Brand New Lady in Waiting...

[BabyBrown]

Hello Everyone,

I am happy to have found an outlet to talk about my pre-proposal feelings.

About me: I''m a 25 year old, third year graduate student, who has been dating my best friend for almost a year. We became good friends over the course of 2 years, and I was pleasantly surprised when we both developed feelings for each other

!

We have spent a lot of time together over the course of a year, and recently we started discussing moving into together. However, based on our values, we prefer not to move in unless, we are engaged or married. This intial ''moving'' conversation led to the realization that we want to spend the rest of our lives together, and that engagement is naturally the next step for us. We plan for an engagement before or by summer 2009. So now the waiting has

begun, and I am now officially a lady in waiting

!

I have been looking at rings and I know exactly what I want, I showed it to him... and now I am deciding to back off, not push, pull or pressure because I love him so much that I don''t want my excitement or anxiety to scare him.

So I am here, sharing my feelings with you all! I am looking for a safe place to vent, so that my feelings don''t overflow into our everyday life.

Any constructive and helpful advice is welcomed, I am happy to join the community!

 

[sugarjo]

Welcome!!! I hope your stay is short and sweet!!!

 

[ellie424]

Welcome to Pricescope!!

You and I both have some similarities! I am a second year grad student and my SO and I are going to wait until we are married to move in together. I think that it''s going to add to the excitment of getting married and "starting our life together." We were thinking about maybe moving in together once we get engaged, but we''ve both decided that it''s probably best for us to wait until we''re married.

Enjoy the boards and the tons of valuable information that you will gain from this site!

 

[BabyBrown]

Thank you sugarjo! I appreciate your comment!!!

 

[BabyBrown]

Thanks ellie424,

I''ll take your advice and will check out some of the other forums

!!!

 

[dragonfly411]

baby brown welcome!!! It sounds like you guys have a great plan, and now you can sit tight with us!

 

[SparklyLibra]

Welcome! You will really enjoy your wait here!

~SL.

 

[jcarlylew82]

welcome! i would say this place definitely helps me vent, since outside here i dont have any friends who are waiting for a proposal!!

 

[vita*dolce]

welcome!!

hope your stay is short and sweet!

 

[SailorsSweet<3]

welcome baby brown! I can relate to your situation - my bf and are are also planning for an engagement next summer. We have done the ring shopping and been on pricescope for a little over a month now and I''m trying not to talk to him tooo much about getting engaged and planning a wedding because I dont want to drive him crazy! hehe

Welcome again! This is a great place to let your excess engagement anticipation flow!

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Welcome!!

 

[BabyBrown]

Thank you all for your warmth and support, you are all very nice!!!

I''m glad we are all in this together *YEAH for us*

 

[prettylnpink419]

So BabyBrown--

Since you know exactly what you want in a ring...have any pictures to share? Maybe it''ll inspire me! After the conversation I had with my BF today, I can''t stop ring shopping online! I''m addicted!

 

[misskitty]

Welcome! I can also relate to your situation - also in grad school, FF and I are looking at an engagement next summer, and we''ve discussed moving in. Originally, the plan was to wait until we were engaged to move in together, but his job is taking him a few states away, and neither of us wants to do a long distance thing, so I''m coming with.

This is definitely a good place to vent, talk about rings, talk about whatever. I''ve only been here for a short time, but everyone is wonderful, and it really does help with getting all the LIW anxiety out.

Hope your stay is short & sweet!

 

[i_heart_cushions]

Welcome!
This is a great place to seek advice and live vicariously through others!

I am also waiting to marry before moving into my BF''s place"officially"....it sure can make the wait time seem longer than some others who already live with their SO''s, but I know it''ll be worth the wait.

Enjoy perusing through all the PS posts and pictures!

 

[glitterazzi]

HI! WELCOME!

AHHH! Isn''t being a LIW just impossible! I met my guy about a year and a half after we first chatted. He still gives me hell that we could be a year and a half into the future if I''d only given him the time of day... anyway. In May he admitted that he wants to marry me and I admitted that I felt the same - we talk about it often and I feel like I''m in between such a rock and a hard place because he asks me to marry him all the time... almost weekly, but he never PROPOSES! I''ve always said yes - in every way possible way... but he keeps reminding me that it''s not time to tell everyone or start officially planning a wedding until he''s down on one knee and has a ring. AHHHH!!!! I know he''s found his jeweler - and he''s picked a design... and I''ve seen the three or four that he chose it from, but I don''t know which one it will be. He''s told me he knows how he''ll do it, and even told me some of the ways he won''t. I have been given about a 30 day time range... it''s all just so frustrating! I know so much - and yet SO little!

Anyway - I''ve found this is a great place to vent it out... I''ve ALWAYS said I wouldn''t push and hound him about it... and I''m pretty good about it. The only time I mention it is when he starts making plans for after we''re married, or makes "wife" comments - I show him my finger and remind him that it''s bare - so he needn''t make plans for a wife when he hasn''t asked for one! I do like to give him heck, though - he has already asked 2 of his buddies to be in our wedding - specifically our wedding and asked them to keep next fall open... I like to give him hell that he''s planning his wedding, and he''s invited groomsmen, but not a bride! So as of now, I''m not invited to his wedding! He''s taking it well... I keep him in line!

He tried to take away my pricescope today - I told him that until I have a wedding to plan I will be learning and leaning on PS as much as I wanted! He thinks I''m thinking about it too much so it won''t be a surprise - apparently he doesn''t understand the female mind as well as he claims to!

 

[BabyBrown]

Thank you so much, I really enjoy all of your comments!

Glitterazzi you are so funny girl ''The only time I mention it is when he starts making plans for after we''re married, or makes "wife" comments - I show him my finger and remind him that it''s bare - so he needn''t make plans for a wife when he hasn''t asked for one!'' - hilarious

 

[ams0124]

Hi!!!

Welcome to our little "home away from home"...I''m sure (as you''ve probably already noticed) you''ll find the ladies here very kind and full of some wonderful advice!!

Hope your stay is short and sweet.

 

[glitterazzi]

Date: 10/20/2008 12:21:51 AM
Author: BabyBrown
Thank you so much, I really enjoy all of your comments!


Glitterazzi you are so funny girl ''The only time I mention it is when he starts making plans for after we''re married, or makes ''wife'' comments - I show him my finger and remind him that it''s bare - so he needn''t make plans for a wife when he hasn''t asked for one!'' - hilarious

haha! I''m glad you think I''m funny! He seems to think I''m a smart a$$!!!

 

[prettylnpink419]

Baby Brown--

I''m not sure where your other posting went but I don''t think you are silly for feeling the way you felt about the miscommunication. Things like that can be very upsetting. I think we just need to focus on the otherall result. And remember, 5 years from now, we''ll look back on all of this and think about how silly we were to want to rush the time away. This is supposed to be the fun part, ring or no ring.

Don''t get me wrong, I feel the same way sometimes. I got a little disappointed last night too b/c we were talking and he mentioned how he wants to start house hunting after he sells one of his cars b/c it''ll help with the down payment...most people would say great, right? I was excited about that part but I was under the impression previously that the money from the car would be buying my ring. So it upset me a little but ultimately I don''t need the ring to be happy, I just need him and that''s it, so if I get him in our very first house before the ring, then who am I to really complain? Oh but how I would LOOOOVE to have that ring first!

 

[Dreamgirl]

WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!

 

[BabyBrown]

Thanks Dreamgirl, your picture is too cute!

PrettyinPink, your words are truly comforting to me. Yesterday, I did feel a little ''devastated''... but I''m so happy to say that we had the chance to talk (last night) and to ''get on the same page''... He apologized for the miscommunication and he gave me a specific timeline when I could expect ''the ring of my dreams''!

You''re words are like a calming balm, I guess that''s what I needed to hear yesterday, when all the other drama went down on the forum; but to me that''s water under the bridge...

I am so grateful to be exposed to women like you on this forum

It is my hopes to look back 5 years and 55 years from now, on this LIW time and ''how silly we were to want to rush the time away''. I have the same hope for you, and I hope that regardless of what happens with the car money, that you would be able to enjoy the ring or your dreams with the man of your dreams.

With Respect and Gratitude...
BabyBrown