Did/could you imagine it?

[captainmcgee]

Hi Ladies,

I have recently been discussing with my friends whether those who are now engaged/married saw their fiances proposing and asking LIW whether they can actually imagine it.

I thought this would be an interesting topic (hopefully it hasn't been discussed before.

Could you/do you see your SO proposing? I don't mean to do you visualise it rather I mean did/do you think he is capable?

Whenever I think about it, I just can't imagine my darling SO getting up the courage to do it.

Thoughts?

 

[lisalikessparkles]

cute thread!!!

I can't see him doing it haha.
Actually thats a lie.. I can.. I have to tell you the story now.

My SO and i have been friends for YEARS! really close friends.. and he was engaged once to someone else.
He rang me to tell me he was proposing and I never really thought it was a good idea (she didnt want kids and I cant imagine him not being a father) but he was so excited I didn't want to dampen it. He proposed underwater while scuba diving!!!. So original and fun and not involving me and blah.. but he's got it in him to do it.

Luckily he hadnt bought a ring and they werent together long enough to design and purchase one so I got off easily.

I kind of feel sorry for him becasuse we both love scuba diving and he's already used up one fun proposal, he has to come up with something totally original all over again.

I actually cannot see how it will happen in my head which I think is awesome. I want to be totally surprised!!
I'm so worried I won't cry. I cry about everything. I cry when people get engaged on TV. I cry every biggest loser episode. I cry all the time.. and I'm soooo scared I won't give him the big bawling reaction he'll be expecting.

 

[HopeDream]

Yes, I could imagine it beforehand because my FI is very brave and sweet.
By the time my FI proposed he knew I was going to say yes, so there was no pressure/uncertainty/nervousness. It was a really lovely proposal. The decision to get engaged was a mutual one and our lives had been merging together for some time, so it was more of a formality, and a time to celebrate our relationship.

 

[pancake]

Not really - but our situation was pretty different. Neither of us had ever had any strong feelings of wanting marriage (either individually or specifically to each other) and then when the idea suddenly planted, it happened really REALLY fast and it was essentially just a sudden joint decision - "let's get married!". Then we got the ring, THEN my partner decided he wanted to "do the proposal" even though it was in no way a surprise... I never imagined it, I guess because a) in the scheme of things, given the way that the decision-making had happened, it seemed unimportant, and b) I was caught up with organising our whirlwind elopement (which we set before the "proposal", from memory).

If I HAD given it some forethought, I think I probably would have been able to imagine him doing it (although not in the way he eventually did!) - he's just fantastic when it comes to little, whimsical, heartfelt things

 

[MayFlowers]

I can see him proposing. However, I know it will be very difficult for him and that he will be very nervous even though he knows my answer. He is not usually a romantic or "mushy" person. This is the one time that pretty much everything he says will be romantic...at least in my meaning of the term. I also know that he is nervous about the proposal not being "good" or impressive enough. I have tried to reassure him that I don't want the proposal story, I just want to be married to him.

 

[confusedaisy]

I can certain see him proposig. He's super mushy and romantic so I know it'll be something really unique to us and special.
Actually- it's funny that this question came up. Just this Weekend he told me he finally figured out how he would propose to me. He said he made a list of everything special to us and by the time he got to number 8 he knew he had it. Our ring is being made now and should be done sometime this week so I'm looking forward to seeing this super special surprise!!

 

[captainmcgee]

That's interesting that most of you could or can see your man proposing.

I think I must be in the minority. I just cannot imagine it at all, it seems just so impossible but then again he can be extremely romantic and cute but I guess I feel like he just gets so caught up in everything else that it is so far from his mind but then again you never know exactly what people are thinking I guess.

 

[maebelle]

I really really can't, and really don't want a big flowery proposal, and I can't see him doing it! I know he loves me and wants to get married, but we are just not mushy people. I don't think I could do it

 

[kateydid05]

We aren't mushy people either so I cannot imagine what he would do. Sometimes I think that he'll just slap the ring on the table and go "lets do this"! That's just how we are though. If he did anything elaborate I would wonder where my real boyfriend went.

 

[Nomsdeplume]

I can imagine it. I think he will be very nervous though because he is a planner and he will want it to go perfectly. I get butterflies just thinking about it.