Coming out of the woodwork....

[Luckyeshe]

So ladies, are anyone in your past coming out of the woodwork? Any guys (exes or friends) now professing their deep feelings for you and how they wish things are different? Granted, I know that in general a lot of people want what they can''t have, but have you had this happen and how did you handle it? It feels like the time when the bartender at a pub calls out "Last Call for Alcohol!" when they''re about to close and everyone rushes to get their last orders in but instead..."Last Call for (insert your name here)!" because she''ll be married soon!

 

[ficklefaye]

oh gosh, none of that for me. i''ve only really dated one other person and we''ve stayed good friends. he even gives me opinions on some of my wedding questions. he''s always had good taste.

i''d like to hear everyone else''s stories tho.

 

[Luckyeshe]

I dated a lot, but only had a handful of boyfriends. Most of the guys I dated either became friends or after a handful of dates, just disappeared. I also had tons of guy friends throughout college and high school. I had more guy friends than girlfriends and that's actually only recently changed. For the past year even before we got engaged, I've gotten 5 guys (3 exes and 2 guy friends) come out of the wood work and ask if I'm happy with my then bf now FI. Of course I said yes! FI knows that there are guys sniffing around but I just keep wondering why this is happening. Is there a sign over my head saying "last call"?!

 

[trillionaire]

take it as a compliment! Tons of women would LOVE to have your problem!

No one is coming out of the woodworks for me, but plenty of strangers have been offering to take me off of FI hands! I guy today told me I said the "F -Word" when I mentioned my fiance!

 

[miss_flo]

Date: 8/12/2009 6:56:26 PM
Author: trillionaire
take it as a compliment! Tons of women would LOVE to have your problem!


No one is coming out of the woodworks for me, but plenty of strangers have been offering to take me off of FI hands! I guy today told me I said the ''F -Word'' when I mentioned my fiance!

Yay for dropping the f-bomb!

I don''t have any ex flames coming out of the woodwork for me, but that''s because I was the Good Luck Chuck of the female world. Every guy I dated before DF is now married or engaged. Go figure

 

[Dannielle]

One of FI''s best friends has always had a bit of a crush on me. Our group of friends is very affectionate but he has always been just a little bit more than friendly.. FI doesn''t mind and it never makes me feel uncomfortable until he says things like the following (Especially when it is infront of his GF!)

"Dannielle, You know that if you weren''t with Aaron, You and I would be together".. Followed by his GF, storming off and going to bed.. Mind you, she is also my BM- oh, the akwardness

 

[charbie]

my famiy loves my FI, but i would not be surprised if my ex starts singing "friends in low places" at my wedding. he sang that through our entire relationship. he loved that song. i love FI with everything i have...but i would laugh/die if he showed up.....it is what it is. you need to be secure in what you have. love the thread btw.

 

[daught3rofEve]

it was well before we got engaged....

I had every single one of my ex bfs in the first part of the relationship with FI (then BF) calling me at all hours of the night! So embarassing.

I was like, uhm, no means no weirdos.

Whats funny, is that I mentioned where FI was working (because i thought I was still friends with that ex) and he actually went up to the work (not telling FI who he was) and then called me and decided that it was "okay" that I date him becuase he seemed like a decent guy....

I was like

There are some WEIRD people in this world.

 

[Luckyeshe]

Date: 8/13/2009 2:06:41 PM
Author: daught3rofEve
it was well before we got engaged....

I had every single one of my ex bfs in the first part of the relationship with FI (then BF) calling me at all hours of the night! So embarassing.

I was like, uhm, no means no weirdos.

Whats funny, is that I mentioned where FI was working (because i thought I was still friends with that ex) and he actually went up to the work (not telling FI who he was) and then called me and decided that it was ''okay'' that I date him becuase he seemed like a decent guy....

I was like

There are some WEIRD people in this world.

Though in the grand scheme of things this could be considered as weird...you can also see it as maybe a bit sweet. Your ex just wanted to make sure you were in good hands, not that you were planning on getting back with him!

I''ve had a few guy friends tell me that if I ever change my mind, they''ll be here to listen. Or if anything stupid on FI''s part happens, they''ll kick his a**. It makes me feel good that I have some awesome guy friends who think of me as their little sis, but then there are others who say they''ll patiently wait for me.....(those I''m staying away from....)

 

[daught3rofEve]

It could be, if the ex hadn''t previously shown himself to be a little bit on the psycho side (fine as a friend, but nearly terrifying as a bf) in that he had people at my highschool that were his friends, "watch me". :-/
thus him being an ex. haha. why i talked to him again after 3 yrs of not speaking, i''ll never know.
lol. I guess it might be considered nice, just not with our history together.

 

[LilyKat]

You hit the nail on the head when you said that people always want what they can't have.

Now that you're officially unattainable, you're irresistible. I can almost guarantee that if you were to split up with your fiance (heaven forbid), they would all disappear right back into the woodwork. That's how it works for a lot of guys

 

[honey22]

Ooh, that sounds like an awkward situation! I would take it a a compliment, nothing like a boost of confidence for a bride to be

 

[Dannielle]

Date: 8/13/2009 5:23:49 PM
Author: LilyKat
You hit the nail on the head when you said that people always want what they can''t have.

Now that you''re officially unattainable, you''re irresistible. I can almost guarantee that if you were to split up with your fiance (heaven forbid), they would all disappear right back into the woodwork. That''s how it works for a lot of guys

.. Ah, so true!

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