Can I Be Catty For One Moment?

[SuiteLady]

A couple of weeks ago, I saw a college friend. Now that I am older and a lot wiser, I realize that she really wasn’t a friend. I often felt like she was the type to blow me off for someone “better” (a man, popular girl, someone with a car). But we remained “friends”(frenemies?) until she ditched me in Jamaica for a guy that worked at our resort. That’s another story for a completely different day.

She has been married for a few years. I didn’t go to her wedding because I was vacationing…Plus I didn’t know she was engaged until I received the invitation.

So, I saw her out and about at one of the stores. I went over to talk to her. She did the most obnoxious thing imaginable. She did these over exaggerated hand gestures. The coup de grace was she slid her business card to me with her left hand. We were standing at a stack of shoeboxes. She took her business card out with her right hand (she is right-handed) and put it on a shoebox and slid it to me with her left hand.

Why did she do that? She wanted to show off her engagement ring/set. LOL

Two words…A big hunk of yellow frozen spit. OK. That wasn’t two words. But you get the idea. It was a HUGE princess cut diamond that was poorly cut and very visible inclusions (is an I3 possible?). It looked dirty and lifeless. I didn’t find anything about it remotely appealing about it. I thought that she was being a biatch by flashing it like that. I think that she has a little bit of superiority about her marital status.

I do believe that I was supposed to gasp about her “huge ring” and state that her “husband must really love her to give her such a large diamond”. I couldn’t form the words. I am not that good of a liar.

She has no idea of where I am in with my relationship. She also has no idea that my 3/4 carat tw ACA platinum earrings have more life in them that that horribly cut huge yellow piece of hock that is on her finger. And guess what? I bought them myself!

 

[Bia]

LOL YES! Of course you can!

Date: 11/18/2008 12:01:55 PM
Author:SuiteLady

Two words…A big hunk of yellow frozen spit. OK. That wasn’t two words. But you get the idea.

BTW: You did just the right thing. Nothing. I bet you got your non-point across too.

Don''t you love PS?

 

[Italiahaircolor]

It happens to the best of us...welcome to the club.

 

[bubbly1126]

I bet she felt like a complete idiot when she realized you weren''t going to fawn all over her huge *ROCK* haha.

Thank goodness for Pricescope!

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 11/18/2008 12:08:30 PM
Author: Bia
LOL YES! Of course you can!

Date: 11/18/2008 12:01:55 PM

Author:SuiteLady



Two words…A big hunk of yellow frozen spit. OK. That wasn’t two words. But you get the idea.

BTW: You did just the right thing. Nothing. I bet you got your non-point across too.


Don''t you love PS?

Good for your for A) not lying about how you felt about her ring and B) adhering to the policy that if you don''t have anything nice to say then don''t say anything at all.

And honestly it doesn''t sound you owe her anything after the way she has treated someone she would call a friend.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 11/18/2008 12:01:55 PM
Author:SuiteLady

A couple of weeks ago, I saw a college friend. Now that I am older and a lot wiser, I realize that she really wasn’t a friend. I often felt like she was the type to blow me off for someone “better” (a man, popular girl, someone with a car). But we remained “friends”(frenemies?) until she ditched me in Jamaica for a guy that worked at our resort. That’s another story for a completely different day.

She has been married for a few years. I didn’t go to her wedding because I was vacationing…Plus I didn’t know she was engaged until I received the invitation.

So, I saw her out and about at one of the stores. I went over to talk to her. She did the most obnoxious thing imaginable. She did these over exaggerated hand gestures. The coup de grace was she slid her business card to me with her left hand. We were standing at a stack of shoeboxes. She took her business card out with her right hand (she is right-handed) and put it on a shoebox and slid it to me with her left hand.

Why did she do that? She wanted to show off her engagement ring/set. LOL

Two words…A big hunk of yellow frozen spit. OK. That wasn’t two words. But you get the idea. It was a HUGE princess cut diamond that was poorly cut and very visible inclusions (is an I3 possible?). It looked dirty and lifeless. I didn’t find anything about it remotely appealing about it. I thought that she was being a biatch by flashing it like that. I think that she has a little bit of superiority about her marital status.

I do believe that I was supposed to gasp about her “huge ring” and state that her “husband must really love her to give her such a large diamond”. I couldn’t form the words. I am not that good of a liar.

She has no idea of where I am in with my relationship. She also has no idea that my 3/4 carat tw ACA platinum earrings have more life in them that that horribly cut huge yellow piece of hock that is on her finger. And guess what? I bought them myself!

Yes indeed!

 

[SuiteLady]

Guys it was so phony. I couldn't believe it! She is almost forty years old. She JUST got married a couple of years ago. I am a couple of years younger, but I guess she feels she is better because she has achieved marriage. She knows as well as I do how hard it is to find someone to marry. She is lucky. But to be that cruel to try to hurt my feelings by making me feel bad speaks volumes about her. We both know my future fiance from college. I didn't say a word to her about him because IMO she didn't deserve to know about our beautiful relationship.

 

[megster84]

I am so proud of my fellow PSer! You could have said, "Wow that is a special looking stone you have there...ahh yes frozen spit with a hint of pee...yes very impressive"

But you didn''t! I feel like sometimes when women get rings or any sort of jewelry that is poor quality/high guantity it comes from a sad place. They just want to say "Look at me, look at me!" Don''t get me wrong, I love me some big stones, but only if they are good quality. A poor stone doesn''t get any better the bigger you make it...you just look plain silly. Ugh, frenemies!

 

[sammyj]

Wow...all I can say is that it''s good that you realized a long time ago that she wasn''t a real friend to you. Friendship isn''t about showing off and making others feel inferior. If I had been in your situation I would have done exactly what you had done...nothing at all. Kudos to you Suitelady!

 

[dragonfly411]

some people have no couthe

 

[miss_flo]

Of course you''re allowed to be catty here, and only because we all know we''re classy women who wouldn''t say this kind of thing OUT LOUD. It''s basically the same as thinking it in your head, but it feels a helluva lot better

You did the exactly right thing and I applaud your sense of graciousness. There are many ladies who might do the fake thing and compliment her ring in the fakest tone of voice ever, but you didn''t give her that pleasure. Right on girl!

 

[tabu]

SuiteLady, that is such a great story! I am sorry that you had to deal with that girl but kudos to you! I love that all of us PSer''s are supporters and feel the same way

 

[lovelee]

hahaha good for you!!!

I think it''s hilarious when people just have NO clue when it comes to diamonds and they try to shove their big dullards in your face.
It''s like, who are you fooling?

Her behavior just shows that she''s not completely secure within herself and she still needs approval from outside sources.
Sad... for her.
but Yay for you for handling it the way you did!

 

[DiamondsforDee]

You are way nicer than I am! I totally would have said something along the lines of "Oh what a unique ring. What stone is that? A diamond? Really? I thought diamonds were supposed to sparkle much more than that. Well it was great running into you."

But I''m not nearly as classy or polite.

My mother would be disappointed.

 

[BlueSki231]

Date: 11/18/2008 3:10:58 PM
Author: DiamondsforDee
You are way nicer than I am! I totally would have said something along the lines of ''Oh what a unique ring. What stone is that? A diamond? Really? I thought diamonds were supposed to sparkle much more than that. Well it was great running into you.''


But I''m not nearly as classy or polite.

My mother would be disappointed.

Or..

"Hey, is that a yellow sapphire?! I''ve never seen one in that shade of yellow.. very unique."

 

[DiamondsforDee]

Date: 11/18/2008 4:34:46 PM
Author: Namaste

Date: 11/18/2008 3:10:58 PM
Author: DiamondsforDee
You are way nicer than I am! I totally would have said something along the lines of ''Oh what a unique ring. What stone is that? A diamond? Really? I thought diamonds were supposed to sparkle much more than that. Well it was great running into you.''


But I''m not nearly as classy or polite.

My mother would be disappointed.

Or..

''Hey, is that a yellow sapphire?! I''ve never seen one in that shade of yellow.. very unique.''

YES! That is so much better. You should have said that. There is always next time.

 

[BlueSki231]

Date: 11/18/2008 4:38:48 PM
Author: DiamondsforDee

Date: 11/18/2008 4:34:46 PM

Author: Namaste

Date: 11/18/2008 3:10:58 PM

Author: DiamondsforDee

You are way nicer than I am! I totally would have said something along the lines of ''Oh what a unique ring. What stone is that? A diamond? Really? I thought diamonds were supposed to sparkle much more than that. Well it was great running into you.''



But I''m not nearly as classy or polite.

My mother would be disappointed.

Or..


''Hey, is that a yellow sapphire?! I''ve never seen one in that shade of yellow.. very unique.''

YES! That is so much better. You should have said that. There is always next time.

Hahah.. nothin like a little bit a passive-aggressiveness.

I''m not one to actually say something like that, mainly cause my mind would draw a blank at the moment something like that was happening.. but I sure as heck will think of something brilliant to say after the fact!!
And then hope that some day the situation will present itself again so I have the opportunity to recite my come-back. It''s never happened though.. hehe

Maybe you''ll get the chance!

 

[Tuckins1]

Good for you. I too have behaved in such a way when another person was BLATANTLY trying to flaunt her jewels in front of me. Not that it wasn''t a beautiful diamond, but her attitude about the whole thing was "look at me, i''m such hot s&*t". I don''t give people that kind of attention, and good for you for not buying into her crap!

 

[katica]

I''m glad you didn''t say anything phony.. your silence probably spoke a thousand words!

I think it''s hilariously pathetic when people try to show off like that, and doubly pathetic when what they''ve got isn''t worth showing off in the first place

 

[radiantquest]

i say good for you. i dont know how i would act in that situation. it think it would depend on her attitude, but unfortunatley(sp?) i think i would have schooled her. there is a woman that i work with that has a ring like that. she thinks that because it is about 1.5 carats that it is something. whenever she says something about it i just say "right" so i dont hurt her feelings. but this "friend" would have had it coming to her. i would have been nice and polite and told her all about it.

 

[SailorsSweet<3]

Too bad you couldnt slip her a piece of paper with pricescope''s address on it.

But - you were the bigger person and although its grinding your gears on the inside you didnt give her the satisfaction she was looking for in a reaction. Good for you!! Plus, the joke''s on her because you''re educated enough to look at a diamond and know its poor quality. I find myself stewing after experiencing situations like you did, and you just have to remind yourself that you wouldnt stoop to such a level because youre content with the satisfaction you get in positive ways in your life - satisfaction that isnt manipulated or at the cost of another person''s feelings. She obviously doesnt have that and needs to fish for it through rude behavior and she probably doesnt even think twice about her actions. So, just realize that she''ll never have the perspective you do on such situations because of who she is and put it out of your mind.

 

[Dancing Fire]

you should of said....i got the same ring out of the vending machine too.

 

[supergirl10]

Wow you really took the high road here that is something to be proud of. I have actually had something similar happen in kind of the same way (because i am still quite young) and come from a small town where peoples ambition seems to be to get married and have 3 children by 21!

Anyway a girl I was friendly with a high school got married at 18 and has recently come home for a family visit and flashed her "huge ring" around. A mutual friend made a coment about her diamond being really murky and clearly bad quality. When this partiuclar friends saw my ring for the first time she made a comment that she loved my ring and that even though the diamond was smaller, it was clearly a nicer and far better quality stone than the abovementioned girl. I should also mention that none of my friends really know much about diamonds because we are still young and just finishing university and none of them are engaged yet. Its kinda sick but it was really nice to hear that even they think she is classless because it is all about show and not about quality!

 

[LoveRoundBrillants]

I love your story...and yes I3''s do exist..haha. I think just about every woman goes through something similar. A few of my "friends" have sorta shoved in my face that they are already engaged but have been together for less amount of time. I do the right thing and keep my mouth shut, its none of their business and my time will come!!!

btw her husband probably tells her its fancy yellow worth a million bucks...little does she know

 

[sklingem]

I would have pry just said: "That really is a (unique) big stone! Good for you!" LOL

 

[SuiteLady]

I couldn’t be snarky to her because she is definitely the type that thinks that people are “jealous” of her. I definitely didn’t’ want to give that impression. But given that I didn’t say anything when I was presented such a stone (:lol), she has probably already disparaged me to the old crew. Eh. Whatever.

I love all of the comebacks. Especially the one about a yellow sapphire.

''Oh what a unique ring. What stone is that? A diamond? Really? I thought diamonds were supposed to sparkle much more than that. Well it was great running into you.'' lol

 

[DearBuddha]

Good for you! You stood your ground when she was trying to cut you down. You did the right thing by not buying into her ninth-grade, "I''m better than you" mentality. That''s awesome.

I get so sick of women who flaunt their engagement rings. I used to work in a private school in southern california, and most of the students there came from very wealthy, very connected families. Most of the parents were super sweet and down to earth, but there was one mother-father set who were rather notorious for their ostentatious habits (like dropping their fifth-grader son off at school in a Bentley!). They were nice enough people, of course, but they were obviously rolling in it and the mother dressed to prove it.

Her engagement ring was a 20+ carat pear shaped diamond with sidestones, and her wedding band was something like 8mm of pave diamonds.

She wore them together. On one hand.

In fact, she''s pretty well known in southern california, and a google search of her produced the following image from an event (forgive the tiny size of the photo, but that one massive blob is her e-ring).

When she heard that I was engaged, she asked to see my ring, which features a pretty blue diamond asscher. She looked at it, called it "cute", and started comparing it to hers! Then, she asked me to try hers on, so I could "notice the difference in the sheer weight"!! *SMACK*

Long, rambling, and perhaps pointless story done, I''m glad you kept your ground. That''s something to be proud of. And good for you for buying your own sparklies! It''s awesome to spoil yourself!!

 

[audball]

Oh jeez, good for you not saying anything. I hate people that are all flashy. Something like an e-ring is personal and a choice made by a SO as a proposal for marriage (sometimes with input from the proposee...) There is no point in ''flashing your goodies'' trying to impress people because everyone has their own opinion of what is appropriate to use as an e-ring and what they want to wear in representation of being engaged.

Megster84--I loved this too btw..."You could have said, "Wow that is a special looking stone you have there...ahh yes frozen spit with a hint of pee...yes very impressive"

 

[Amanda.Rx]

Ha Ha... whatever... she''s from a previous page in your life. I guess... just be happy for her if she''s happy... sorry she was so obnoxious though. At least you can realize what she was doing and you don''t feel jealous.

 

[FrekeChild]

"Oh wow, that''s dirty!"...lean closer and then say..."Oh no, that''s not dirt..." and then feign an embarrassed look.

But I like ignoring it. For those people who always think that everyone else is jealous, it works the best. Saying nothing is probably the worst thing of all.