t want to be in my wedding party (I asked). My fiance Paul, on the other hand, has at least two people he''d ask to be by his side. One of them, his brother, has already agreed to be Best Man. Unfortunately, I am a "Matchy-matchy" person, and I need at least ONE person to be with me. Here are my options:
1.) Paul''s sister- Leslie. She''s older than we are, with two kids who will not be in the wedding. The pro for this is, she''s more mature than any women close to be, and very good with details, and knows what being a MOH/BM entails. She can also afford her own dress and expenses. The cons are: she''s bossy, and often likes to bring Paul''s mom into things to help her out. Paul''s mom usually has her hands busy with other things, but helps out of guilt.
I wouldn''t want my FMIL to have to do too much.
2.) My cousin, Elizabeth. The pros: she''s my cousin, and has plenty of time on her hands. The cons: she''s kinda snooty and very spoiled, she likes to have her way. I don''t think she can afford the dress and expenses, and we can''t afford to pay for them. She also lives a few hours away, and I''d doubt she could make it up here enough for fittings and parties, and whatever else needs to be done.
3.) Liz''s sister Anna. Pro: love her to death, we get along well, and she lives nearby. She also can afford the expenses, and would be available for weddingy things. Con: The family would be verrry angry if I had Anna and not Liz, because Liz and I are the same age and were very close through childhood, but grew apart later, which is why I now get along better with Anna. I can''t have Anna, but not Liz. But I don''t really WANT Liz. I don''t want to cause a problem in the family.
4.) My cousin Ashley, on the other side of the family, Pro:, She gets along well with everyone, and is a sweet girl. Con: she''s currently in college, and I fear she won''t be around enough for wedding stuff, and I don''t want her to jeopardize her classes. She''s 8 years younger than I am, and very immature. I worry she may not be able to afford the dress and expenses, and I wouldn''t want to put her out.
5.) Semi-close friend Jess: Pro: we get a long well, and she''s hilarious, could afford the expenses. Con: she''s very flaky (which I know is just her, and I can''t change it) and can''t really ever follow a plan. She''s often late, a very forgetful. She may not be available to help out with wedding stuff, and I worry about her being on time.
So, from looking at this, I realize I need close girl friends.
But in all seriousness, this is why I''d rather have no one. But if I need one person, who would you pick? I don''t know if I can do just Leslie, or if my family would be mad I chose someone from HIS family over someone from mine. In all, she seems the most capable.
What would you do?
1.) Paul''s sister- Leslie. She''s older than we are, with two kids who will not be in the wedding. The pro for this is, she''s more mature than any women close to be, and very good with details, and knows what being a MOH/BM entails. She can also afford her own dress and expenses. The cons are: she''s bossy, and often likes to bring Paul''s mom into things to help her out. Paul''s mom usually has her hands busy with other things, but helps out of guilt.
2.) My cousin, Elizabeth. The pros: she''s my cousin, and has plenty of time on her hands. The cons: she''s kinda snooty and very spoiled, she likes to have her way. I don''t think she can afford the dress and expenses, and we can''t afford to pay for them. She also lives a few hours away, and I''d doubt she could make it up here enough for fittings and parties, and whatever else needs to be done.
3.) Liz''s sister Anna. Pro: love her to death, we get along well, and she lives nearby. She also can afford the expenses, and would be available for weddingy things. Con: The family would be verrry angry if I had Anna and not Liz, because Liz and I are the same age and were very close through childhood, but grew apart later, which is why I now get along better with Anna. I can''t have Anna, but not Liz. But I don''t really WANT Liz. I don''t want to cause a problem in the family.
4.) My cousin Ashley, on the other side of the family, Pro:, She gets along well with everyone, and is a sweet girl. Con: she''s currently in college, and I fear she won''t be around enough for wedding stuff, and I don''t want her to jeopardize her classes. She''s 8 years younger than I am, and very immature. I worry she may not be able to afford the dress and expenses, and I wouldn''t want to put her out.
5.) Semi-close friend Jess: Pro: we get a long well, and she''s hilarious, could afford the expenses. Con: she''s very flaky (which I know is just her, and I can''t change it) and can''t really ever follow a plan. She''s often late, a very forgetful. She may not be available to help out with wedding stuff, and I worry about her being on time.
So, from looking at this, I realize I need close girl friends.
What would you do?
i am seriously considering that i will ask my mom when i have to pick a MOH... except i think she would be bossy.
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