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Brilliant_Rock
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It''s finally, truly, official...I''m engaged and our wedding date has changed from 7/7/07 to 2/17/07. Now for the explanation...
When I got my ring back in Dec 04, it was without an official proposal. He never asked me to "marry him". He just said he wanted to get me a ring because he wanted me to know that he saw me in his life and wanted to make it more "official" than it had been. However, the actual words: "Will you marry me?" never passed his lips. Of course, as most of you can understand, I wanted and needed those words to make it "real" for me and so we could set a date together. His reasons behind the non-proposal was he wasn''t ready for that final leap of faith yet (even longer story, suffice it to say we have both been down the married road before and he wanted to make sure he was ready and able to give me what I needed in a marriage. He made it clear it was never about wanting to be with me, it was a matter of him getting clear in his head and letting go of some old baggage/ideas that he had acquired about marriage from his previous experiences).
Well, I made it clear that I needed him to ask me properly, but in the meantime to prevent lengthy explanations/embarrassment that I hadn''t really been asked and secretly hoping the official proposal would come before that date, I told people the tentative date was 7/7/07. I really like the number 7 anyway, so I thought that was a great date to tell people. I never talked about it here because I felt embarrassed that I had the ring, but no proposal. (Isn''t it usually the other way around?
) and I didn''t want to look silly (although I guess I do now!!!
)
Anyway, this Friday we went to one of our favorite bar and grill''s after work. We were just sitting at a table talking and he took my hand, looked me in the eye and said Will you marry me? Well, of course, I was stunned. There was no forewarning and although it wasn''t elaborate, it was perfect!! I started tearing up and couldn''t say anything for a second or two. It''s amazing what thouse 4 little words can do to a girl! Of course I said yes!
Well, now that he is ready to go forward, I can''t stop him. He is the one that wanted to change the date, with the explanation that we always take short trips in the winter (we are not fans of winter/snow/cold) and this way we could take these trips and celebrate our anniversary at the same time! Plus I still get some 7''s in our date!
He is just a completely different person (as far as being married is concerned) now. It''s like all the blocks and walls that he had about that little piece of paper has fallen away and he is ready to take that final leap of faith with me!!!
I always felt like a bit of an imposter telling people I was engaged and I never felt like we were completely there, but now I can really enjoy and celebrate it!
Now I need ideas for a Caribbean wedding (which is where we want to get married).
Just wanted to share my little slice of happiness.
(Thanks for "listening" to my ramblings!)
When I got my ring back in Dec 04, it was without an official proposal. He never asked me to "marry him". He just said he wanted to get me a ring because he wanted me to know that he saw me in his life and wanted to make it more "official" than it had been. However, the actual words: "Will you marry me?" never passed his lips. Of course, as most of you can understand, I wanted and needed those words to make it "real" for me and so we could set a date together. His reasons behind the non-proposal was he wasn''t ready for that final leap of faith yet (even longer story, suffice it to say we have both been down the married road before and he wanted to make sure he was ready and able to give me what I needed in a marriage. He made it clear it was never about wanting to be with me, it was a matter of him getting clear in his head and letting go of some old baggage/ideas that he had acquired about marriage from his previous experiences).
Well, I made it clear that I needed him to ask me properly, but in the meantime to prevent lengthy explanations/embarrassment that I hadn''t really been asked and secretly hoping the official proposal would come before that date, I told people the tentative date was 7/7/07. I really like the number 7 anyway, so I thought that was a great date to tell people. I never talked about it here because I felt embarrassed that I had the ring, but no proposal. (Isn''t it usually the other way around?
Anyway, this Friday we went to one of our favorite bar and grill''s after work. We were just sitting at a table talking and he took my hand, looked me in the eye and said Will you marry me? Well, of course, I was stunned. There was no forewarning and although it wasn''t elaborate, it was perfect!! I started tearing up and couldn''t say anything for a second or two. It''s amazing what thouse 4 little words can do to a girl! Of course I said yes!
Well, now that he is ready to go forward, I can''t stop him. He is the one that wanted to change the date, with the explanation that we always take short trips in the winter (we are not fans of winter/snow/cold) and this way we could take these trips and celebrate our anniversary at the same time! Plus I still get some 7''s in our date!
I always felt like a bit of an imposter telling people I was engaged and I never felt like we were completely there, but now I can really enjoy and celebrate it!
Now I need ideas for a Caribbean wedding (which is where we want to get married).
Just wanted to share my little slice of happiness.
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