Bridal shower with coworkers

[glaucomflecken]

Hi girls
I work in a large eyecare practice, with about 100 employees most of which are female. My supervisor wants to throw me a bridal shower with the girls and women I work with. I think its more than kind and not expected but she insists. She says she will open the invitation to all the females at work but I am not inviting everyone I work with, just a few of my closest colleagues and friends. I would love to invite everyone because we are a close knit bunch but I cant afford it. I thought only the people who were getting invited to the wedding get invited to a bridal shower. She says anyone can come and they will because "people like to buy presents for people they love, and they understand that weddings are expensive and you wont be able to invite everyone".


thoughts??? thanks!

 

[fountainfairfax]

maybe I''m wrong, but I have always been under the impression that showers with co-workers do break the rule of only those invited to the wedding attending the shower. I think its very common that your co-workers simply want to do something nice for you and to share in your excitement through things like a shower and maybe a lunch or drinks after the wedding to see the pictures.

I work in the optical industr on the wholesale lens side and am familiar with Ophthalmology settings; if you feel truly uncomfortable or feel that opticians, techs, frame stylists or office employees may be offended "having" to buy gifts for the Doc, suggest a "no gift" policy or ask that anyone who wishes to celebrate your upcoming wedding do so by writing down their words of advice or even recipes that that bride and groom can make together! my guess is that everyone will be excited to see what you''ve registered for and will be happy to make their small contribution to your new home together! its just a lot of fun to get together and wish you well!

 

[windy1365]

People at work are always having all kinds of parties for people... they just like to do it, and it gives them an excuse to step away from work for an hour or two. There will be many other wedding showers, baby showers, etc at your work place where you will get one of them a gift. It all works out like that.

Meaning... just because they are at your shower at work and get you a gift doesn''t mean that you need to invite them to your wedding. I would invite the people in my specific work area only and try not to discriminate with that smaller group.

 

[jlc0604]

Yeah, usually office showers are low-key events. Most of the ones I''ve heard of are done in the office, during the work day or lunch hour. And they''re open to whoever wants to come, and many do to say congratulations and to take a nice break from the work day. Also, many times a collection is taken at work so people can contribute if they want to one larger gift, rather than everyone being obligated to bring their own like at private showers. I''ve been to lots of these informal office showers and of course not everyone in the office is ever invited to the wedding. I wouldn''t feel bad at all about it.