Comfort Fit or Regular... Help!

[JayDiamond]

Hi everyone. I had a question to ask all of you. Any help is appreciated.

So, the engagement ring I got my fiance is a 2mm half round 6 prong "tiffany" setting (Brian Gavin Setting, it's really beautiful). At the time, I wasn't really sure about the whole comfort fit thing, plus I had heard it's really only important for wider rings. As there wasn't an initial option to get comfort fit anyhow, I went with the half round.

However, now I'm just wondering what you guys would suggest regarding wedding bands.

We're going with plain half round wedding bands. She is deciding between 2mm and 3mm. I am deciding between 4mm and 5mm (I have small hands). We are both leaning towards 2mm and 4mm, respectively. For herself, as both rings are fairly narrow, I have heard that comfort fit doesn't matter much. Plus, she finds her engagement ring plenty comfortable. However, for myself, especially if I were to go with the 5mm, I'm thinking a comfort fit ring is pretty important as it's wider (though not 6mm- 8mm + wide) and I never really wear rings.

So, the above is my "dilemma" of sorts is as follows...

1. Match all three rings as regular rings (non-comfort fit) - how uncomfortable will a 4mm or 5mm ring be?

2. Match the wedding rings (both comfort fit) - can you tell the difference when someone is wearing one comfort fit and one regular fit (in this case as they are both half round and likely same size, they are intended to match)

3. Match her wedding and engagement ring (both regular fit) and keep mine comfort fit - individually all is well, but I like the idea of the rings being the "same" I guess.

I know these things probably make sound crazy. But any help is greatly appreciated. I'm wishing I would have gotten her a comfort fit engagement ring and then they'd all just "match" and I'd feel better about it. Oh well. Help please!

 

[marymm]

Because "comfort fit" only applies to the inside of the shank, when the rings are on the finger it is impossible to discern visually which if any are comfort fit. If it is important to you that your wedding bands match as much as possible, keeping in mind that her's will be narrower in width, it would be perfectly fine for you to order them both in comfort fit - when she wears the band next to her engagement ring, there will be nothing apparent to anyone that one is a comfort fit and one is not. As your band will be wider, I do honestly think you will come to appreciate the comfort fit over the years to come - it really does give a more comfortable fit and particularly noticeable when you get to the wider widths. (FYI: My husband and I wear matching 7mm comfort fit wedding bands.)

 

[pregcurious]

Comfort fits rings sometimes sit higher off the finger than non-comfort fit rings, I've noticed. If you have a preference for the height of the wedding band to match the ering, ask your vendor about the heights of the different wedding rings you are considering. I personally prefer the ering to be slightly higher, or equal in height to the wedding band.

I don't think your fiance's wedding has to match yours. I did this, and if I had to do it again, I wouldn't. We have different tastes, and frankly, you will have to wear this _everyday_ for a long time, so you should each get what you like. All that matters is that you have a ring to symbolize your marriage.

 

[Imdanny]

Personally I don't like comfort fit and "mind clean" for me is when the half dome (or whatever shape) goes straight across when it gets to the underside. A slight bevel is ok with me but having two underside edges ruins it for me. Btw, men do not have to wear 6 mm or even 4 mm rings. This seems to be something Americans think but Europeans don't. If I had small hands, and I do, I would definitely try 3 mm and see what it looked like on my hand. A 4 mm ring would look terrible on my hand.