BRIDAL SHOWER NO SHOW! HELP!

[MrsBJJr]

I was supposed to go to a bridal shower today. . . . I felt guilty not going, but one, I didn''''t feel good, two, there are only 20 or so people going, of which I only know a few (the mother and sister of the bride). . . .also, there is a woman there would make me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. . . .her husband (who is a friend of my husband), left her (finally)!, and she hates us now. I cannot be in the same room with her for 3 minutes, let alone 3 hours. I don''''t want to make myself feel even crappier about not showing up! What should I do now? Call the mother tomorrow to apologize, and send a gift to the daughter?

I guess I''''m looking for someone to tell me IT''''S OKAY. I don''''t want the mother to be angry with me. HELP!

Diane

 

[zoebartlett]

Hi! Welcome to PS. This might get moved to the appropriate forum (hangout, brides...?) but I''ll give my thoughts. I think it''s only appropriate to attend the shower, especially since it''s today and you''d be cancelling last minute. Also, you''re there to celebrate the bride and her big day, so I''d just try to put any thoughts you might have about any other guests out of your head during the party. I know this isn''t what you wanted to hear but I really believe that if you were invited, you should attend (or at least give more notice if you aren''t going to).

 

[MrsBJJr]

Too late. . . . I already missed it!

 

[zoebartlett]

Oops, I misunderstood. I''d do just what you suggested -- call to apologize for not going and then send a gift.

 

[KimberlyH]

Date: 3/25/2007 4:41:46 PM
Author: zoebartlett
Oops, I misunderstood. I''d do just what you suggested -- call to apologize for not going and then send a gift.

Ditto.

 

[starryeyed]

Hi MrsBJJr. I know exactly how you feel! It''s "water-over-the-bridge" but I think I would have called earlier to say I wasn''t feeling well and wouldn''t attend.

If the bride''s friendship is important to you, definitely send a gift and offer profuse apologies. I''m guessing the bride is a friend, but not a super close one. Are you going to the wedding? I''m sure that same woman will be there, so what are you going to do? It may not be so bad because of the "dilution" factor, I guess.

Unless a person is a very meaningful friend or family member, I don''t believe in making myself uncomfortable. Life is just too short for unnecessary indigestion! People get so caught up in what''s "right" or "proper". Bottom line, do what your heart tells you to do.