Daddy-Daughter Ring - Don't want it to look Engagement like

[anonahm]

My Father-in-law had rings with birthstones for all of his daughters as a special gift went they got older. My daughter is due in April and guess what...I am on the diamond hunt again!

I will be working with Rino at Distinctive Diamond/August Vintage. Since it is a diamond I don't want it to be super engagement looking. I am curious about your thoughts on the design/size for this type of ring?

 

[John Pollard]

I've always liked cluster rings as an April-baby option.

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/show-me-your-diamond-cluster-rings.228853/

 

[Rfisher]

Congratulations on the birth to be!

I would pick something very very juvenile in design. Unless of course it’s not for her to ever wear until she’s an adult. I’d still pick my inspirations from typical birthstone rings - because something that still screams engagement can encompass so many different styles.

and I would always always choose to call it a birthstone ring.

a ‘daddy - daughter ring’ has a different vibe to it.

 

[elle_chris]

Congrats!!
Are you definitely set on a ring? If not, I would do a small diamond pendant or earrings. Either piece will last a lifetime.

My parents got me diamond earrings when I graduated high school. They're just under .50 tcw and I still have them.

 

[luvmysparklies]

This is such a wonderful idea! Like Rfisher, I don't know if you intend for this to be a juvenile ring. I am a bit of a Jabel fanatic and bought this ring (though in 18K WG) for my youngest sister and gave it to her as a young adult. I definitely did not want it to look like an engagement ring. But, I think the style lends itself to being fit for juvenile to adult. The diamond is a small .25ct. Though Jabel is no more, I hope this style might at least give you some ideas!
HTH

 

[kb1gra]

For the longest time I wore a ring on the middle finger of my right hand that was a bezel set small diamond solitaire. The original ring was .35 or something like that, the new one is larger. Johnathan at Distinctive Gem recently recreated it for me and if you ask him for the “Lauren” ring he can show it to you.

it was a sweet modern everyday bezel ring and while it was originally an engagement style I think it didn’t read engagement-y at all.

 

[anonahm]

Thank you, everyone! I am calling it a daddy-daughter ring here to help explain my situation. This will be a gift to my wife and then gifted to our daughter when she is older. I would love to hear more suggestions!

I am split between a ring and a pendant. For me, it was super meaningful when I got to replace the ring her father gave her with the ring I proposed with. A Pendent doesn't have the same meaning in that way. But with it being a diamond for April it does make it harder to not be like another engagement ring.

The stones I am looking at are here

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Budget total under $1k.

 

[luvmysparklies]

Hmm...I wonder if a split shank might be another option? Something along this order?

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[luvmysparklies]

Or a braided twist design along this order?

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[anonahm]

How about this?

10K Yellow 4.1 mm Round Engagement Ring Mounting

123099 / Engagement Ring / Unset / 10K Yellow / Round / 4.1 mm / Polished / Engagement Ring Mounting

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But with two different rounds

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[lovedogs]

How about this?

10K Yellow 4.1 mm Round Engagement Ring Mounting

123099 / Engagement Ring / Unset / 10K Yellow / Round / 4.1 mm / Polished / Engagement Ring Mounting

www.stuller.com

But with two different rounds

Your Custom Cut August Vintage Transitional Cut Private Reserve Lab Grown Diamond

We are commencing the very first August Vintage Transitional Cut LG Diamonds in our program. For those of you who are wondering what a transitional cut is, it is those diamonds that were cut in between the time of the Old European Cuts and today's modern round brilliants. With Rhino at the...

www.distinctivegem.com

Exclusive Ideal Cut Diamonds | Distinctive Gem Inc.

The home of Distinctive and August Vintage diamonds online. The world's first patented ideal vintage cut diamonds in way of oval, cushion and old European cut round diamonds.

www.distinctivegem.com

I think if you want it to avoid looking like an engagement ring, a bypass style (like the one you attached) is a good idea. Another option would be including colored stones (like a birthstone or similar) within the design to take it away from the engagment ring style

 

[lovedogs]

PS. I have always adored this ring (no idea why, other than that I think the tri-diamond design is lovely). Doesn't need to be literally this ring (you could re-create it with more ideal stones), but I think this is a nice way to avoid the engagement ring aesthetic.

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[anonahm]

I think if you want it to avoid looking like an engagement ring, a bypass style (like the one you attached) is a good idea. Another option would be including colored stones (like a birthstone or similar) within the design to take it away from the engagment ring style

Her birthstone is Diamond as she will be born in April. Unless I were to use one of the stones with my November birthstone, which is topaz.

 

[lovedogs]

Her birthstone is Diamond as she will be born in April. Unless I were to use one of the stones with my November birthstone, which is topaz.

I think April has a 2nd birthstone too (pearl, maybe?) I cant remember.

 

[OdetteOdile]

Her birthstone is Diamond as she will be born in April. Unless I were to use one of the stones with my November birthstone, which is topaz.

I just want to mention that she might arrive early, in which case she would have a different birthstone.

 

[anonahm]

I just want to mention that she might arrive early, in which case she would have a different birthstone.

True... hmmm, she is due the second week of April but if she is 2-3 weeks early that could change things. Maybe I should wait. I just love the idea of giving my wife something at the hospital.

 

[DutchJackie]

I don’t know if this is more of a European style, but my first serious ring was like these designs (slightly different, can’t find it exactly). More young people wore them and it’s not engagement like. Good luck with your search

 

[seaurchin]

Okay, I'm gonna play devil's advocate for a sec here. All JMHO of course but IF you're interested in broader suggestions (and if I understood all of your posts correctly in the first place), I feel like a ring for the mother to wear and then give to the daughter when she's old enough is a whole lot for one piece of jewelry to carry.

For ex., for myself, I couldn't see wanting to wear anything that would be suitable for a young girl or teen. Imo it would look like I was wearing children's jewelry or, later on, like she was wearing her mom's jewelry.

Jewelry is a nice gift unless it comes with an expectation of wearing it much when you didn't have any say in picking it out, even more so if it's expensive and/or laden with sentimental meaning to the giver.

Another thing to possibly consider about something you mentioned is that while some people might consider a young man in the future taking off a father's ring to replace it with an engagement ring charming, others might feel it kind of symbolizes the girl/woman being treated as chattel or that it has an uneasy romantic association. To be honest, I did cringe a little when I read about that so perhaps that's something else to consider.

Another idea is to break this down and just do the first step for now. That would be to get mom a "push present" that's for herself only (and also consider including her in what the gift is, if it's going to more than a token-ish amount of money and/ or if it will come with an expectation of her wearing frequently).

I did have a diamond baby ring that I adored and wore on a chain around my neck for many years. That's something that could also be passed down in the future. (Well, I lost mine, but in theory...) Just to toss another idea out there.

It's great that you want to do something so nice and that you are putting so much thought into it. Best wishes.

P.S. My "daughter" according to the ultrasound turned out to be a boy lol.

 

[tyty333]

I got the impression that it was a gift (not to wear) but for his wife to give to their daughter. I could be wrong. Its a bit confusing.

Ditto above...my daughter was Due April 10th and came March 17th. Surprise!

 

[AprilBaby]

As an April baby I started my love of diamonds as a child. Get a band ring. I would have worn it on my right hand and incorporated it into my wedding stack when I got older. Lovely idea of you to do this! My second choice would have been a pendant.

 

[RunningwithScissors]

I think a solitaire pendant would be lovely.

 

[Leigh10]

If I am understanding you correctly, you want to give your wife a gift that she will eventually give to your daughter?

If this is correct, you might want to re-consider. A gift to your wife is... hers. A gift to your daughter is... hers.

For your daughter (when she is older) or your wife now, I would suggest a diamond "stackable ring." BlueNile and others have lovely selections that fit your budget and intent.