Contour Setting?

[AmberWaves]

Last night the BF and I were talking about the setting I wanted, and I told him it''s a contour setting, white gold, not too high, but I can''t seem to find pictures of one. Can anyone help me? I''d like to send it to him, so he knows what I''m looking for. If anyone can help, thanks!!

 

[pebbles]

Here''s one on Whiteflash''s site. Is this what you are referring to?

BTW -- I have this setting, although not from WF with a 4 prongs instead of 6.

 

[AmberWaves]

Just like that, pebbles! I''d like 4 prongs instead of 6, too. To me, 6 just looks like too much. Is it low enough for you? I wouldn''t want the classic tiffany setting because I''m super clumsy, and I''m afraid I''d chip it, or break it, or get it caught on something. I also like this one:

 

[caligal]

Ohh that''s pretty Amber!

I also want a solatiare-

 

[MissAva]

Oh Amber I love the one you posted, that is really lovely! Where did you find it?

 

[pebbles]

Amber -- mine looks exactly like the one you posted. It sits low but not tooooo low, if y''know what I mean.

It looks like Amber found her picture on Blue Nile.

 

[AmberWaves]

Sorry guys, I had to do some... work!! Stupid office. It really cuts into my PS time, ya know? Yeah, I found it at Blue Nile, but I''m sure I can find it cheaper, for WG it was like, 800.00. Please. I really like a low setting, and since all I do all day is typing, I don''t want a heavy ring, either. I think this is exactly what I like, I sent it to my BF.

Last night I even told him I''d BUY the setting I want, but he doesn''t want me to have a part in it. Last night we had a discussion all about what I''m looking for, size (he wants abova a carat!!), color, clarity, cut...He''s been doing his research, too! Yay! He''d better get the message.

I think this is a good one, though. It has a lower everything. (I hit myself in the face accidentally a lot..)

 

[anchor31]

It''s lovely, Amber!

I love contour setting and how the stone is set low. Much more practical.

Looks like things are progressing very well! Yay!

 

[AmberWaves]

Yeah, it''s for sure going to be March, and he told me he''s going to have even more saved by then, than he thought! BUT, the big news is: Probably not going to Vegas anymore!!

 

[anchor31]

Really? YAY for March and savings...

What''s up with your location?

 

[AmberWaves]

Well, now that we''ve thought about it, and a bunch of people would be coming to Vegas with us, now it looks like we''re going to have my BF''s priest from back in the day marry us (if possible) in his own chapel that is supposedly GORGEOUS, and for free. We''re thinking of having a party (not a reception) in the back yard of a family member (trying to decide who''s is bigger) with food either BBQd or catered by my Uncle, who actually offered. He said if you need any catering done or anything, just let me know! My future Brother in law has a has in the hills that looks over the Getty Center museum. Couldn''t get more beautiful than that, huh? We may even save money that way, ya know? Have some people pitch in, just a nothing special party! What do you think?

 

[SoonIHope]

Date: 12/1/2005 3:21:27 PM
Author: AmberWaves
(I hit myself in the face accidentally a lot..)

hehehehe

But I think the new wedding plan sounds like sooo much fun!!! Something similar thematically (not too fancy, just a bunch of people hanging out and eating) is what I was hoooping to do but now I think we may have too many people to really be able to handle it on our own.

But I hope that works out for you!!!! Sounds like your future brother in law''s house would be gorgeous for it!!

And MARCH!!! SO SOON!!!

And even MORE saved?? Lucky girl!

 

[AmberWaves]

Albi- I know, it does so so no fuss no muss, but as with EVERY wedding, it''s going to be stressful anyway.

But who cares? I''m going to be MARRIED!! Maybe it will be a little more than a year, from now, though. Either way, no big deal. Once I get the ring, I can gloat to all the people who asked forever, "When''s the ring coming?" We''re going to try to keep the list short, but with my half hispanic background, and his full hispanic background (his mom alone has 7 brothers and sisters all in CA!), we have a ton of people who are going to want to come.

I told Paul, it''s all about the A and B groups.

It should be fun, no matter what, though. Married!! Yay! Okay, Amber...Breathe... No ring yet...

 

[anchor31]

That plan sounds great! I really want a nice outdoor wedding too, and it sounds like you''re going to save a lot of money that way!

And I know what you mean about big families... Both my father and my SO''s mother have (and I kid you not) TWELVE siblings!!! My mother has one and his father has six. And then there''s my (and my sister''s) godparents'' families, the friends (of course, everyone will want to come even if we''re not even close...

), the collegues... Everytime I think about it I go

. Ideally I''d like to keep it under 100 guests, but I don''t know how we''re going to be able to keep it under 250...

Yeah, I get carried away too. Especially since I have a timeframe and I''m pretty sure he''s going to propose on our anniversary in August...

 

[AmberWaves]

I''m having him make a list of the "Absolutelys" (A group), the "Be Nice if they Cames" (B Group) and the "Couldn''t really Cares" (C Group). And those of them who have a problem with it, well, they can contribute to the wedding! I actually saw this one Bridezilla episode, and these people took forever RSVPing, so when they just showed up at the reception, the planner told them they can come in IF- they pay for their own meal!! Those are some brass you-know-whats. It was the Bride''s idea, too. Not anyone else''s!

 

[caligal]

Amber- this is HUGE news! I think anything overlooking the Getty is fabulous, and you can do so many wonderful things with a home party! It can still be lovely and not cost a fortune- I think it is genius really! I can''t imagine having that many people to invite- my family is quite small and although his is larger (5 bros), I think we''ll easily be able to keep it under 100.

 

[AmberWaves]

Yeah, I told Paul our rule: If 1) they never met one of us, 2) Haven''t seen them in a year 3) didn''t invite us to their weddings or 4) I don''t like them anymore -they aren''t on the list. It''s harsh, but it''s OUR money, so we have the say. Since it''s informal, would paper plates (be it pretty ones) be too trashy?

 

[anchor31]

Date: 12/1/2005 6:18:39 PM
Author: AmberWaves
Yeah, I told Paul our rule: If 1) they never met one of us, 2) Haven''t seen them in a year 3) didn''t invite us to their weddings or 4) I don''t like them anymore -they aren''t on the list. It''s harsh, but it''s OUR money, so we have the say. Since it''s informal, would paper plates (be it pretty ones) be too trashy?

Those are great rules I''ll have to remember. The thing is though, about a year ago for some reason (I think it was when my cousin got engaged), we talked a bit about weddings at the dinner table and I mentioned wanting something really small with close friends and family. My mom looked at me with wide eyes.

Mom: How do you think you can pull that off?
Me: Why not?
Mom: Well, we have big families.
Me: So what? It''s not like I''m going to invite people I haven''t seen in years!
Mom: When you''ll get married, your father and I will be making the invitations.
Me: Excuse me?
Mom: That''s the way it works. The parents of the bride and groom invite the guests, and we wouldn''t want to create any family feuds because we didn''t invite someone to our daughter''s wedding.
Me:

Ya know, my mother got married 31 years ago and I think she imagines that the way she did it is THE way to do it.

She thinks people buy the e-ring and weddings rings at the same time ("Otherwise, how is the engagement and wedding rings supposed to fit together?"), but obviously they don''t always do that!

Anyway, I hope I''ll be able to put my foot down and have certain ground rules, even if they contribute to the costs. I just don''t want my wedding to turn into one big 300-people family reunion with drunken uncles and silly old aunts telling me how fat I look. Okay, I''m exagerating, but you get my point. If I had it my way I''d have 50 people there.

Hey, why am I worrying about guests list already?? If I''m right I''ll be engaged in nine months, but we won''t be married before summer ''08, and that''s 2½ years away! I really am silly...

 

[caligal]

Amber- paper plates are fine it it''s informal! Hey- I''m sure we can search around and find you some lovely ones... something else to do besides actual work- YAY!

Anchor- Oh it does seem like the minute weddings start getting planned families go at it a bit over these details. I guess mine is more dictated by budget. Since it was over 30 years for your folks (mine too!), she may not be with the times as far as cost. I know I had to school my Mom a bit- when she busted out, "We will contribute 3K for the whole thing- won''t that cover all your costs? Dress, reception, invites, etc...?"

Yep- I''m trying to save $200 each month for this wedding which will be at least a year plus away since he hasn''t asked! At least I''ll have a decent sized account by then- even so, my wedding will have to stay under the $7K range- we just don''t have any more cash.

 

[AmberWaves]

Tracey, you and me, baby. 7K is almost a dream for me.

It''ll cut down the budget hugely, because we''re not having any alchohol, but that''s because we''re super drinkers on my mom''s side (not me, though) and have some actual alcoholics with liver disease, and I''m like, NO ALCHOHOL AT ALL. I don''t want anything bad happening. My mom is like, well, I have 18k saved, but we ARE going to your brother''s wedding. I hate to tell her that Paul and I are NOT. Too much money for nothing, it takes like 2 US days to fly there, because we lose a day when we''re going, so it''s like, 7 days taken for the trip, but how many will be spent jet-lagged, and how many will be spent traveling, all for one day? When he''s coming back here the month after the wedding??

Anchor, is your mom paying for everything? If not, it''s YOUR say about the invitations. Buy her a wedding ettiquite book- she''ll see then!!

 

[anchor31]

Date: 12/2/2005 11:54:26 AM
Author: AmberWaves
Anchor, is your mom paying for everything? If not, it''s YOUR say about the invitations. Buy her a wedding ettiquite book- she''ll see then!!

I''m not sure yet, this hasn''t been discussed in detail. We''ll have to see once I''m engaged! (Less than 13 months! WHEEEEE!!!

) Thanks for the book advice, I''ll do that.

 

[AmberWaves]

As for us, I''d love a financial kick back from my parents, but they can''t really afford it either, I think they thought I was going to be a spinster living at home forever.

We talked last night, after the wedding were going to put away money to save for kids and all that, just so we have a bit of money socked away for later. I told him I want kids before I''m 30 (just so the ages between our nieces and nephews and our children won''t get so huge), and that''s 4 years from now. The way he was talking about it, he was like, "well, after we get engaged there is still more than 3 1/2 years until then, and if you count a year of being pregnant, and a year of being married, I think we can do it." Silly man. It''s funny, because I would read all these fiction books about weddings and all that, and now I''ve moved onto babies! It''skilling him. BTW, the best book to read is Nicholas Sparks "The Wedding" soooo sweet. It''s got Noah in it, from the Notebook. Tell me you''ve either read it, or seen it. I LOVE THIS MOVIE