Contradictions

[jesterjigger]

This weekend is it...so my bf is on IM (he''s in Ohio this week, I''m in NJ, we go to NYC when he gets back from Ohio) and this is the convo:

bf: you already have a pretty good idea as to what''s going to happen this weekend, right?
me: yes
bf: you have to promise me something
me: uh huh
long pause so I start talking about photographers and he gets mad because he wasn''t finished, but there was a two minute gap of no talking so I decided to press with what I''d just found so some talking about that
bf (back on subject): you have to promise me that you aren''t going to have any expectations of what''s going to happen, I don''t want you to be disappointed
me: oh, ok
bf: are you sure?
me: yep...I just have one request though, can you not do it at dinner? (we''re going to a really expensive steakhouse in NYC as a belated birthday present for him since he was deployed for his birthday...I''m paying for dinner so I don''t want him doing it during a meal I''m paying for, it just seems weird even though the meal is going to be around $200)
bf: like I would propose at a steakhouse in Brooklyn!


It''d be easier to have no expectations at all if he didn''t say stuff like that! Though I don''t have any expectations, I think that however he does it it''s going to be nice. But this isn''t *just* a steakhouse...it''s been ranked the number one steakhouse in NYC for the past *25* years! But if that means he''s not doing it during the dinner I''m paying for, great!

 

[Blenheim]

Oooh, so it''s probably going to be this weekend?!

He might just be worried that you''re set on him proposing on the top of the Empire State Building, while he''s thinking of a pretty low-key proposal as you''re walking through Central Park. Another possibility is that he doesn''t want you to think, everytime you''re in a romantic place, that this is gonna be it and then get disappointed when he doesn''t propose. Just try to relax and have fun, which it seems that you''re already planning on doing. Have you two made any specific plans yet, other than the steakhouse (which sounds very good, by the way)?

 

[anchor31]

This weekend, huh? That''s great!! Just have fun and let yourself be surprised...

 

[jesterjigger]

Central Park would be good, lol. Even Wendy''s! (Though not McDonalds). I''m not picky, I''m just worried that he''s blowing it in his head that I need it to be a huge thing. He told me a few days ago that he had a nightmare that his plans went horribly wrong...so I don''t know if he has plans other than what I know about or not.

But...what we''re doing in NYC...
We''re seeing Wicked in the afternoon, then killing time before dinner (Wicked starts at 3, dinner starts at 9, though we''ll need an hour at least of transit time). Monday I think we''re going to the Met (he could do it in front of "my" painting, we couldn''t find it last time we went with his family and I told him it was a bad omen since I ALWAYS see it when I go, of course, that means I''d have to wait until Monday when I''d rather it be done by then, lol) and we''ll probably do some browsing and just lots of wandering about after that and then on Tuesday we''re going to the Bronx Zoo and the Botanical Gardens. I really hope he does it by lunch on Monday, or the anticipation may kill me.

I was pretty sure when he wanted to take off work to go to NYC for a couple of days that the point of the trip was to get engaged (I knew it was going to happen before we left for Korea, and there are only two or three weeks left). He''s basically confirmed my suspicions (when joking about me saying no he said he was sure he could find someone on the streets of NY that would take him...and then got mad at himself for saying that).

So I''ll do my best to not overanalyze everything we do and everywhere we go, trying to figure it out. And hopefully he doesn''t change his mind! Hee hee.

 

[Blenheim]

I can think of so many places in Central Park that would be so romantic! I''m not knocking it at all, it just seems to be quieter type of romance. Just using it to illustrate different expectations.

I saw Wicked at the Kennedy Center over Christmas, and it was so much fun! Granted, it was a different group of actors and musicians than the ones in NYC, but that''s going to be so much fun. And actually, everything that you''re listing sounds like a lot of fun! I kind of wish I were going now.

My best guess is that he''s not going to do it immediately, and wants you to be able to enjoy Wicked (for example) without thinking, "Oooh, he might propose at dinner!" Just relax and have fun (and with that schedule, I''m not sure how you could not have fun!). I''m sure everything will work out.

 

[froufrou]

jester! i saw Wicked in Chicago last fall and it is spectacular. Enjoy your trip

 

[sk8rjen]

How nice to know that it *IS* going to happen and you can totally enjoy the weekend! Can''t wait to hear all about it!

jen

 

[jesterjigger]

Sorry Blenheim, I really did mean that Central Park would be good, I love Cenral Park (and I love Wendy''s, so if he stuck it in a Frosty I wouldn''t be offended, as long as I didn''t eat it, or maybe stuck a french fry in my frosty and had the french fry spearing the ring resting on top of the frosty. I dip my french fries in my frosty because I''m weird.

) I''d pick someplace like Wendy''s over someplace grand that has no meaning to us, or at least me, which is what the empire state building would be. So I''m sorry if you thought I was laughing at the central park idea, because I would like central park better than the empire state building.


I''ll just tell myself it''ll happen Monday night then, so that I won''t think about it at all on Sunday or most of Monday.


Should I read the book Wicked first? I already have it (I gave it to him for Christmas) I just haven''t taken the time to open it. He''s already read it, and liked it, which is why he wants to see it so badly.

And thanks for the inputs on Wicked, I''m really looking forward to it!

 

[Blenheim]

LOL at the ring in the frosty. I can almost imagine you choking on it, or digging a really sticky ring out with a french fry.

No, I didn''t think you were laughing at the Central Park idea. I just didn''t want to seem like I was dismissing it in my original post -- they''re just different styles of going about it. I think I''d prefer Central Park, anyway.

I didn''t read the book first, and still really enjoyed it. If you have time, though, why not?

 

[Patchee]

Going to Peter Lugers ???

 

[IrishAngel7982]

Patience is a virtue, but you must be so excited. Have a wonderful time with your sweetie and give us details. He just better do it so you''re not disappointed!!!

 

[monarch64]

Jester, I''m going to see Wicked next week in Chicago. I have read the book and it''s fabulous. I am glad I read it first, as it was a more complex storyline than I had imagined it to be. If you get a chance to read it it''s probably a good idea, imo. Without seeing the show yet, I can''t really say whether it''s best to read it first or not, though. Good luck this weekend, I hope your dream comes true!!!

 

[jas]

I saw Wicked here in Chicago a few months ago. There is only one word for this gal who has been in, seen, and directed so many shows: Breathtaking.

Enjoy enjoy enjoy.

Question -- do you know what the ring looks like (forgive me if you''ve covered this) -- is it possible that that is what he doesn''t want you to get your hopes up about? I hope I''m not offending you by asking, I really don''t mean to. That''s just the first thing that came to my mind.

 

[jesterjigger]

Yep Patchee, you''ve got it...I heard about it, researched it, and decided that Peter Luger''s would be the perfect place for my bf. Especially since I promised it to him while he was deployed to Iraq and eating the not so good food there. I printed out all of the reviews I could find online, and sent a card everyday for five days with a hint in each card and then the reviews in the last one.

My virtues do not include patience, but I''m trying really, really hard. I just need to be good for Saturday night, Sunday, and Monday. Tomorrow doesn''t really doesn''t count since he won''t be in the state yet. AND I just found out that the movers will probably be moving our stuff on the 25th and 26th and we get back from NYC the night of the 23rd, so we have a week to pack and he''s not even in the state. And it also means that we''ll have three weeks in NJ without our stuff, rather than the week I was anticipating. But I''d rather the stuff leave too soon rather than too late.

Ok, I''ll try to read at least more of the book at you guys''s recommendation. I had thought my stuff would be leaving the 30 or 31 when I wrote that earlier...so I have a lot less time than I thought, with the packing too. I''ll try though.

And Jas...good thought on the ring, but I got to pick it! Hee hee. This is a pic of the setting, though mine is plat. I even got to pick the stone ultimately, though bf agreed with everything. He had his minimum standards for the stone and the guy at the store brought one out that far exceeded them, lol.

He''s even let me look at all the paperwork from the store, the pic of the setting, appraisal, specs on the diamond, I just haven''t seen the stone and setting put together. It was a little hard picking a setting separately from the diamond, but at least this way there is still a bit of surprise as far as what it looks like all together. My sister has seen it, and says she likes it in real life better than this pic too. I don''t know if it''s just the color or what (we''re both plat girls) but she really liked it, and she''s a diamond snob.

 

[jas]

Wow. You certainly won''t be disappointed with that. Hubba hubba.

Ok, I''m stumped. Unless you have very...ummm...specific ideas involving your "dream proposal." Like clown cars or Mr. T. or something.

Either way, it sounds like you are going to have the most awesome time...I''m insanely jealous!

 

[IrishAngel7982]

Wow!!! I''m insanely jealous too! Have a wonderful time and good luck!