Bridal Anxiety!

[Tybee]

I must be suffering from some form of it!

Last night I dreamed that I went to pick up my dress and it was this HIDEOUS thing that was cellophane and shiny gold lame!
Ha!

I hope this doesn''t get progressively worse. The other night I dreamed that it was the day of our wedding and no one came.
There were just rows and rows of empty chairs.

I''m sure that I''m not the only one.
Is anyone else out there having wedding anxiety dreams?

Do share!

 

[lmurden]

Hey,

Hang in there. Don''t let dreams or little things get you upset. Just try to relax and try to enjoy the planning process because once the wedding happens it''s over. Go get a massage or your nails done.

 

[selflove]

Yup, I started having dreams several months ago but they sort of came and went, and I haven''t had one in a long time. It''s got to be one of the worst nightmares! I think I had them before I got my gown, problably since I ordered my gown color unseen. I think as I get things crossed off the list, that I feel more in control and less anxiety.

 

[flopkins]

A few weeks ago I had this dream that my wedding happened right then, like 5 months early, and half the stuff hadn''t even been planned... it was very surreal, I was like, wait a minute, I didn''t even rent the tables/chairs yet... and we didn''t decide on ceremony music... and the amazing thing was, everything was happening smoothly, and I was actually not freaking out, like some fairy had just planned everything for me and it was all working out fine!

I actually kind of wish it was true!

 

[lmurden]

I guess I''m in the minority.

 

[monarch64]

My mom always says dreams are the subconscious mind''s way of working out what you don''t have time to think about when you''re awake. I had a couple dreams during my engagement about my dress being all wrong, or crazy things like that. The night before my wedding, I had to take my mom to the ER, she was so suddenly sick, and they kept her overnight! My ceremony was at noon the next day and I seriously didn''t think she was going to be there. I got 5 hours of sleep that night, got up the next a.m., did my makeup, went to pick up my bridal party, got our hair done, organized everything at the ceremony/reception site, and when we were all dressed we went outside to get some fresh air and prayed in a small circle. Then the event planner came to us and announced that my mom was on her way. I still hear comments from people who were there saying, "you were so calm and worried about everyone else worrying!" It was crazy, but everything worked out. Two days into our honeymoon, my mom called us and told me that my dad had just been through a major surgery for colon cancer, which they had never told me about all through our engagement! It was one thing after another.

As far as your life and wedding are concerned, everything will work out just fine. You will be surprised to see just how calm and collected you will be on your wedding day. You can''t stop yourself from worrying or having dreams, it''s normal. Bottom line is, this is the most exciting, important day of your life and your FI''s, but you can''t control everything in life. Something will go wrong, but it won''t be anything you can''t deal with in the end. This is coming from a very emotional, normally stressed-out person!

 

[Tybee]

Hey Monarch,

Thanks for sharing. I''m glad that everything worked out on your weddiing day. I hope your dad is doing well.
I can''t imagine staying calm in that situation. It''s wonderful that you couldl be so calm under pressure.

I''m sure that these dreams are just typical processing, but mine are so ridiculous.
Last night Kelly Osbourne showed up at my wedding (uninvited) wearing an exact copy of my wedding dress
in black, and a red feather boa. They held the wedding on the wrong day, and my entire bridal party wasn''t
there yet.

It''s just funny, I guess. They give me something to laugh about the next day.

 

[selflove]

Monarch--I''m so glad everything worked out for you on your wedding day, in spite of such a major emergency.

Tybee--your dream cracks me up! I had one last night too, probably all the talk of wedding dreams made me have one. (I don''t remember the details, just that the heating lamps didn''t work outside and I knew we were all gonna freeze and how was I gonna be in a strapless gown without any heating lamps. Dumb!)

 

[saturn]

I keep having dreams where it''s all of a sudden the day of my wedding and I am completely unprepared.
Then my dream consists of me frantically running around trying to find a dress, get my hair done, or whatever needs to be done.
Kind of like flopkins, but everything does not work itself out and go smoothly.

I guess it''s kind of telling that in my dreams all of the wedding problems result from procrastination on my own part! I''m not worried about other people not coming through for me, I''m just worried that I am going to mess things up myself.

I usually just consider these dreams to be the wedding equivalent of dreaming that I slept through an exam or overslept and missed a plane flight. It''s my subconscious''s way of reminding me of important things that need to be done on time!

 

[Tybee]

yes,
but I"m still wondering how Kelly Osbourne got an exact copy of my dress in black.
AND why is she in my dreams? ha ha ha, perhaps I''ve been reading the Hollywood mags
too much while on the eliptical trainer. It''s my dirty little secret.

 

[monarch64]

It sounds to me like there are some MOH''s out there who need to get their butts in gear and help you ladies out more!!!

And you guys need to get YOUR butts to the spa for a relaxing hour/half day, whatever! And believe me, you will not sleep through your own wedding. If you do end up sleeping through your alarm, everyone will wait for you anyway, YOU''RE THE BRIDE!

Suggestion: write down everything and anything you think could possibly go wrong, or be forgotten at the last minute. Then come up with plan B''s--and start delegating responsibilities to your BM''s and MOH''s, and groomsmen (they need to be responsible for more than getting the groom to the church, for pete''s sake.) I didn''t do that, and wish I had. I forgot my cake topper and our toasting flutes, for one. OK, I''m getting way too involved in this. I''m getting stressed out just thinking about how stressed out you gals are right now!

 

[Tybee]

Monarch,
You are so sweet! Don''t stress out on our behalf!
I''m heading to the spa today! LOL!
Tybee

 

[flutterby]

I had a dream a week or so ago, that I slept in on my wedding day, and my mother woke me up and we rushed off to Saks (which was actually not really Saks, hey its a dream!) to buy a dress and they didnt have any, and we went to the water tower and they didnt have any. So I decided to go get my hair done while my mom looked for my dress, but it was prom and noone could do my hair. I woke up, panicked! My wedding isnt even till August. I think it was from my inability to choose a dress!

Dont worry, just hope they dont get worse! And hey, they throw a little humor into all our planning!

 

[saturn]

Msflutter -
That is so funny, it sounds almost exactly like the kind of dreams that I have!
And my wedding isn''t until August either. I totally agree that the dreams just add humor to the planning process.

And Tybee, I''m actually a little jealous of your more creative dreams. So much more entertaining than mine!

And for the record, I''m really not stressed at all about the wedding during my waking hours. Things are going pretty well and ahead of schedule. So my rational brain knows that everything will be fine, but for some reason I still have these dreams.
Oh well, at least I''m not losing any sleep over it!