bridesmen and groomsmaids

[misysu2]

Did anyone else have bridesmen and groomsmaids in their ceremony? If so, how did you distinguish them from regular BMs and GMs?

We''re going to have a mix on both sides, and our groomsmaid will be wearing a black dress to match the GMs'' tuxes.

 

[Erin]

I sort of have this dillemma with my lesbian relative.
I won't be having a big wedding with five bridesmaids or anything but there is no way in heck I'm getting her in a dress.
She wore a sportcoat to my Grandfathers funeral.

So I suppose I would put all men, and her, in tuxes and girls in dresses and they can stand on whichever side they represent.

For your case, I would suggest she wear the same dress as the other girls and stand on her respective side.
Unless of course there are only two people standing on each side then I think it'd be kinda cool to be the one in black so people weren't asking me, "So how do you know the bride? I'd obviously be the one who stood up for the groom. Or, you could leave the preference up with her...

 

[musey]

I''m pretty sure TGal''s wedding had a Man of Honor and a Best Woman. Hopefully she''ll chime in

We toyed with this idea as well, and thought that FI''s potential groomsmaid would wear a black dress (to match groomsmen''s tuxes) with an accent in the same color as my MOH''s dress.

For bridesmen, you could give them a tie in the same color of the bridesmaid''s dresses, while the groomsmen have different colored ties. OR he could have a different color tux (grey maybe?) to match the dresses, while the groomsmen have black tuxes. Or something!

You could do almost anything. Play!

 

[misysu2]

Maybe I should explain further...she is having a baby 2 months before the wedding, and won''t know what size she''s going to be to order a BM''s dress to match my girls in time. That''s why we suggested that she could be a groomsmaid, find a black dress in a store right before the wedding to fit her correctly, adn she could stand on FI''s side.

 

[Erin]

Musey I think that''s a great idea. Let''s say your wedding color is pink.

She wears: black dress with some accessory to match the other girls like pink shoes or a pink sash on her dress.
He wears: black tux with a pink tie while the groomsmen wear black ties...

 

[misysu2]

That's a good idea! We're getting Dessy dresses, and I think you can buy matching ties and pocketquares from them! Maybe I can order more fabric from them for a sash or something. Thanks ladies! These are great ideas!

 

[TravelingGal]

Yes, we did a have a man of honor and best woman, but since it was only one of each, we just told them to wear whatever they wanted. Our wedding party wasn''t exactly very matching, but I didn''t care. Wanted everyone to be comfy and happy.

I was a groomswoman at my brother''s wedding, and he had a best man. The bride had three bridesmaids. The girls wore a tiffany bluish dress. Guys wore back suits and blue shirts. I wore a black dress with blue undertones (hard to describe...I''d have to find a pic). I''d have to say NONE of the blues matched...my brother wasn''t exactly clear on what shade of blue things were going to be and wasn''t exactly a groomzilla about it. It seemed like kind of a lax wedding anyway. One of bridesmaids decided to shave her head bald a week before the wedding (much to the dismay of the bride) and had to find a wig to wear.

Our wedding party....

 

[gtn]

I will be having a grooms-maid at my wedding. My FI was a brides man at her wedding. For her wedding, he wore a tux that matched the groomsmen. For our wedding, she will be wearing a matching BM dress in black with matching jewelry. and if there are accent pieces to the dress like a sash, her sash will match the color of the groomsmen''s vest.

 

[Fancy605]

Date: 1/9/2008 4:51:48 PM
Author:misysu2

We''re going to have a mix on both sides, and our groomsmaid will be wearing a black dress to match the GMs'' tuxes.

My Brother in law had a female attendant, and she did as you suggested. She wore a black dress, but it had a sash around the waist that matched the color of the BM dresses. It ended up looking pretty good.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

My MOH is actually a man of honor. He will be wearing a suit like the groomsmen but the vest will match the bride''s maids gowns. We almost had best maid for my FI and she would have worn a dress that matched their vests.

 

[nytemist]

One of my best guy friends asked me to be ''best woman'' at his wedding in a couple of months. I have strapless, floor-length dress that I''m going to wear. I''m just going to wear the same bouttonier the rest of the guys do.

About ten yeas ago I was in another guy friends wedding and I wore a spaghetti strap velvet dress with tea length gloves that matche the color of the BM dresses.

If she isn''t opposed to the style, finding something with a soft empire shape might look pretty good.

 

[robbie3982]

I was a groomsmaid at my friend''s wedding! He had 2 groomsmen and 2 groomsmaids and his wife had 2 bridesmaids and 2 bridesmen. They had a fall wedding so the girls all wore the same dress in different fall colors. The boys vests were all the same. They were going to try to match them to our dresses, but one dress was too hard to match.

 

[upgrading mama]

maybe it is just me, but why the need to distinguish?

I personally don''t think it is necessary to separate whose ''special person'' they are. for example, at our wedding, our "groomsmen were my 2 brothers, his 2 brothers, and his dad was Best Man. The Bridesmaids all happened to be my friends/relatives, so no need to distinguish there, but should my brothers have been "bridesmen" then?


I think if it is just 1 or 2 attendants than maybe do the distinguishing, but if you are having a larger bridal party, it seems more complex than it needs to be, to me..in my opinion.


Also, I will be a BM in a wedding this August 6 weeks after I give birth. Thankfully the dress is ''very flowy'' and forgiving so I won''t have a problem fitting. Maybe you could give this woman in your wedding a choice of a dessy dress that is more flattering for her body shape in the same color as what you have chosen?

Do you have a linik to their dresses, I love to look at ''em so if you don''t mind sharing, would love to see!

 

[misysu2]

Date: 1/10/2008 11:57:30 PM
Author: Sophie
maybe it is just me, but why the need to distinguish?

I personally don''t think it is necessary to separate whose ''special person'' they are. for example, at our wedding, our ''groomsmen were my 2 brothers, his 2 brothers, and his dad was Best Man. The Bridesmaids all happened to be my friends/relatives, so no need to distinguish there, but should my brothers have been ''bridesmen'' then?


I think if it is just 1 or 2 attendants than maybe do the distinguishing, but if you are having a larger bridal party, it seems more complex than it needs to be, to me..in my opinion.


Also, I will be a BM in a wedding this August 6 weeks after I give birth. Thankfully the dress is ''very flowy'' and forgiving so I won''t have a problem fitting. Maybe you could give this woman in your wedding a choice of a dessy dress that is more flattering for her body shape in the same color as what you have chosen?

Do you have a linik to their dresses, I love to look at ''em so if you don''t mind sharing, would love to see!

We''re not distinguishing whose side each GM and BM is representing, but trying to normalize the BM who will be having the baby into the wedding party. We gave her a choice to order a dress with the rest of the BM''s (ANY style) or go the black dress route, and she chose the black dress route because she couldn''t guess her future size.

We didn''t want her to feel out of place standing in line with 2 other BMs who match and she doesn''t. That''s all!

Unfortunately, I don''t have pics of the dresses because my BMs haven''t ordered their choices yet (another issue altogether).... They''ll be Dessy in teal.