Buffet AND Seating Chart?
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Since you are having a buffet, you could probably forgo the set seating arrangement. I''ve seen it done both ways. As for the head table, since you aren''t having a bridal party, you could probably have a little table just for you and your new husband. It''s your wedding, do it however you feel comfortable.Date: 2/18/2006 4:01:32 AM
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We are having a buffet at our reception, can we get away with NOT having a set seating arrangement? Plus, since we won''t be having bridesmaids, groomsmen, etc; do we still have a head table? So confussing!?!?!?!?
Will be REALLY appreciative for suggustions!
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I would say the more "formal" your reception is, the more need for a seating chart, buffet or not. If you are just hosting a very informal reception with buffet, and you really would rather the guests do their mingling during the time they''re eating, then maybe I would forgo a seating chart. It really depends on the overall feel you want your reception to have.
I do think it''s more confusing to NOT have a seating chart. Guests are usually accustomed to having one, and it may create more confusion in the end regardless of the fact that they are having a sit-down meal or a buffet. Then again, you may have many guests who already know each other and want to be able to sit next to whomever they please. Very circumstantial decision, IMO. Do what seems right to you, etiquette be damned.
I do think it''s more confusing to NOT have a seating chart. Guests are usually accustomed to having one, and it may create more confusion in the end regardless of the fact that they are having a sit-down meal or a buffet. Then again, you may have many guests who already know each other and want to be able to sit next to whomever they please. Very circumstantial decision, IMO. Do what seems right to you, etiquette be damned.
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Date: 2/19/2006 5:06:56 AM
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Thanks everyone! I''ve read through some other ''seating'' threads and decided to go with a seating chart. I think even though it will be a difficult project,(making chart), my guests will probably feel more comfortable not having to scramble for seats.
I agree. I absolutely think seating charts are necessary, buffet or not.
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Date: 2/19/2006 5:06:56 AM
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Thanks everyone! I''ve read through some other ''seating'' threads and decided to go with a seating chart. I think even though it will be a difficult project,(making chart), my guests will probably feel more comfortable not having to scramble for seats.
I think you made a good choice. I have only been to two weddings without a seating chart (both were buffets). One was 300+ guests so maybe they figured it wasn''t worth the pain. However the nice thing was that there were lots of extra tables so seating with friends was not a problem. The second wedding was the exact opposite. Probably 120 guests and the room was so small there were tables on the porch (I am not kidding) It was a mad dash to not only find a table but find one with enough seats for those who wanted to sit together. It was kind of stressful.
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I think it depends on how large your wedding is. Mine had only 75 people and we did not use seating charts. It worked just fine. We had extra tables put out so that people could leave and empty chair or 2 at one table and start a new table if they had certain people they wanted to sit with. I was stressing out too much on who should sit with who that my husband suggested this and much to my surprise it wasn't a problem. I wouldn't want to do it with 200+ people though.
We also did not have any sort of head table. We told our attendants to sit where ever they wanted. We sat in the "empty" chairs at people's tables and nibbled on small plates of food and talked. Then moved onto another table. That way we got to talk with people without standing over them hovering.
We also did not have any sort of head table. We told our attendants to sit where ever they wanted. We sat in the "empty" chairs at people's tables and nibbled on small plates of food and talked. Then moved onto another table. That way we got to talk with people without standing over them hovering.
How many people are you having? I went to a large wedding over the summer, that was buffet, and no seating chart. Honestly, it was kind of annoying b/c people would throw their things in a chair and then go off and sit in another one. It was hard to find a place to sit and eat! I think the number of people really depends on whether or not you should do a a seating chart.
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I didn''t read all the posts, but at our wedding, our "head table" was a round table in the center of the room, but we did have a bridal party, and they sat with us there. At a friend''s wedding, just the bride and groom sat alone at a "head table." I think you may have already decided, but I think it might be best to have the seating chart. We had buffet, but had a seating chart, and I think it was much better that way.
I''ve been to some weddings with buffets that have seating arrangements and others that don''t. So, I guess you can go either way.
I''m not having a meal at my reception, just a nice selection of finger foods. My mom said that we shouldn''t have a seating chart with finger foods. Is that true? Not all of our relatives and friends get along, so I''d be kind of worried if we didn''t.
I''m not having a meal at my reception, just a nice selection of finger foods. My mom said that we shouldn''t have a seating chart with finger foods. Is that true? Not all of our relatives and friends get along, so I''d be kind of worried if we didn''t.
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I think you made the right choice with the seating chart.
If you don''t have a wedding party, you could have a "sweetheart table" where you and your husband sit alone. If it were me, I would sit at a table with our parents and other special people who traveled far that I don''t see often (like my grandparents). I actually almost was considering this...and then seating my extra bridesmaids with other friends who are not part of the wedding party.
XChick--I would think that with finger foods there wouldn''t be a need for a seating chart. It sounds like a cocktail/hors d''oeuvres reception where people will stand and mingle a lot.
If you don''t have a wedding party, you could have a "sweetheart table" where you and your husband sit alone. If it were me, I would sit at a table with our parents and other special people who traveled far that I don''t see often (like my grandparents). I actually almost was considering this...and then seating my extra bridesmaids with other friends who are not part of the wedding party.
XChick--I would think that with finger foods there wouldn''t be a need for a seating chart. It sounds like a cocktail/hors d''oeuvres reception where people will stand and mingle a lot.
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