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Aww, thanks amy_dub, for asking! BUT...
Unfortunately, I haven''t gotten it yet!
BF is seriously confusing the heck out of me!!
Confusion #1: Last week he started asking me what I want. -What? You''ve told me for how long that you had my gift picked out and you really don''t? He says he does but he wants to have an input from me on what I would really ''want.'' Umm, okay. (I didn''t answer and told him I wanted what he had planned HIMSELF to get me. I would like it no matter what it was.)
Confusion #2: I told him that if he thought our anniversary was more important that he didn''t have to get me a birthday gift seeing as it is our 5 years (next month) and I do want to do something special... and also that it''s just another birthday, no special-ness about the year or anything... so it would be totally fine with me to give up a birthday gift for a better 5 year anniversary. He never really said anythng back... just an "Oh, okay" or something along those lines.
Confusion #3: We were in the mall the other day and I was in a really weird mood and I was like I wish you would tell me if you''re getting me a gift or not... because me not knowing is driving me nuts! I told him if he told me no, that I wasn''t getting a gift (in return for a better anniversary) that I would stop bugging him because obviously there would be nothing to bug him about. Haha. So he says no, I''m not getting you one in a "please, stop bugging me" tone. And I was like stop fibbing... and then he goes do you want what I was going to get you? I, of course, say yes and he says ''Oh, I was just going to take you clothes shopping since you''ve been saying you need new clothes." The way he said it was like it was total BS and just made it up on the spot to shut me up. -WHAT? What about all those hints?? He made them up?? He says he was just coming up with stuff to throw me off... and I kinda frowned and stopped talking after that.
So we start walking and he goes ''If you only knew what I was really getting you, you''d have a heart attack." -Huh? You just told me you weren''t getting me anything, then said you were getting me clothes, then now this? What the @#^$?!?! LoL.
Since then, I haven''t asked AT ALL about a possible gift. I''m just confused and don''t know if he''s really holding off on any gift until our anniversary or he was really just going to get me clothes... or even if he just threw in that last line to really get me going. UGH!!!!
But last night he did randomly tell me that he''s putting a slip in for the day off on sunday (my birthday). So that''s exciting. Although I''m really not sure as to what, if anything, we''ll be doing for it but it''ll still be really nice to spend the day with him.
So what do all you lovely ladies think?
Unfortunately, I haven''t gotten it yet!
BF is seriously confusing the heck out of me!!
Confusion #1: Last week he started asking me what I want. -What? You''ve told me for how long that you had my gift picked out and you really don''t? He says he does but he wants to have an input from me on what I would really ''want.'' Umm, okay. (I didn''t answer and told him I wanted what he had planned HIMSELF to get me. I would like it no matter what it was.)
Confusion #2: I told him that if he thought our anniversary was more important that he didn''t have to get me a birthday gift seeing as it is our 5 years (next month) and I do want to do something special... and also that it''s just another birthday, no special-ness about the year or anything... so it would be totally fine with me to give up a birthday gift for a better 5 year anniversary. He never really said anythng back... just an "Oh, okay" or something along those lines.
Confusion #3: We were in the mall the other day and I was in a really weird mood and I was like I wish you would tell me if you''re getting me a gift or not... because me not knowing is driving me nuts! I told him if he told me no, that I wasn''t getting a gift (in return for a better anniversary) that I would stop bugging him because obviously there would be nothing to bug him about. Haha. So he says no, I''m not getting you one in a "please, stop bugging me" tone. And I was like stop fibbing... and then he goes do you want what I was going to get you? I, of course, say yes and he says ''Oh, I was just going to take you clothes shopping since you''ve been saying you need new clothes." The way he said it was like it was total BS and just made it up on the spot to shut me up. -WHAT? What about all those hints?? He made them up?? He says he was just coming up with stuff to throw me off... and I kinda frowned and stopped talking after that.
Since then, I haven''t asked AT ALL about a possible gift. I''m just confused and don''t know if he''s really holding off on any gift until our anniversary or he was really just going to get me clothes... or even if he just threw in that last line to really get me going. UGH!!!!
But last night he did randomly tell me that he''s putting a slip in for the day off on sunday (my birthday). So that''s exciting. Although I''m really not sure as to what, if anything, we''ll be doing for it but it''ll still be really nice to spend the day with him.
So what do all you lovely ladies think?
Keepingthefaith21
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I think guys are weird and you have to pretty much ignore everything they say
Whenever my SO tells me that I''m going to flip out over a present it usually means it''s something that HE thinks is great (i.e sports memorabilia - I''m a huge Red Sox/Patriots fan- or something to do with videogames - another guilty pleasure of mine)! All the times he''s gotten me things that I''m blown away by, he never makes a peep about what he''s purchased. He had a ring custom made for Valentine''s Day and said absolutely nothing about it. So, I''ve learned to not ask (or ask once) and no matter what he says, I try not to read into it because in the end it will never make sense.
A trick I''ve learned over the years, and this may only work with my SO but it has proven to be VERY effective is just paying attention to things that happen quickly that same a tiny bit odd. When he bought me my Burberry purse, the week before we were at a huge flea market and they had knockoff purses on display. I was fiddling with a wallet in the Burberry pattern, he walked over and said "is that real? Oh no, the plaid isn''t the same." I knew something was up because there was no reason for him to "know" Burberry otherwise. I knew immediately he had got me a purse. Sure enough, a few weeks later, I opened a lovely Burberry purse from him.
His initial hints made sense though. He did say ADS and someone one here did guess "A Day of Shopping" and the "corn" hint was also suspected to mean something involving a lot of walking....
Can''t wait to find out what it really is!!!
Whenever my SO tells me that I''m going to flip out over a present it usually means it''s something that HE thinks is great (i.e sports memorabilia - I''m a huge Red Sox/Patriots fan- or something to do with videogames - another guilty pleasure of mine)! All the times he''s gotten me things that I''m blown away by, he never makes a peep about what he''s purchased. He had a ring custom made for Valentine''s Day and said absolutely nothing about it. So, I''ve learned to not ask (or ask once) and no matter what he says, I try not to read into it because in the end it will never make sense.
A trick I''ve learned over the years, and this may only work with my SO but it has proven to be VERY effective is just paying attention to things that happen quickly that same a tiny bit odd. When he bought me my Burberry purse, the week before we were at a huge flea market and they had knockoff purses on display. I was fiddling with a wallet in the Burberry pattern, he walked over and said "is that real? Oh no, the plaid isn''t the same." I knew something was up because there was no reason for him to "know" Burberry otherwise. I knew immediately he had got me a purse. Sure enough, a few weeks later, I opened a lovely Burberry purse from him.
His initial hints made sense though. He did say ADS and someone one here did guess "A Day of Shopping" and the "corn" hint was also suspected to mean something involving a lot of walking....
Can''t wait to find out what it really is!!!
bubbly1126
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Yeah, I thought about that... but the whole not being able to use it right away because there is another "phase to it" and he also said it was small (I don't remember if I ever said that.) just doesn't make sense.Date: 10/15/2007 3:44:55 PM
Author: Keepingthefaith21
I think guys are weird and you have to pretty much ignore everything they say
Whenever my SO tells me that I'm going to flip out over a present it usually means it's something that HE thinks is great (i.e sports memorabilia - I'm a huge Red Sox/Patriots fan- or something to do with videogames - another guilty pleasure of mine)! All the times he's gotten me things that I'm blown away by, he never makes a peep about what he's purchased. He had a ring custom made for Valentine's Day and said absolutely nothing about it. So, I've learned to not ask (or ask once) and no matter what he says, I try not to read into it because in the end it will never make sense.
A trick I've learned over the years, and this may only work with my SO but it has proven to be VERY effective is just paying attention to things that happen quickly that same a tiny bit odd. When he bought me my Burberry purse, the week before we were at a huge flea market and they had knockoff purses on display. I was fiddling with a wallet in the Burberry pattern, he walked over and said 'is that real? Oh no, the plaid isn't the same.' I knew something was up because there was no reason for him to 'know' Burberry otherwise. I knew immediately he had got me a purse. Sure enough, a few weeks later, I opened a lovely Burberry purse from him.
His initial hints made sense though. He did say ADS and someone one here did guess 'A Day of Shopping' and the 'corn' hint was also suspected to mean something involving a lot of walking....
Can't wait to find out what it really is!!!
Well, thank goodness he said I'll get my gift (if he's still getting me one at all) on or around (not after) my birthday so the most I have to wait is 6 days! Hehe.
Oh and yeah, I pay close attention to things he says or does... which is why I find it weird that everytime we're in the mall he asks why I so badly want this stuffed bear that sits on top of a ring showcase in one of the malls jewelry stores. (I mentioned it a couple times and most of the time I felt like he ignored my comments but I haven't mentioned it in the past 2-3 weeks or so and we've been to the mall several times since.) He also originally said that my gift might come with a second gift but he hasn't decided yet... (Whatever he's getting me and maybe the bear?) I don't know... I just think it's weird.
diamondsgirl22
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oh wow, it sounds like he is really messing with your head. He could be saying all of that so that you will get off of his back. I would suggest to just drop it until your birthday. he might not want to pop the question until you stop asking him lots of questions about what he is getting you. he could also be getting you a gift and then getting you a ring also. to fool you into thinking that there is only one gift. Maybe he will propose on your birthday as to fool you. He might think that you are expecting it on your anniversary. maybe? or maybe the other way around? guys are sneaky when they want to be so i would just lay low and let him do the planning. sounds pretty suspcious to me though.
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oh also, since your clue of ADS has been revealed by your ff and since he said that there was another phase to it could it be that he is proposing but wanted your input so he only got the setting or the diamond so that the two of you could go pick out one or the other together? i just had an ephiphany!! Could ADS be ''a diamond setting''? i surprise myself sometimes!!! What do you think bubbly?!!!??
bubbly1126
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haha. My very first thought was either a diamond setting or a diamond solitaire.
Very well could be... but I doubt it.
The hints don''t match up... then again, I don''t know if they are even real! lol. (actually the another phase to it hint I thought was maybe that it had to be sized... so that''s why I couldn''t use it right away.)
You''re new here... so I''ll give you the readers digest version of BF and I.
I want to get engaged very badly... and I joined this forum because at one point I was just so frustrated that I was getting myself so upset/depressed over it. We''ve talked about it several times and he assures me that he wants to marry me and it will happen "soon." Now the question is, is it boy soon or girl soon? Because there is a HUGE difference. lol. And while he says he wants to get married and such, we''ve never made any ''solid'' plans. (ie. we''ll go ring shopping at this time... we''ll be engaged by this time... etc.) So it''s all really up in the air.
Lately he''s been entertaining me with looking at rings online. He asks which ones I like/don''t like. Etc.
I''ve been bringing up engagement stories I read about on here and other various ones I find on the net and telling him every detail about them and he actually likes to hear about them... (cut back to a 1-2 years ago... he would most likely get annoyed.) I just feel as though his demeanor and everything having to do with getting engaged is a whole lot better. Like extremely better.
BUT: BF is very fixated on having amazing careers, a home of our own and nice cars and such before getting married. (at least this was his view about 6 months ago, I''m not sure how much it''s changed since then.) I don''t blame him for this, nor is it a bad thing... but sometimes I wish he would deviate a little from his "life plan" and do something spontaneous.
While I really don''t believe either my birthday or anniversary gift will be an engagement ring, who knows? lol. He is very good at throwing me off... so maybe. He could surprise me...
But I''m not getting my hopes up!
Very well could be... but I doubt it.
The hints don''t match up... then again, I don''t know if they are even real! lol. (actually the another phase to it hint I thought was maybe that it had to be sized... so that''s why I couldn''t use it right away.)
You''re new here... so I''ll give you the readers digest version of BF and I.
I want to get engaged very badly... and I joined this forum because at one point I was just so frustrated that I was getting myself so upset/depressed over it. We''ve talked about it several times and he assures me that he wants to marry me and it will happen "soon." Now the question is, is it boy soon or girl soon? Because there is a HUGE difference. lol. And while he says he wants to get married and such, we''ve never made any ''solid'' plans. (ie. we''ll go ring shopping at this time... we''ll be engaged by this time... etc.) So it''s all really up in the air.
Lately he''s been entertaining me with looking at rings online. He asks which ones I like/don''t like. Etc.
I''ve been bringing up engagement stories I read about on here and other various ones I find on the net and telling him every detail about them and he actually likes to hear about them... (cut back to a 1-2 years ago... he would most likely get annoyed.) I just feel as though his demeanor and everything having to do with getting engaged is a whole lot better. Like extremely better.
BUT: BF is very fixated on having amazing careers, a home of our own and nice cars and such before getting married. (at least this was his view about 6 months ago, I''m not sure how much it''s changed since then.) I don''t blame him for this, nor is it a bad thing... but sometimes I wish he would deviate a little from his "life plan" and do something spontaneous.
While I really don''t believe either my birthday or anniversary gift will be an engagement ring, who knows? lol. He is very good at throwing me off... so maybe. He could surprise me...
But I''m not getting my hopes up!
diamondsgirl22
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hmmm...it sounds like he is going to ask soon. You said that he was getting more interested in engagment rings and stuff. maybe he wants you to show him which ones you like online so that he can have a better idea.so maybe if you sit him down and have a serious talk with him about where he stands and tell him that it means a lot to you and you really know that he wants to be settled in his career and have a house but that being engaged will help you two to be more in sync when making your big decisions and that it means a lot to you as making a bigger committment. He could be giving you fake hints.
I get that a lot when i ask for hints. Guys are pretty smart so i wouldnt put it past him to give you fake ones. or he could be giving you the real deal hints thinking that you wont get your hopes up about it even though the clues lead you to the big question! He is a guy so in the end you never know what he is thinking until it happens...
bubbly1126
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So I''m about 100% positive that nothing special will be happening for my birthday.
BF''s request for the day off got denied. So he''ll be working the whole weekend. Actually, he won''t have a day off (after tomorrow and thursday) until next weekend (27th, 28th).
This is the exact reason it''s always good to never get your hopes up.
BF''s request for the day off got denied. So he''ll be working the whole weekend. Actually, he won''t have a day off (after tomorrow and thursday) until next weekend (27th, 28th).
This is the exact reason it''s always good to never get your hopes up.
Keepingthefaith21
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Aww bubbly I am sorry his request got denied. That is a total let down. Can he bribe anyone to cover his Sunday shift?
BUT: BF is very fixated on having amazing careers, a home of our own and nice cars and such before getting married. (at least this was his view about 6 months ago, I''m not sure how much it''s changed since then.) I don''t blame him for this, nor is it a bad thing... but sometimes I wish he would deviate a little from his "life plan" and do something spontaneous.
I just posted about how my SO and I purchased our home before getting engaged and how much that has restricted our budget. In fact, I believe it has really pushed our engagement even further away because owning a home is expensive. Make sure you are okay with a delayed engagement if your home purchase comes before engagement. If you are not okay with owning a home with a man you are not engaged to: voice your opinion loud and clear. I sat back and trusted the engagement was going to coincide with the house purchase. A year later I am still waiting. While I do love and enjoy my home, I have many days where I wonder if I''d have a ring had we just held off for a year or two. Trust me, when it comes to something as expensive as a house, you don''t want to be left wondering anything!
BUT: BF is very fixated on having amazing careers, a home of our own and nice cars and such before getting married. (at least this was his view about 6 months ago, I''m not sure how much it''s changed since then.) I don''t blame him for this, nor is it a bad thing... but sometimes I wish he would deviate a little from his "life plan" and do something spontaneous.
I just posted about how my SO and I purchased our home before getting engaged and how much that has restricted our budget. In fact, I believe it has really pushed our engagement even further away because owning a home is expensive. Make sure you are okay with a delayed engagement if your home purchase comes before engagement. If you are not okay with owning a home with a man you are not engaged to: voice your opinion loud and clear. I sat back and trusted the engagement was going to coincide with the house purchase. A year later I am still waiting. While I do love and enjoy my home, I have many days where I wonder if I''d have a ring had we just held off for a year or two. Trust me, when it comes to something as expensive as a house, you don''t want to be left wondering anything!
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Yeah, I read your post about that. That''s exactly what I don''t want to happen with us. While I would love to own a home together, I would really prefer to get engaged first. To me, taking that next step in our relationship is much more important than owning a home. Besides, it would just give us that much more time to save for a house.
I''ve voiced my views on him being so fixated on having/doing certain things before we''re engaged and while I think he sees my point, it''s still very hard for him to do things on a whim. Hmm, actually, wait... I just had a thought... BF goes out every year and buys a new car... just on a whim. And when nothing is even wrong with the car he''s got, he just sees something he likes and has to have it. Okay, so if he can do that every year or so, when he really doesn''t need to, then why can''t he ask me to marry him when it''s something he supposedly wants just as bad as I? Hmm... I think we just opened up a can of worms here. lol.
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