Curious about an odd situation...

[Chrys]

How common/uncommon is it these days for the female to propose?

I doubt this guy will ever get around to it, because he was far to shy to even ask me out, much less something like this. Is it badluck for the woman to propose? Also, if I''m the one proposing, shouldn''t I give him a ring? WHile he is a bit on the femmy side of things (Gotta love a guy with long hair and a sweet face), I don''t think a diamond woud be much his style.

Any helpful advice or suggestions?

 

[bee*]

A girl I know proposed to her bf and then they went out together to get a ring for her. I don''t think it''s bad luck at all, the one thing that I would advise though is just to make sure that he''s definitely ready to get engaged.

 

[Hera]

I wouldn't propose unless I was 120% sure that he wouldn't mind.

 

[musey]

Date: 11/6/2007 1:46:07 AM
Author:Chrys

I doubt this guy will ever get around to it, because he was far to shy to even ask me out, much less something like this.

I think that getting the courage up to ask a girl "out" is QUITE different from asking a long-time girlfriend whom you are in an incredibly comfortable relationship with to spend the rest of your lives together!

That said, I think it''s still pretty uncommon. A lot of women would be perfectly happy to do the proposing--but know that their guy wouldn''t be comfortable with it, so they choose to let him do it in his own time.

That, coupled with the fact that men generally take longer to be "ready," kinda keeps the woman-proposing-percentage low.

 

[Independent Gal]

It''s absolutely fine for you to propose if you think he wouldn''t mind. I have a friend who did and he was thrilled! There''s no reason to give him a diamond ring, though. That might be kind of emasculating. Why not give him a nice watch? Or a plain wedding band.

But I think a watch might be the way to go!

 

[mirre]

I like Independent Gal''s idea of giving a watch instead of a ring... then you both could pick out a ring for you if you''d like to have one.

 

[ladypirate]

I have a friend who proposed to her guy and it went over great, but he''s very laid back. I think it''s just worth making sure that he wouldn''t feel emasculated.

 

[Erin]

My ex equated a guy proposing marriage to a Dad walking his daughter down the aisle. Neither would want to be robbed of that ''one time'' event. That was just my ex, though. But if I were a guy I could understand that sentiment.

Make sure it''s because he''s timid about doing it and that he wants it and not because you''re impatient.

 

[lucy.lucy.80]

i think its a great idea as long as you think he would be comfortable with that. I like the watch idea too that was suggested above and maybe have it engraved??

 

[Circe]

I proposed to my guy on the spur of the moment, and it hasn''t been bad luck for us at all (given that we got married a week and a day ago

): prior to that, we''d both been talking about the future a fair bit, and kind of easing in to the subject of commitment. Apparently, *he''d* been easing in to it because I''m a notorious commitmentphobe (for that matter, I suppose it''s fair to say that *I* was easing in to it because I''m a notorious commitmentphobe, too, although the motivations are a little different - his has the grace of patience, whereas mine was just kind of cautious, *if* you''re feeling generous) ....

I offered to get him a ring, watch, etc., but he''s not much of a magpie - I am, though, and we got The Ring inside of the week. And I did, nevertheless, give him *a* ring, if not a diamond engagement ring: given that he''s Swedish, thin matching bands to signify the engagement were in keeping with his culture. For someone who''s *not* a part of that culture, I think a watch or a plain band would be lovely and symbolic ....