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fisherofmengirly

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I don''t understand why a bride goes down the aisle without her engagement ring, and I don''t understand why the wedding band is then worn closest to the hand, then the engagement ring over it. Why is this?

I have heard that some photographers do pictures *without the couple together* before the wedding, but I don''t want to if that means I''ll have pictures without my engagement ring on.

How long before the wedding do you take it off? Why is it done this way? Does everyone do it this way? Once I''m married, I think I like the look of the wedding band over the engagement ring, not under it. Is anyone else like that?
 
Fisher, I think that some people move their engagement ring to their right hand until after the ceremony. The tradition of wearing the wedding band on the bottom is so that it will be closest to your heart. I think it''s fine to wear it however you''d like, though. If you want to wear it that way, I think you should keep it on your left hand for the ceremony.
 
I''ve never heard of not wearing your e-ring at all down the aisle...

Most women wear their engagement rings on their right hand during the wedding (unless you''re orthodox Christian, then it stays on the left and your wedding band goes on the right) and hten they move the e-ring back over to the left, over the band later. Later can be minutes after the ceremony or the next day, I don''t think there''s a protocol. Some brides are encouraged to move it soon so it''ll be with the wedding band in the picture.

The most popular myth for why the wedding band is worn on the ring finger of hte left hand is that there''s an artery/vein/something that runs directly to the heart. The wedding band is usually worn under the E-ring to signify that it''s closer to your heart. That and, more practically, there are day-to-day tasks for which one might want to remove a delicate and valuable E-ring, but not the band (cooking, gardening, cleaning, etc.).

All that having been said, there aren''t any hard and fast rules. It''s just tradition. There''s more data here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_ring

Hope that helps!
 
I think I will walk down the isle with my ring on my RH. FI will place my wedding band on my left ring finger during the ceremony and after it''s complete I will transfer the ring over on top of my wedding band.

I''ve hear the whole "closest to your heart" thing as well, and think it''s very sweet! If you don''t like that though do it the other way!
 
Well now, I''d not thought of the fact that there will be times when I won''t wear my engagement ring all the time, particularly once I have a wedding band to wear, too.

My right hand can''t wear my engagement ring, since my left ring finger is a 4 1/4 and my right is a 4 3/4. Hmm. I never noticed women wearing them on the right side. I''m not a totally observant person, other than a friend of mine has like half of her pictures from her wedding day with her not wearing a ring at all, and she regrets it now *they were taken before the wedding.*

A lady at the store we went to this weekend to look at rings said that you can put Windex on your finger to make it slide on, or off, and I just did that, and the ring will fit my right hand after all. Maybe I''ll end up wearing it on my right hand.

Thanks for the information; I was just curious as to why it is that a ring you get first gets worn last on the finger. The vein thing is cute, though. Kinda helps it make sense to me. That and I''d be able to take off my engagement ring before doing dishes, and still have the wedding band on.

I wonder if a curved wedding band looks silly on it''s own. I wonder if that''s something I can google to see a picture of.
 
I have not heard of not wearing the ering at all on your wedding day.

I meant to put my ering on my RH but totally forgot, so when it came time to do the rings, DH just slipped the wedding band on the outside of my ering, and I swapped it later... oh well!!
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I plan on wearing my e-ring during the ceremony on my left hand as normal, and slipping the wedding band on in front of it, then switching the wedding band and e-ring (so the WB is closer to my hand) before the reception. That''s what most of my friends have done, and I like it...
 
Yup.
I wore my e-ring on my right hand for the ceremony. I almost NEVER take off my wedding ring now. It is a rough and tumble simple band. My e-ring comes off when I play sports or I garden, wash the dogs etc.
Also when I clean (almost EVERY DAY! thanks to my US cleaner!!! lol.)
I like to think that the e-ring is sort of a place holder for the band, and amazingly wonderful and gorgeous placeholder...
 
Date: 9/7/2006 6:36:28 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly

I wonder if a curved wedding band looks silly on it''s own. I wonder if that''s something I can google to see a picture of.
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We have a set where my wedding band matches the style of my engagement ring. It is curved so that the ring curves around the halo...very beautiful IMO.

FI let me see the wedding band soon after we got engaged and I tried it on with my e-ring and it looked oh so beautiful.
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Then I took my e-ring off to see what the curved band would look like on it''s own, and it looked funny. So it looks like I won''t be wearing my wedding band alone, which is OK with me. Even if it were a straight band set with my e-ring (which IMO would look weird with my halo) that matched my e-ring I still wouldn''t wear it to bed, shower, water sports, etc...bc i''d be worried about the micropave diamonds.
 
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I was looking at a similar one to what I liked, and it sort of looks like the band takes on a look of a bird in flight, so maybe I can think of it that way, rather than as a band that's dipped down in the middle. Haha. What I'm *hoping* to get is a simple curved band, VERY thin, with seven miniscule diamonds across the front, totalling something like 1/7 of a carat, so you get an idea of how thin the band is. It's gorgeous, though. I'm hoping to get the diamond on either end of the row replaced with emeralds, but I don't know if that's really a possibility with anything already made, even though the ring will have to be ordered in my correct size. The online sites I've looked at only have 1/4 carat as the smallest choice in carat size, and those bands end up being too thick for my tastes.

Anyway, maybe the curve alone will grow on me. Who knows. Otherwise, my ring isn't so delicate it can't be worn every day.
 
Kinda jumping in late here but I just wore my engagement ring on my left hand when I got married. I had a right hand ring I wanted to wear as usual, so after DH put my wedding ring on over my e-ring, I just switched it later. I don''t think I''ve ever worn my wedding ring continuously for more than 20 hours at a time, and sometimes I wear different bands, so it wasn''t important for me to have my ring finger free for only my wedding ring when I got married.
 
I couldnt fit my ering on my right hand, so I wore it on my left. Hubby put my band over and then after the ceremony we switched... and i say we because I made him put both rings back on.

My wedding band sounds similar to what you are looking for. Its 2.5mm wide and has 13 single cut diamonds bead set for a total of just under .1 ct and as a lovely curve that I love with and without my ering. I think its fun and different to wear my wedding band alone, i dont even think most people notice from a distance. Most of the time i wear the curve down (like I would with my ering) and sometimes i wear it up... depends on my mood!
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With my ering...

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And by itself...

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I wore mine the ENTIRE time. He put the wedding band on top of my e-ring and I quickly switched them when the ceremony was done. Worked fine for me.
 
I have had different friends do different things. Most of them just wear their engagement ring as normal until right before the ceremony, so they have it on for pictures and everything, and then they usually slip it onto their other hand RIGHT before entering. Then they slip it ontop of the wedding band right afterwards. I did have one friend who had her mother wear it on her pinky finger while the ceremony was underway.
 
I also heard teh band goes closer to your heart, the perfect circle of life and love. I thought you get engaged, have ring on left hand til married, during the ceremony you move the ering to the right so you can put the band on the left. But some people leave the ering on the left, wear the band with it etc...I think it is your choice.
 
Our rabbi just told us that in a more traditional Jewish ceremony, the bride is to be "unadorned" (at least on the hands) -- I am not to wear my e-ring at all (not even on the right hand) until after the ceremony.
 
I wore my e-ring on my wedding day like I always do (also it didn''t fit on my right hand) and then after the ceremony I took my rings off and switched them so that my w-band would be closer to my heart.
 
My MOH wore my e-ring during the ceremony*, and gave it back right after. I wore it for the pictures before the ceremony with my family. If you have pictures taken before the ceremony, I would definitely wear it then. It's only during the ceremony that people take it off - or at least, that was always my understanding. I don't see any reason to take it off for pre-wedding pictures.

*ETA: I had to do it that way, because it won't fit on my right hand ring finger, and would slip right off my pinky.
 

Date: 9/7/2006 6:41:32 PM
Author: flopkins
I have not heard of not wearing the ering at all on your wedding day.

I meant to put my ering on my RH but totally forgot, so when it came time to do the rings, DH just slipped the wedding band on the outside of my ering, and I swapped it later... oh well!!
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Ditto... except I didn''t forget to move the ring... I wanted to wear a RHR for my something blue. So DH put it on the outside, and I switched it in the limo on the way to the reception.
 
I wore both ering and wband for the pre-wedding pictures and gave back the wband after pics (the best man joked that we were "cheating"
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). My ering doesn''t fit on my RH either, so in the middle of the ceremony (I forgot before!) I put it halfway down on my LH middle finger and turned the basket in between my fingers so the rock wouldn''t appear as readily on the video or to the guests. Then I switched the ering back to the ring finger before walking back down the aisle. I must be a true Pricescoper - even I can''t tell when I was doing all this fussing with the rings from watching our video!

If you have your rings soldered together, then you obviously can''t wear the ering when you walk down the aisle.
 
I actually have never heard of going down without your engagement ring on. I have heard you are supposed to switch it to another finger so you can have your finger free to put your wedding band and and not have to swap them around later (It sort of goes with the thing where you never take your wedding band off after the wedding.. but no one really does that..).. I however.. forgot to even put my ering on another finger.. Until like.. half way through my ceremony.. So I all non-chalantly switched it to my pinky finger while i was standing up there.. lol.. hehe.. then I just stuck my ering back on after he put my wedding band on my finger right after we exchanged rings.. My e-ring is a bit much for a pinky ring, but that is the only other finger it will fit on (like you.. certainly not my right hand)
 
Take a picture without the e-ring? Why? Pictures will be more boring without that bling. Plus, I didn''t spend thousands not to have it photographed during the most important day of my life.

There are so many "traditions", that frankly, it can be pretty stupid to worry about following them all. Once you throw in a culture that''s different from WASP, these traditions start clashing. So, if you wanna wear the ring, do it. It''s your wedding.
 
When I got married a million years ago (OK, in 1990) "everyone" including me had those matchy wedding sets that sort of have to be soldered together because each piece looks incomplete on its own and they don't stay together otherwise. So I had my set soldered before the wedding and that was my reason for going up the aisle without a ring. You're probably seeing variations of that or of wearing the ering on the RH to make room for the w-band.

But you can do it however you want!
 
Hey - I took pictures before the ceremony with my DH, and I just wore my e-ring on the left ring finger for those pics. Then, before the ceremony, DH and I actually had a nice moment (I have some cute pictures) where he switched my e-ring to my right hand. I kind of liked the idea of making a "moment" out of it, sort of the beginning of my official transition into being a wife...
 
This question is what I wanted to ask on the forum today. I'm so glad I looked through the topics, before posting a new thread.

I have seen "hand" pictures where the e-ring was closer to the heart. I'm thinking the bride wore her e-ring and the w-ring was placed over it. In the rush and excitement, they probably forgot to "switch" before the pictures were taken.

When I was growing up, I always saw both the e-ring and w-ring together on the ring pillow, and I think they were put on at the same time in the ceremony. Maybe because all those many years ago, brides may not have gotten "e-rings" and just got the set for the wedding. It might be a culture thing, or socio-economic thing. Who knows?

I think I like the idea of wearing my e-ring down the aisle, and then switching.. I just hope I remember to do that. But I'm torn. I first wanted to have both rings on the bearer's pillow (I hope he doesn't lose them!) and have both the e- and w- ring placed on my finger by my groom. This is how I've always known it to be, but I think I'd like to see my e-ring as he places the w-ring on. I dunno!

BTW, short, funny story. My nephew must have been 4 or 5 when he was a ringbearer. They specifically asked him NOT to untie the ribbon holding the rings. When it came time for him to go up to the couple, he stood and you could hear the "clinking" noise of the rings rolling around somewhere in the church... and gasps from the ladies near him! hahaha
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So.. maybe I should just put some fake rings on the pillow? My ringbearer's older, about 10.. so I don't think it'll be a problem?
 
f.longstocking: perhaps you could have someone quickly "stitch" the rings to the ringbearer pillow before your ringbearer walks down the aisle with them? Just one or two stitches, something that would be quite easy to pull out, but still keep the rings attached to the pillow? I didn''t have a ringbearer in my wedding, we just had the MOH and the Best Man hold onto our respective wedding bands until the priest asked for them during the ceremony (I think...lol!)

For the record, I did remember to switch my e-ring to my right hand a few minutes before I walked down the aisle. It''s entirely possible one of my bridal party members reminded me...I really don''t remember as it was such an action-packed day, but I''m pretty sure that was the case. There was kind of a lot going on that day, and unfortunately I can''t recall certain details, hee hee.
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I just noticed while watching the new Rachael Ray show that she wears her diamond eternity band OVER her Tiffany solitaire. Wonder why?
 
Maybe she uses it to guard her E-ring?
 
Date: 9/8/2006 8:40:08 AM
Author: appletini
I wore my e-ring on my wedding day like I always do (also it didn''t fit on my right hand) and then after the ceremony I took my rings off and switched them so that my w-band would be closer to my heart.
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I did the same thing. I was also wearing another ring that my Grandmother gave me on my right hand, so that really wasn''t an option to wear e ring on the right hand.

I just switched e ring and w ring before the reception.
 
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