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Ideal_Rock
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Now I'm just getting annoyed...and even a little depressed.
Just to give some background:
My BF and I have been together (ETA: what will be-->) 7 years in April. Yup, 7. Last year at this time, we eagerly discussed marriage and how we both felt we'd be ready to get married in the next two years or so ('09-'10). Soon afterwards, he told me that he wanted this to be the year he proposed. This happened in Jan or Feb...maybe March. I joined PS in late March, so it was some time before that. Needless to say, I was thrilled, and that was when I started really thinking--okay obsessing--about the whole engagement-ring-proposal thing.
So to reiterate, in March I joined PS and started researching my dream ring, and of course, began obsessing about the engagement. In everyone else's excitement (my friends, family, my fellow LIW), I got a little carried away and began obsessing to my BF. At which point he told me I needed to stop--that he wanted to do this on his own and he wanted it to be a surprise. With the help of my PS gals, giving me much needed advice, I was able to put a lid on it and let it go for a good while.
Here's my issue: Over the last 6 months or so, there have been a few occasions where I thought he might pop the question. One biggie was in August when we went away for a week. Of course, there wasn't a proposal, and although I was a teensy bit disappointed, I got over it because I knew he'd do it when he was ready to. Now, over the last few months, there have been other times I thought he might do it, but, again, he hasn't. Just to clarify, my BF is wonderful. He is the love of my life, my best friend (it sounds cliché, but its true--blah!), you get what I'm saying. The thing is, I am really starting to get sad when I think about why he hasn't asked me yet. I almost feel like he's playing games...waiting until the very last minute. I think I said earlier this year in a LIW thread that it would be just like him to wait until 11:59 on New Year's Eve to ask me, but at the time I WAS KIDDING! Now I am beginning to think he probably will. Or even worse, he isn't even planning on doing it this year.
Please, all of you be honest with me. I can take the criticism (really, I can--come at me with all you got) because I need semi-objective input. All my cousins and friends are waiting for him to pop the question, so they aren't any help--really they're useless. You guys are so great about helping a girl see what's really there.
What do you think???
Also, just FYI: I know absolutely nothing about a ring--whether he is really actively looking or whether he purchased one already. There was a time that he was asking me to show him what I like, but after I did, all discussions ceased and I haven't heard anything since. Now I just pretend that I have stopped thinking about the whole thing. In other words, I am acting my you-know-what off.
Just to give some background:
My BF and I have been together (ETA: what will be-->) 7 years in April. Yup, 7. Last year at this time, we eagerly discussed marriage and how we both felt we'd be ready to get married in the next two years or so ('09-'10). Soon afterwards, he told me that he wanted this to be the year he proposed. This happened in Jan or Feb...maybe March. I joined PS in late March, so it was some time before that. Needless to say, I was thrilled, and that was when I started really thinking--okay obsessing--about the whole engagement-ring-proposal thing.
So to reiterate, in March I joined PS and started researching my dream ring, and of course, began obsessing about the engagement. In everyone else's excitement (my friends, family, my fellow LIW), I got a little carried away and began obsessing to my BF. At which point he told me I needed to stop--that he wanted to do this on his own and he wanted it to be a surprise. With the help of my PS gals, giving me much needed advice, I was able to put a lid on it and let it go for a good while.
Here's my issue: Over the last 6 months or so, there have been a few occasions where I thought he might pop the question. One biggie was in August when we went away for a week. Of course, there wasn't a proposal, and although I was a teensy bit disappointed, I got over it because I knew he'd do it when he was ready to. Now, over the last few months, there have been other times I thought he might do it, but, again, he hasn't. Just to clarify, my BF is wonderful. He is the love of my life, my best friend (it sounds cliché, but its true--blah!), you get what I'm saying. The thing is, I am really starting to get sad when I think about why he hasn't asked me yet. I almost feel like he's playing games...waiting until the very last minute. I think I said earlier this year in a LIW thread that it would be just like him to wait until 11:59 on New Year's Eve to ask me, but at the time I WAS KIDDING! Now I am beginning to think he probably will. Or even worse, he isn't even planning on doing it this year.
Please, all of you be honest with me. I can take the criticism (really, I can--come at me with all you got) because I need semi-objective input. All my cousins and friends are waiting for him to pop the question, so they aren't any help--really they're useless. You guys are so great about helping a girl see what's really there.
What do you think???
Also, just FYI: I know absolutely nothing about a ring--whether he is really actively looking or whether he purchased one already. There was a time that he was asking me to show him what I like, but after I did, all discussions ceased and I haven't heard anything since. Now I just pretend that I have stopped thinking about the whole thing. In other words, I am acting my you-know-what off.
My bf is always telling me the things I do are 'wife material'... it's this cute thing we say to eachother.. but sometimes when he starts talking about moving to another place with me, having kids, etc. I just hold my hand up and sigh.. and he laughs. It can be very frustrating!
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