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Rough_Rock
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There was a thread on here a couple days ago on "Greenback Showers" ... many of you had pretty strong opinions on them. I guess I am seeking some more input ..
I haven''t registered yet, and don''t need to for at least another few months, but I''m starting to get a little nervous about it. We currently live together and have no intentions of moving into a bigger place before or immediately following the wedding. I would say the earliest we would buy a home would be two years after the wedding, so three years from now (we currently rent and it''s perfectly fine for us, as almost all of our utilities are included and we don''t have the added maintenances of home-owning).
That being said, we don''t really "need" anything in terms of houseware, and quite frankly don''t have much room for it! I can think of a few things that maybe we could upgrade .. like bed linens, bathroom stuff, etc. The only thing I can think of for the kitchen that I don''t currently have is a nice mixer.
So what do I do about registering?? Honestly, we''d appreciate the cash - but I DO NOT want to come out and ask for it, so putting any sort of statement on an invite or whatever, is out of the question.
The other thing is .. our photographer offers "bridal registries" with every package .. basically, people can contribute to the photography of the wedding. Is that weird? Or bad etiquette? Obviously it will be a personal choice whether or not to include that in an invite ... what are people''s thoughts on that?
My mom just went to a shower, that was basically a "greenback shower" ... it wasn''t said on the invite, but there were no registries listed on the invite, and when my mom called the bride''s mom, she said she wasn''t registered anywhere and that, although she hated to say it, money was probably the best option. My mom (who does get offended easily over these sort of etiquette details) cut her a check and didn''t make a fuss about it. The bride did get several nice "token" gifts at the shower (i.e. nice Lenox frames, etc) but ended up with mostly envelopes.
Help! I hope this made sense ..
(also - I''m not demanding a shower, but I know that I will get one, as my aunts have already talked about it)
I haven''t registered yet, and don''t need to for at least another few months, but I''m starting to get a little nervous about it. We currently live together and have no intentions of moving into a bigger place before or immediately following the wedding. I would say the earliest we would buy a home would be two years after the wedding, so three years from now (we currently rent and it''s perfectly fine for us, as almost all of our utilities are included and we don''t have the added maintenances of home-owning).
That being said, we don''t really "need" anything in terms of houseware, and quite frankly don''t have much room for it! I can think of a few things that maybe we could upgrade .. like bed linens, bathroom stuff, etc. The only thing I can think of for the kitchen that I don''t currently have is a nice mixer.
So what do I do about registering?? Honestly, we''d appreciate the cash - but I DO NOT want to come out and ask for it, so putting any sort of statement on an invite or whatever, is out of the question.
The other thing is .. our photographer offers "bridal registries" with every package .. basically, people can contribute to the photography of the wedding. Is that weird? Or bad etiquette? Obviously it will be a personal choice whether or not to include that in an invite ... what are people''s thoughts on that?
My mom just went to a shower, that was basically a "greenback shower" ... it wasn''t said on the invite, but there were no registries listed on the invite, and when my mom called the bride''s mom, she said she wasn''t registered anywhere and that, although she hated to say it, money was probably the best option. My mom (who does get offended easily over these sort of etiquette details) cut her a check and didn''t make a fuss about it. The bride did get several nice "token" gifts at the shower (i.e. nice Lenox frames, etc) but ended up with mostly envelopes.
Help! I hope this made sense ..
(also - I''m not demanding a shower, but I know that I will get one, as my aunts have already talked about it)