Could this be it?!

[Tuesday]

Last time BF and I talked about the subject was before Thanksgiving. He said that for sure it would happen before December 1. At the time, because of the context of the conversation I thought he meant January 1 and just misspoke so I was preparing myself for a Christmas proposal. Earlier this week I saw a note on his calendar that said "Dinner?" for tonight. I tried not to get my hopes up, since he hadn''t mentioned anything to me.

Last night, he (almost too) casually mentioned that J (his coworker, and our neighbor) and his wife wanted to know if we would come over for dinner tonight. We do this regularly, so it''s not necessarily suspicious. But, maybe, possibly, could this be it? I''m excited, scared, and nervous all at once!

All morning I''ve been telling myself not to get too excited, in case it''s nothing, but it''s not working too well! Anyone got some fairy dust laying around?

 

[sweetjettagirl04]

Hopefully it does happen tonight! Good luck! I know it''s hard - but try to distract yourself somehow!

 

[sweetjettagirl04]

Sorry - I forgot to sprinkle with the fairy dust! ********** Good luck! ****************

 

[nessvan12]

Sounds promising! Tons to dust to you!!!!!

 

[lucy.lucy.80]

***fairy dust*** good luck!!

 

[glueck]

Anyone got some fairy dust laying around?
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Sprinkle sprinkle!!! Let us know what happens! This is exciting!

 

[Tuesday]

Thanks guys, I''ll keep you posted!

The closer it gets, the more worried I am that I''m building this up in my head only for a let down. I''m so nervous!

 

[Patiently_Waiting]

Good luck, Tuesday! Lots of fairy dust coming your way!

 

[mirre]

Good luck! Hope you have a great night!

 

[sunnyd]

good luck and fairy dust and all that...but remember just to enjoy the night anyway, just in case. sorry i had to say it!!

more fairy dust!!!

 

[gwendolyn]

Oooooh, very tense and exciting! I''ve got all fingers and toes crossed for you, m''dear!

 

[Sparkalicious]

Good luck!

 

[DMBsGirl]

just read this, hope you got your wish tonight!!!

 

[Tuesday]

Aaaaaaaaaand of course I''m an effing idiot for even daring to think that someone would love me enough to want to marry me or actually commit to a promise by proposing.

Yeah. If you need me I''ll be locked in the bathroom crying my eyes out, or at the bar down the street crying into my beer.

 

[mimzy]

DON'T SAY THAT!!!

i'm sorry it didn't happen for you tonite but that doesn't mean any of those things you said! i'm sorry he got your hopes up - guys just don't know how much we take what they say to heart sometimes. you know how much he loves you and you know it's coming. you just got one more nite out of the way - pretty soon, your nite will be here.

it'll be your turn to say the same thing to me in exactly one week and one day when the 'within two weeks' deadline he told me about comes and goes.......

 

[IrishAngel7982]

Oh Tuesday...I''m so sorry. I hope you''re ok.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Date: 11/30/2007 11:52:54 PM
Author: Tuesday
Aaaaaaaaaand of course I''m an effing idiot for even daring to think that someone would love me enough to want to marry me or actually commit to a promise by proposing.

Yeah. If you need me I''ll be locked in the bathroom crying my eyes out, or at the bar down the street crying into my beer.

I''m sorry, Tuesday.

Don''t fret ... Everything happens in its own time. A lot of us have been there so we can completely understand. While you''re in the bathroom, draw yourself a hot bubblebath so that at least you can cry in luxury and the steam will help deter the tell tale signs of crying (lie - but I hope it made you smile). If you chose the beer route ... I hope you upgraded/downgraded to tequila ... it has a much more "therapeutic" effect.

Take care and I hope you feel better soon.

 

[lovelyrita]

So sorry!

The same thing happened to for my birthday in September. We were in the car and he''s like can you get me something form the glove compartment. I''m thinking, a ring box might pop out. It was a card, a very sweet and nice one, but I did feel a bit let down.

I think they don''t get it sometimes but I''m sure he''ll ask soon enough!!

 

[DMBsGirl]

Oh I''m so sorry! I know how awful that feels! I cried myself to sleep on our anniversary night because I was so sure it was going to happen then. He caught me and felt awful and thought his present wasn''t good enough. It was an all around AWFUL day, but you know he will be doing it this year, so it can''t be too far away! hang in there!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Tuesday! I am so sorry things didn''t work out as you had wished. I feel your pain, as do many of the other ladies on this board. We''ve all been there before and felt the disappointment you feel. Try not to let it get you down. I know how difficult it is to do...

I ended up learning to stop myself from thinking "could this be it" even when the occasion seemed ripe for an engagement. I was hurting myself too much. Just don''t let yourself morph into the cynic I have become

!

 

[Tuesday]

Wow, I just wanted to thank you all for your support and kinds words. I apologize for not having a chance to come back and post over the weekend, it was a long couple of days but I think both my BF and I have our heads screwed back on straight now.

We had a nice long talk over the course of the weekend. I should know better than to hold him to a specific day, he is horrible about scheduling and thinking in terms of timespans, which is partly why when he said December 1 my brain went ahead and figured that meant by the end of the year. He's pretty much your typical absent-minded professor type.

I asked him why he would give me a specific date, and not say anything to me when he realized that his plans weren't going to work out by then. He said that it just kind of snuck up on him, and he was going to say something by Monday but I beat him to the punch, so to speak.

He said that based on our last discussion before Thanksgiving, some of my words just really started to sink in and he felt that he hadn't put enough thought into his original plans and wanted to do something more. I've always said that I never wanted anything fancy or expensive, I just wanted something he had put some thought into. I just wanted this period to be something we can look back on fondly.

He finally told me that he spoke with a local independent jeweler and did a lot more homework on stones and settings. With the jeweler's advice in hand he ordered a certified diamond from USAA and is having a setting made to put it in. I don't know any of the details of the design, so it will still be a surprise. I think the diamond will be arriving some time this week. He said that he wasn't sure that the jeweler will be able to complete it by Christmas, but that I will at least have something tangible (the diamond) by then!

My only lingering frustration is how to approach announcing our engagement. At this point I feel that waiting for a true surprise proposal is a bit silly, since we have gone through so much, but when the ring is finished I'm sure he will find a nice way to give it to me. I guess it's just easier to wait until I have something on my hand to tell people. When I was married before, I never had a proposal or an engagement ring so I don't really know what the proper way to go about all this is! It's been important to me this time around to do it "right," although I know that what's right is what the two of us want rather than what society dictates. This time around I just don't want anyone to think that I'm ashamed about my relationship, I'm so proud and excited to be his future wife that I want to make sure everyone knows

Again, thank you all for your kind words, I read them all and it helped more than you know to feel that there are other people out there who have been through this or are also going through it!

 

[Delster]

Aw Tuesday I''m so sorry he didn''t come through on the promised date. That said, kudos to you both for talking about it openly. I really hope your proposal comes soon

On how / when to tell people - I''m confused about your question? You said he intends to find a nice way to give you the ring, I''d just tell everyone after he does that! I don''t think there needs to be a big ''SURPRISE!!!'' moment for it to ''count'' as a proposal that you can tell people about...

PS - I love your tagline