Did anyone NOT go on a honeymoon right after their wedding?

[glaucomflecken]

Hi everyone

Well I am getting married in 2 days and instead of feeling happy today I have been feeling really sad because we had to postpone our honeymoon. My fiance moved for a new job to Washington DC in May and I stayed in Ohio to finish our wedding plans. We were so unsure of what the future would hold after the wedding with my job (its much more complicated for me to get a job) and when I would move, where we would live, etc, and we didnt want to prolong my move and starting a new job for long after the wedding. we decided at the time it would be better to wait til we were both moved and settled and working so then when we did go away we would be relaxed.

Well things didnt work out to where I would be moving right away after the wedding. So we totally could have gone on a honeymoon right now since i dont have a job in DC to worry about starting. And I am so depressed about it. I havent had a vacation in 3 years. Its sad for me to have this big hoopla wedding we have looked forward to for so long, and then its back to work on Tuesday (and back to looking for a job, etc).

We plan to go next year on our "honeymoon" but it wont be the same. At least to me it wont.

Did anyone here postpone their honeymoon? When you went, did it still FEEL like a honeymoon or did it just feel like any old vacation?

i guess i''m just putting on a hat to my own pity party here!!!

 

[FireGoddess]

We postponed our honeymoon for two reasons: (a) financial, and (b) most of my side came in from out of town and I wanted to spend a few days with them after they had traveled so far. It''s been 2 years and we haven''t taken our honeymoon yet, but it is planned for the spring. I''ll let you know if it feels like our honeymoon, or just another vacation, but since we haven''t taken any big vacations, I''m sure it will feel like a honeymoon. The trick is to TREAT it like one and be romantic and appreciative of one another.

I do highly recommend having SOME form of getaway asap...because after all that wedding stress, you NEED to at least chill in SOME manner - even to drive away to a bed n breakfast or SOMETHING for a mini getaway.

 

[cinnabar]

We didn''t have a honeymoon till 6 months after our wedding. My husband took all his annual leave in coming over to Britain for the whole of December, in order to fulfil the residency requirements and to spend Christmas with his family. We had to wait until his company''s year-end, which was April, before he could take any more time off. Then we picked mid-June in order to fit with his work commitments.

I was quite happy to postpone, because I didn''t want a January honeymoon; it really limits the options for destinations.

Lots of people we know have had winter weddings and summer honeymoons, for a variety of family and work reasons. If it suits you better, I wouldn''t worry about it.

 

[cinnabar]

Sorry, I didn''t answer your question about whether it feels like a honeymoon if it''s late.

Yes, it felt totally like a honeymoon, because we booked a honeymoon package, bridal suite room, and the hotel treated us like royalty. They said "Oh, you''re on your honeymoon! Congratulations!" when we checked in, and we got the champagne and flowers and everything.

If you do romantic honeymoony things, rather than treating it like an ordinary vacation yourselves, then hopefully it will feel like a honeymoon.

Congratulations on your forthcoming marriage, by the way!

 

[Tybee]

Sweet PNP,
I am so sorry that you are sad. You deserve to be happy happy happy. Someone just posted recently about taking some time between the wedding and the honeymoon as being a great thing. I think she said that she and her husband were so wiped out after the wedding that they needed some recovery time. By the time they went on their honeymoon they were ready and excited for it!
I''m sure that you can find a silver lining, but I''m sorry for your disappointment.
Oh, look at it this way, you''ll have something lovely to look forward to!
Best of luck to you sweetheart. I hope you have an absolutely breathtakingly beautiful day!

 

[glaucomflecken]

Thank you girls!!! You are all right!!! Im feeling better after reading your posts. I need to stop feeling sorry and think of all the greatness ahead!!! It will be something more to look forward to! I guess I am just a whirlwind of emotions right now! I''ll be sure that when we go we make it "romantic" and not just like any old vacation!!!

Its just been so hard that my fiance and I have been apart for so long, and now after the wedding, I only have one day off to be with him, and then he goes back home, and I stay here and go back to work!!! So we will be seperated until I find a job out there (for financial reasons I cannot go there jobless!) which could be weeks to months!!! We werent able to get enough time off for a mini vacation, so I booked two nights at this romantic suite place (with fireplace, hot tub in the room, etc) so we could "get away" even though its only 5 minutes from home! LOL

it will be nice to finally be able to be together, once and for all!!!!

 

[Ms.Kat]

My brother and sister-in-law waited over two years to go on their honeymoon. They wanted to go away for three weeks and couldn''t afford it aroundwedding time. They had a blast! They still considered it honeymoon and weren''t disappointed at all.

My husband and I have been married over a year. We took a week off after the wedding, but didn''t go away. We are planning a trip for 2007 that we will call our "belated" honeymoon/anniversary trip.

I don''t think it matters if you can''t do it right away. You will be able to spread out the happiness of celebrating your marrige. When you think of your lifetime, a few months or even a year isn''t that long. You will have your dream wedding and your dream honeymoon a bit later. How lucky is that?

Best wishes!

 

[FireGoddess]

Date: 10/13/2005 9:06:21 PM
Author: PunchNPie75
so I booked two nights at this romantic suite place (with fireplace, hot tub in the room, etc) so we could ''get away'' even though its only 5 minutes from home! LOL

it will be nice to finally be able to be together, once and for all!!!!

Girlfriend, that''s all you need.

 

[Tybee]

If it helps at all,
most brides that I''ve heard from have been an emotional mess
before their wedding. Don''t worry about worrying, it''s natural.

 

[kanne]

Hi there

I''m so jealous that your wedding is two days away...I want to do it again!!!! So much fun. Anyway..if you can''t go away..I agree..try to give yourself a little rest period..even if it''s just a day or two away from everything..to de-stress.

I think waiting to go on your honeymoon is very romantic. Something to look forward to.

lovey

 

[MelissaSue]

I think we are doing our honeymoon right after the wedding, but we''re not sure yet. FIs job hasn''t given him a clear answer as to whether or not he''ll be able to get the time off (he won''t get any paid vacation until next fall, but since he works mostly on commission, he''s willing to take an unpaid vacation.. but we want to go to europe, so we need two weeks. which might be tricky).
Anyway.. I just wanted to say I''m sorry. So you not only don''t get to go on a honeymoon, but you are going to be living away from your new hubby for several more weeks?! Thats what I would be sad about!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Oh my Tacori sister don''t be sad. We are are planning on having our honeymoon a couple months after the wedding for three reasons.
1. his good friend is getting married the weekend after ours and I know he wants to go to the wedding.
2. we are probably going to be so tired after the wedding it will nice to be "refreshed" for the honeymoon and as an extra bonus have something else to look forward to.
3. we are getting married in Aug and he wants to go to an island so the longer we wait the better the weather (hopefully)

See...only good things come to those who wait. Good luck with the wedding! Post pics!

 

[Jelly]

Hey Punchnpie,

Have a great wedding. After seeing your engagement pictures, I know you''ll be the most beautiful bride!

A lot of people don''t go on their honeymoon right away. Spread out the fun over a year and enjoy your honeymoon/vacation later. You''ll have something wonderful and romantic to look forward to!

*removes your pity hat and replaces it with a party hat on your head*

 

[njc]

We didnt go on our honeymoon right away... it ended up being just a little over a month after the wedding but it still felt like a honeymoon. Having the time to get my life back in some kind of order after the wedding craziness was amazing. We got the present unwrapped and put away and i had a decent jump start on the thank yous. I highly recommend waiting at least a week to everyone! But agree with what the others have said--if you treat it like a honeymoon (bridal suites, when booking the reservation tell them its your honeymoon, etc), it will feel like a honeymoon!

I think your idea of booking the romantic hotel is PERFECT! We spent the sunday night after our wedding in downtown DC (20 min from our house) at The Mayflower and called it our "mini-moon"! It was so much fun and we got to play the just married, on our honeymoon game. DH splurged and got a suite (worth every penny!) and he also told them it was our honeymoon (they didnt know the difference!) so we got flowers and champagne... when we check in they called us Mr. and Mrs.! We hit up the bar for drinks and appetizers then went back to the suite and ordered dinner via room service!

It totally satisfied us for having to wait, plus we have a great place to come back and visit on anniversaries thats close to home!

Good luck this weekend! Relax, have a wonderful time and enjoy your mini-moon with your HUBBY!

 

[Rube]

Hey PnP!

My husband and I had only 2 days after our wedding to spend together (Sunday wedding, so not even a long weekend) and we ended up driving to a hotel not far from home. We booked a romantic package for two nights. It was wonderful just being quiet and able to unwind. Plus we got fresh champagne, strawberries and chocolate truffles every day, and breakfast delivered to our room.

It definitly felt like a mini-moon.

Whatever time you have will be wonderful... and sometime in the future you can spoil yourselves all over again with a longer honeymoon.

 

[abradabra]

Add me to the list of people with unconventional honeymoon plans...

Married in Sept., will be honeymooning over X-mas. To throw an even larger wrench in the mix, we invited our inlaws (gasp!) on it with us... Hubby''s family is paying for a 2.5 week Caribbean vacation over X-mas and New Years and they love the beach, so we just invited everyone to come. My parents won''t be able to make it, but we''re renting a 5 bedroom house with my in-laws, hubby''s sister, and some mutual friends.

Most people look at us funny when we tell them that, but it''s allowing us to go on a "honeymoon" for twice as long as a more traditional honeymoon during peak season in the Caribbean. We really enjoy our families, so having them come, in our opinion, doesn''t "limit" us/our fun.

Good luck tomorrow! I hope everything is goes off without a hitch...

 

[curlygirl]

We're not going on a real honeymoon right after the wedding. I think we'll be broke by then!!! We are just going to take few days and go down to Miami and the Keys. We're having a February wedding in NYC so it'll be nice to get to someplace warm to unwind for a few days!! We'll probably go on the real honeymoon a few months later--haven't even planned it yet. Don't be sad, you're not alone and there's nothing wrong with it!

 

[gingerBcookie]

We''ve booked a nice sutie downtown for to nights to relax and are uncertain about the honeymoon just yet...with the new house, we kinda want to save a few bucks (to buy new furniture

) so we''ve discussed delaying the honeymoon a little bit until our finances recover from the weddign hit! BUt I love all the advice given here and knowing we''re not the only ones doing this!

 

[MINE!!]

We did.. we got married this summer and maybe are going on our honeymoon.. next summer...maybe. We did it because of two things as well... money and time. We just realized that it would be better if we waited. No big deal... You have many trips together ahead of you!!

However, I too recommend getting away. We go married on a Sat. and spent the night in a wonderful ittle B&B for 2 nights... It was wonderful. Do I think my honeymoon will feel like a honeymoon, you can bet you sciveys it will. I will just be able to have more fun because I will have a year to know my hubby even better. IT is amazing the things you learn about each other in a year.. regardless of how long you have been together. HUbby and I will have shared a few tears and worries and good times and laughs.. so our trip will be all the more meaningful.

 

[LollyBear]

Hi PNP,
My hubby and I aren''t going on our official honeymoon until Jan ''06 (just booked 2 wks ago-YAY) and I''m sure it will feel just as special as if we took it right away. Since I did all of the wedding planning practically solo (hubby was more of a hiderance than a help), it was a relief to not have a trip to plan on top of everything else. We did what we called a "mini-moon," 2 nts at a cute B&B with a private balcony and jacuzzi tub

. Throw in a play and a couple romantic dinners and it was just enough to tide us over.
The longer you wait, the more time you''ll have to plan the perfect trip. Now don''t let it worry you another second. Go enjoy your wedding and come back with pictures!!
HUGS,
Natalie

 

[selflove]

Good luck tomorrow!!!! Have a wondeful time at your wedding!!!!